Should Mumsnet have it's own middle class section ?

[hattie43]

Reading some of these threads turning nasty it's really apparent that people have such different lives there will never be common ground . Nor does there need to be but the insults are not nice.

A thread posted by someone asking a question , to some a reasonable question being jumped on by ' the poor ' as tone deaf means legitimate conversation has been drowned out .

Should Mumsnet be divided so
' middle classes 'can discuss things the poor don't relate to and likewise ' the poor ' can discuss their issues without ' tone deaf ' comments from people who aren't financially destitute ?

The other thing I don't get is why jump on a thread you don't like why not just scroll on by and join a discussion you do like . Being a hater is never going to resolve anything .

This would be carnage. The whole board would explode trying to define what middle class is and isn't before you got to any other posts.

Just have a smug topic. Then people like the one you are talking about can post there.

I'm not poor and I still thought the thread in question was tone deaf.

I don't think it should be split but people need to realise that there are millions of people on this forum with different backgrounds who all have the right to post. It's not just for "poor" people and all the this is tone deaf posters being dicks to people who they think aren't struggling is getting boring.

Define middle class. It used to be that 'working class' defined anyone who was forced to work for a living, unlike aristos or those who inherited wealth. So that's pretty much everyone then!

What’s poor though? Someone who only has £7 to last the week will be told they’ve got it good because someone else has £3 then someone in their overdraft will come on and complain about that only to be told by the next poster they’re privileged to have an overdraft. It’d be chaos.

Mumsnet already has a ridiculous amount of topics without adding any more.

Besides, this is the internet where you'll get people from all walks of life with all different experiences and opinions. It's the reason why most people log on to chat forums.

Trying to 'cleanse' topics and put everything into a box with a label is just silly. If people can't handle differences, the internet is not the place for them.

I don't know if using the class system would work. We're at least well off I suppose, in that the current situation isn't a worry in the slightest for us financially and probably never will be, however I'm still not okay with it and can't find the words to say how disappointed/angry I am with the government.
I've also rarely enjoyed being in the company of people who define themselves as upper/middle class, I often feel awkward and uneasy. 😬

Well, this thread isn’t going to go well, because who defines a group of people as ‘the poor’?!

OK then OP - interested to hear your definitions of who can post in the ‘middle class’ section, and who can post in ‘the poor’ section?

Or is it self-determining? Can’t be that, because you’ve just said that doesn’t work.

I’d like a board for the judgemental where we can judge freely and to our hearts content.
I don’t like all the faux non-judgement posts. Judgemental and proud here. I’ll also admit to snobbishness and also a fair amount of intolerance.
But I’m not sure if it should be in middle class or not. I have WC roots but am right up there in the aspirational Ocado shopping MC wildnerness now.

And anyway, arseholes will comment without reading the board anyway, just like those that post “are you in England?” on Craicnet

Everyone just needs to accept some people have different lives to them

No, mumsnet would implode with people trying to decide if they were middle class enough to post on it.

Ha ha ha

I think I know the thread you’re on about. It was quite tone deaf BUT I think the OP meant well.

The problem is the cost of living increases at the moment are going to bring out a hell of a lot of differences between peoples lives and you can’t really police how they talk about it.

Anyway, what if one middle class person is skint and takes issue with another middle class person who is not skint, posting about money and accuses them of being 'tone deaf'?

What are they going to say? "Get thee back to the pauper's topic and never darken this one again"?

Maybe not divided by class but yes I do sort of agree. I know the thread you're on about. I had the same thoughts as the OP.

The problem is the cost of living increases at the moment are going to bring out a hell of a lot of differences between peoples lives and you can’t really police how they talk about it.

But the good posters of MN will give it their best shot.

Yes

Middle class section
Working class section
Lower class section

And an upper class section that is password protected.

Would it not be easier if people didn't post in aibu all the time.

I don't know what thread people are referring to, but this is an unworkable suggestion.

I do wish there was a separate board for private education though. The education branch is somewhere where anyone with a query about state education feels alien and out of place at the moment.

You don’t think it’s good for middle class people to be reminded that there is life outside their own quinoa-bubble? Where the cost of living crisis is welcomed as a welcome mindfulness exercise when some people have to choose between eating and heating?

No.
People should be exposed to others who have different lives and opinions.
In real life most of us live in our little bubbles of sameness. Encountering a wide variety of different people is a good thing.

I'm not MC. I'm a grown up now, teenage mum who spent a good few years on benefits before going to uni and getting a decent job. I have never got bitter over those who have more than me. I really really don't understand this (seemingly new) attitude of being bitter about others being better off. I hated being broke and living on benefits, I sorted my shit out. If you don't want to be poor I really don't understand why, as an adult, you don't take responsibility for yourself and sort it out (obviously there are exceptions to this rule with disabilities ect) will probs have to name change now.

Regarding the thread you mention op. It is tone deaf and privileged in my opinion. Op should not be surprised at the responses she got. But no doubt she is, because seemingly it hadn't even occurred to her how crass her comments were.