BBQ etiquette (whose BU me or him)

[MrMrsJones]

Having a light hearted discussion about this afternoons BBQ. 18 family members coming

YANBU My world - over the period of the afternoon, we cook the food on the BBq, it doesn't really matter who takes a turn to help cook as long as someone is there. We cook say burgers and when they are ready, people come and get one or not, then say belly pork or sausages or a mixture of different things. We graze over the afternoon.

YABU His world - all food is cooked, put in the hostess trolley (it was his mums) then we all eat together.

So cast your vote

YANBU!!! He's bonkers

I would do the grazing all afternoon way, not the hostess trolley. But I like the idea of owing a hostess trolley!

You're both BU.

For that many people I would always do a big joint of something instead of faffing for hours over burgers and sausages- brisket, leg of lamb, beer can chickens etc. Can be eaten hot or cold for any latecomers and no one slaving over the bbq for hours.

Bbq burgers from a hostess trolley do sound particularly grim through.

Definitely your way. I think it would be really strange having food served from a hostess trolley at a BBQ.

Cook and eat as it's ready unless you have a double grill! Use the hostess trolley for help yourself g&ts!

I was invited to a BBQ once. Lovely. Turned up in my sitting outside clothes. Food all cooked and then the other women all went in the house to put really posh clothes on and we all sat down to dinner round a lovely dining table with more silverware than I've ever seen.

If I went to a BBQ and someone brought out a hostess trolley I'd question it big time. Very odd! Definitely your option

I'm in your world. I would make use of the hostess trolly though, not sure how but I like the idea of wheeling one about 🤣

Hostess trolley in the garden? In the garden!

Or is the BBQ in the dining room?

The hostess trolley is efficient in that the food is all ready, but I do like to see the food cooking on the bbq.

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I'm winning, as I knew I would...

Graze all day
Your husband is sooooooooo wrong, tell him off from me

Plus with cooking on the go, it gives people time to decide when they want x foods

@TwoLeftSocksWithHoles

Hostess trolley in the garden? In the garden!

Or is the BBQ in the dining room?

Could be on decking boards or section in the garden

YANBU. The lovely thing about a bbq is it relaxed and you can eat at your own pace. There is no pressure to formally eat together.

Yanbu. I cook meat a bit at a time, that way there’s no waste if people have had enough.

If you cook it all then a lot of cooked meat gets thrown out whereas the uncooked meat can go back in the fridge. Plus BBQ’s are meant to be casual. It’s a bbq not a soiree.

I had the chance to inherit a hostess trolley recently... but assumed it would probably only get used twice a year. Didn't consider BBQs! 😂

I fucking love you lot ❤️

He is admitting defeat and thanks you all for advice and changing his life 🤣🤣

Oh my god definitely your way!! Salads, nibbles, drinks available throughout.

Ahaha he gets many points for deferring to the wisdom of Mumsnet!

We have a smallish garden and a large dinning room with bifold doors which open up fully, so sort of outside and inside.

And it a small heat hostess trolley thing, I hate it but was his mum's 🙄

Hostess trolleys are a 70s affectation and just grim.

Did he watch a tv programme about BBQs before most people had done one in the UK in the 1960s or 70s sponsored by Hostess Trolley Inc then lived in a fallout shelter for 50 years, only to emerge and tell everyone they are doing things wrong?

Does he have firm opinions about other everyday activities that are amusingly distant from most people's reality?

Oh no, hostess trolleys are a great idea! I want one for Christmas this year (fingers crossed if I can find a nice one).

But not for a barbecue.

His way is extremely weird!