BBQ etiquette (whose BU me or him)

[MrMrsJones]

Having a light hearted discussion about this afternoons BBQ. 18 family members coming

YANBU My world - over the period of the afternoon, we cook the food on the BBq, it doesn't really matter who takes a turn to help cook as long as someone is there. We cook say burgers and when they are ready, people come and get one or not, then say belly pork or sausages or a mixture of different things. We graze over the afternoon.

YABU His world - all food is cooked, put in the hostess trolley (it was his mums) then we all eat together.

So cast your vote

Depends how many people there are I suppose, and/or how organised the host is and/or how feasible the set up is. I’ve never been at a bbq where there are hordes of people all waiting for choice morsels of food without everyone being catered to sufficiently...It’s also not ever been stressful for me as host or guest, and lots of chatting/drinking/eating/relaxing throughout has always been the case in my experience.

I have to say I really cannot imagine not having the capacity to eat plenty of food over the course of an afternoon/evening! It’s quite normal in some countries to do that...lots of courses over many hours - you just don’t stuff yourself full with the first thing and you have a little of everything (or more of fewer things, if you prefer).

But as with everything, there are clearly two camps on this and as long as there’s not too much overlap between the two everyone should hopefully be content and satisfied!

@MrMrsJones what did your DH think of your approach to it, having now experienced it (if it was the first time you’ve done it this way)?