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Beccylouuu · 2022-04-14T23:09:11+00:00

OH is going on a stag do to Benidorm in may, which is fine, he told me months ago but no exact dates. Told me the dates yesterday which were Friday to Monday but now today he said he’s going Friday to Tuesday (him and one other pal, the rest of the stag do are coming back Monday) because the flight back is cheaper Tuesday. I could tell he was lying so I checked the flights and they are the same price both days. I told him I’d checked and asked why he felt the need to lie, if he’d just said I’m staying an extra day I would’ve been ok with it but the lying really p****s me off!! He’s p****d off with me now because I checked the flights and didn’t just believe him. AIBU?

HELLITHURT · 15/04/2022 07:03

@AChocolateOrangeaday

As a PP has said you clearly don't trust him or else you wouldn't have checked.

My DH goes away fairly often and it would never occur to me to check the flight prices if he had told me that.

But then I trust my DH implicitly.

Well maybe OP trusted her husband implicitly until she realised he was telling a lie?

And, guess what, she's right so she can no longer trust him implicitly.

Why are you blaming OP for being right? She was right on this occasion.

Lots of people wouldn't have checked, sone because they don't want to know the truth, because they don't want to face it. You seem in Rhys camp, with your "but I would've have checked" attitude! Perhaps you should a bit more?

Suzi888 · 15/04/2022 07:07

@girlmom21

I can't believe people are actually claiming there's victim-blaming on this thread. There's no victim ffs. Stop exaggerating.

I don't understand the need for the stupid lie. Why did he lie?

^ This

Also clearly you don’t trust him, you wouldn’t have checked flights otherwise.

On his side he also has something to hide, cheaper flight BUT another night in the hotel not to mention food and drink. Maybe he wanted to stay longer, it’s a short trip. It doesn’t mean he’s planning on an extra night of sex with a random- if he works away surely he has opportunity in the U.K.

HELLITHURT · 15/04/2022 07:12

@girlmom21

I can't believe people are actually claiming there's victim-blaming on this thread. There's no victim ffs. Stop exaggerating.

I don't understand the need for the stupid lie. Why did he lie?

Not victim blaming, but the clearly you don't trust him is ridiculous! She trusted him until she realised he was lying, then called him out on it.

So if you realise because of whatever reason your partner is lying, you just ignore it, because you trust him?

I'm not saying he is staying in the hotel for nefarious reasons, but why not just tell the truth?

girlmom21 · 15/04/2022 07:15

@HELLITHURT I don't know why you're asking me questions about ignoring it when I've never said anything of the sort and asked why he'd lie

Thestagshead · 15/04/2022 07:17

Clearly he thought you would mind. Because he felt the need to lie and justify it to uou, and oddly for someone who didn’t mind you went and checked, which really isn’t the actions of someone who doesn’t mind…

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ExtraOnion · 15/04/2022 07:20

Flight prices are very changeable … they are based on demand. It could be that the Monday flight price went up, because the rest was of the party were booking on it,

Anyway - my husband has a going away in June .. I’ve not checked his flight prices, his flight times, what hotel he’s staying at, I’m not 100 % sure who’s going - he’s an adult, and I trust him to do the right thing.

LIZS · 15/04/2022 07:20

It is possible it was cheaper on the Tuesday at the time as process are not attic , but that would likely be offset by the additional accommodation cost. If you needed to check you don't trust him.

newbiename · 15/04/2022 07:21

@Beccylouuu flight prices change all the time

Beefcurtains79 · 15/04/2022 07:29

Even if the flights were cheaper he’d have to pay for another nights accommodation so that doesn’t make sense.
I can’t believe the weirdos on here trying to blame you for catching out your husband in a pretty obvious, piss poor lie!

Mummytobe93 · 15/04/2022 07:30

If my DH did this I’d also check the flights myself not to confirm what he’s saying but maybe find him a cheaper flight on Monday, as I’m more frequent flyer than he is.

And buying cheaper flight day later doesn’t really make much sense unless it’s a significant difference in price. You need to spend additional money anyway for one more night at the hotel and food & drink to keep you going to another day.

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HELLITHURT · 15/04/2022 07:33

@Mummytobe93

If my DH did this I’d also check the flights myself not to confirm what he’s saying but maybe find him a cheaper flight on Monday, as I’m more frequent flyer than he is.

And buying cheaper flight day later doesn’t really make much sense unless it’s a significant difference in price. You need to spend additional money anyway for one more night at the hotel and food & drink to keep you going to another day.

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Exactly, like it's going to be more cost effective t with the cost of the room, food, drink etc.

A liar and not a good one!

UnsuitableHat · 15/04/2022 07:35

Good for you, calling him out on his pointless lie. Hopefully he was just being daft, there’s no more to it than that and he’s now learned a lesson.

Shelby2010 · 15/04/2022 07:35

If you’re going on a 3 night trip then flying out on a different day can be cheaper. However saying that you’ve switched from a 3 night trip to a 4 night one to save money is such a bizarre idea that I would have thought anyone would be incredulous.

It’s irrelevant whether he thinks the OP would have minded - and there could be good reasons if she did object (eg childcare issues or the extra money coming out of family savings). Telling lies like this destroys relationships, and that’s not the OP’s fault.

gettingolderandgrumpy · 15/04/2022 07:38

But why check? He wanted another day why he can’t just say that I don’t know . Perhaps he felt he had to justify the extra day . I honestly don’t think it’s a big deal but I wouldn’t be checking up on the prices if a partner wanted a extra day. I wouldn’t make a big deal out if it unless he had to be back . Your right he didn’t have to lie but what you did was wrong too . I’m not sure why either of you are in this relationship sounds like hard work .

GeneLovesJezebel · 15/04/2022 07:41

How can you trust him when he has lied.

gettingolderandgrumpy · 15/04/2022 07:42

@Beefcurtains79

Even if the flights were cheaper he’d have to pay for another nights accommodation so that doesn’t make sense. I can’t believe the weirdos on here trying to blame you for catching out your husband in a pretty obvious, piss poor lie!

Sorry I’m one of those weirdos that doesn’t ever believe partner and goes out to catch him out . Nor does my partner ever feels he has to lie . Both are wrong and not the basis for a relationship imo .

kateg27 · 15/04/2022 07:43

You do know price of flights can very daily don't you?

Beefcurtains79 · 15/04/2022 07:45

This is the most bizarre thread ever. Someone tells you an obvious lie to your face, but if you dare question or challenge their bullshit, apparently you are to blame.
Is it shut up, never ask questions, do not listen to your instincts, and generally be a complete doormat day today or something?

M0RVEN · 15/04/2022 07:46

My ex lied about small things like this. I tried to ignore it, told myself it was trivial, not to get hung up on the small stuff, that I needed to trust him to make it work.

So I married him and has several kids with him. I gave up my career to look after our children 24/7 as he, like you OH @Beccylouuu, worked away a lot.

Turns out ( surprise surprise ) that he was lying about a lot of big things as well.

Like the other women he was shagging ( including his ex wife! ) , how much he earned and how much he was stashing away in an overseas bank account and his pension ). What he was doing on his many trips away from home, supposedly for work. What he was doing on his nights working late “ at the office “.

And many many other things.

He lied about everything all the time. Big things and small things. Some apparently for no reason. Just because it’s what he does and who he is.

He’s now lying his way through the divorce. He lies to his own solicitor. He’s paying her hundreds of pounds an hour to lie on his behalf and then hundreds of pounds more to sort it out when I can prove it’s a lie.

He lied to her about how much he earns so she sent letters on his behalf saying he was stopping child support. So I went to CMS and now he has to pay more than he did before plus arrears . Plus his lawyers bill.

Turns out that HMRC and CMS don’t believe his lies, unlike everyone else. What a shame.

His teenaged kids hate him, they are fed up with his lies and deception.

Don’t be like me @Beccylouuu. Don’t waste 20 years of your life with a liar.

HELLITHURT · 15/04/2022 07:46

@gettingolderandgrumpy

But why check? He wanted another day why he can’t just say that I don’t know . Perhaps he felt he had to justify the extra day . I honestly don’t think it’s a big deal but I wouldn’t be checking up on the prices if a partner wanted a extra day. I wouldn’t make a big deal out if it unless he had to be back . Your right he didn’t have to lie but what you did was wrong too . I’m not sure why either of you are in this relationship sounds like hard work .

The first question should surely be why lie?

WTF475878237NC · 15/04/2022 07:48

It's Good Wifeday is it? Just smile and nod knowing you're being lied to.

girlmom21 · 15/04/2022 07:50

@kateg27

You do know price of flights can very daily don't you?

You do know you can read the OP's posts and see he admitted to lying, don't you?

HELLITHURT · 15/04/2022 07:56

@kateg27

You do know price of flights can very daily don't you?

Yes she does which is why she checked abs then spoke to her DH, he admitted it was a lie.

Gardeningcreature · 15/04/2022 07:58

Proves just how many deluded women there are.
75% of men admit to cheating on their partners. There will be more who cheat they just don't admit it. Yet here we see women wearing blinkers, blaming the person who called out the liar. Bizzare.
As for all this "Prices may go up and down," so what?
If the op's dh had said; "Joe and I are staying an extra night as it's cheaper to fly back on the Tuesday. " Then when the op checked and the price was the same, if he wasn't lying he would have said, "Really, when I booked it was only £50, I'll show you the receipt." End of.
That's not what happened though.
The op caught her dh lying and that is an issue.