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Walked out of cinema mid movie

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distilledwater · 13/04/2022 22:06

Took my dd to see the secrets of dumbledore. Really didn't enjoy it, wasn't our thing and the cinema was boiling on top of that, I was burning up and so uncomfortable. Daughter agreed she wasn't enjoying the film so we walked out about 45 minutes into it (discreetly I hope). Both agreed once out that we had no idea what was going on, the storyline was difficult to follow.

Obviously we were home early and my husband was outraged (no exaggeration) that we had paid money to see a film and walked out mid way. He said it's rude and a waste of money and not teaching my dd anything Confused I think he's mad and considering this particular film is 2.5 hours long, I'd rather not sit and bear it.

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OP posts:
LadyPenelope68 · 14/04/2022 07:13

Your DH has a very strange attitude about it. Totally acceptable to walk out of a film you’re not enjoying, why would you not, it’s bizarre if you do stay. I’ve walked out in a film once (Witches of Eastwick) and I don’t see anything wrong in doing that.

334bu · 14/04/2022 07:16

I wish I could have walked out of Lala land, but unfortunately I was stuck right in the middle of a packed row, and didn't have the guts to disturb them. That was a couple of hours of my life truly wasted.

speakout · 14/04/2022 07:18

To me it's about teach your kids to stick with things .

Tenacity is certainly a virtue, but so is having the open attitude to try lots of different life experiences, knowing that one trip or visit does not mean months or years of commitment.
As an adult I am sill open to trying new things, I would certainly be hesitant if I thought I couldn't just try things out without a huge obligation.
In recent years I have tried zumba- two left feet, body combat- I felt very silly, watching classical ballet- very dull, barista coffee- a con in my view, journailng- so not for me.
I have however started a daily yoga class and still going strong after two years, taken up photography and working with clay, developed a love of watching contemporary ballet and daily meditation.
I don't consider the first attemps at other activities as failures, quite the opposite, they have sharpened my understanding of myself, my strengths and weaknesses and thrown up other possibilities.

It's a balance with children, they do need to learn the gains of a long term approach, but I wouldn't want my kids to feel so obligated that they stay for years in a job they hate or in a marriage that is not good for them.

speakout · 14/04/2022 07:19

334bu
I wish I could have walked out of Lala land, but unfortunately I was stuck right in the middle of a packed row, and didn't have the guts to disturb them. That was a couple of hours of my life truly wasted.

What if you had needed the toilet? Would you have sat in discomfort?

LittleDiaries · 14/04/2022 07:19

I'm taking DS to see this today. We have seen the previous two, although I didn't particularly enjoy them. It is not filling me with confidence that I'm going to enjoy this one Hmm. DS is desperate to see it. He's a massive Harry Potter fan so is very invested in the story. It's going to be a very long 2.5 hours for me I suspect.

334bu · 14/04/2022 07:24

What if you had needed the toilet? Would you have sat in discomfort?

You are right, I should have had the courage of my convictions and just got up and left. Still a total turkey of a film and how it got an Oscar nomination is beyond me.

Vampirethriller · 14/04/2022 07:25

I've walked out of films before if I wasn't enjoying them. I don't think it's rude at all. I think sitting and watching something you're really not enjoying is pointless.

speakout · 14/04/2022 07:25

334bu
If you had stood up and left- who would even know that you were leaving or going to the loo?

phoenixrosehere · 14/04/2022 07:26

YANBU to leave.

Saying that, I would have been annoyed if DH came home early instead of staying out and doing something else if I had the house to myself, a rarity.

Justleaveitblankthen · 14/04/2022 07:27

My immediate thought was that he wanted some alone time and you spoiled his peace. Was he at home when you both trooped back?
I'm totally projecting here because my alone time is sacrosanct and I am not happy if it gets cut short Grin

Kanaloa · 14/04/2022 07:29

@rwalker

To me it's about teach your kids to stick with things .
I teach my kids to stick with important things. So before my daughter signed up for ballet I explained (and still do each term) that it’s paid for and expensive, and so it’s not a thing to take on then quit when you can’t be bothered. Same with things like school work - I teach them to stick with it, try again, fail again, fail better etc.

But the third Harry Potter spin-off? Why would I teach them to stick with that? They’ve wasted a cinema ticket price and seen part of a film they disliked. There’s no benefit to sticking out the last half.

DysonSphere · 14/04/2022 07:35

I'll walk out of any movie I don't like. Unfortunately if you're with someone whose enjoying it then you are rude to leave and have to endure:

I walked out of Charlies Angels 2
One of the Tomb Raiders.. 2 I think
The Ladykillers reboot with Tom hanks.....walked out the quickest within about 25 minutes

Wish I had walked out of:

Seven - hated it right till the end
The third batman installment with Christian Bale
12 Monkeys

Time is more precious than money, your husband maybe thinks you wasted money but it's not logical to sit watching a movie you hate.

Mustardmusings · 14/04/2022 07:36

I’ve left a couple of films before and if they’re on the telly I often don’t make it to the end. I’m not a huge film fan so I have to really enjoy it to be able to watch it all. I’ve given up on books before. Fortunately I’ve managed to stick at other things in life!

balalake · 14/04/2022 07:38

If it is a one-off and you left quietly, no issue and your DH was over the top. The point about not giving up and sticking at things is valid, but probably not applicable in this case.

disconnected101 · 14/04/2022 07:38

I walked out of a movie once because it was so utterly utterly shit.
I had wasted my money but staying would have wasted more of my time.

ExplodingElephants · 14/04/2022 07:39

@distilledwater OMG, it’s so awful!! The best thing about it was the recliner seats in the cinema and the maltesers. We should have left but DH is a Harry Potter nut and was hoping that it would get better. Worst film ever.

Fullofhotcrossbuns · 14/04/2022 07:44

We have stopped going to the Cinema now

For some reason people seem to have the idea that they can sit and chat through a film, use their phone, put their foot up on the back of your chair , attend with Covid but the worse thing is people book seats next to you in a empty Cinema.

Why ?

Afewgoodpens · 14/04/2022 07:45

The People who things rude, who do you think it’s being rude to?
I doubt the staff care, other cinema goers won’t care

Thesefeetaremadeforwalking · 14/04/2022 07:54

I don't get this at all. Confused

If you have a book that you aren't enjoying reading then you stop and either take it to the charity shop or back to the library.

If you are served a meal you don't like then you don't finish it.

If you are on a blind date and the guy is rude or inappropriate - you walk out.

I have done all these and also walked out of 'Bonfire of the Vanities', Cape Fear' (remake) and 'Dead Ringers'.

Afewgoodpens · 14/04/2022 07:58

Think ,not things

Maybebabyno2 · 14/04/2022 07:58

Walked out of Bad Santa, got taken out of 8 Mile after my mum and friends mum realised what it was about, the first sex scene and our viewing experience was over.

Wish inhad walked out of into the woods but thought friends were enjoying it. They hated it too, worst film on this planet.

Celticdawn5 · 14/04/2022 08:05

I wish I had walked out of Le Week-end …….
I’ll never get that time back……

JinglingHellsBells · 14/04/2022 08:06

Is it also rude to switch TV channels mid-programme, even though you have paid your licence or subscription to Netflix et?

Same logic.

yellowsuninthesky · 14/04/2022 08:07

To me it's about teach your kids to stick with things

If I thought a film was rubbish I wouldn't stick with it for the sake of making a point to the kids.

I suppose if they had nagged you about doing something, and you didn't think it was for them, but took them anyway and then they started whining they didn't like it and wanted to leave you might want to make a point. But 2.5 hours is a long time.

I think some MNers (and the OP's DH) need to lighten up.

yellowsuninthesky · 14/04/2022 08:07

@JinglingHellsBells

Is it also rude to switch TV channels mid-programme, even though you have paid your licence or subscription to Netflix et?

Same logic.

I thought exactly the same!
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