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Walked out of cinema mid movie

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distilledwater · 13/04/2022 22:06

Took my dd to see the secrets of dumbledore. Really didn't enjoy it, wasn't our thing and the cinema was boiling on top of that, I was burning up and so uncomfortable. Daughter agreed she wasn't enjoying the film so we walked out about 45 minutes into it (discreetly I hope). Both agreed once out that we had no idea what was going on, the storyline was difficult to follow.

Obviously we were home early and my husband was outraged (no exaggeration) that we had paid money to see a film and walked out mid way. He said it's rude and a waste of money and not teaching my dd anything Confused I think he's mad and considering this particular film is 2.5 hours long, I'd rather not sit and bear it.

AIBU?

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distilledwater · 13/04/2022 22:13

@elidelochanthefirst

Oh😆

Well I wouldn't go to see the third movie in a trilogy without seeing the other two.

If it was me, I'd be worrying your daughter was enjoying it but she felt like you weren't so she agreed to leave when she didn't want to.

I didn't even know it was part of a trilogy Blush I think my daughter had just seen it advertised and thought it looked good without realising then both sitting there like umm this is boring. Nothing bad to the film, obviously our mistake thought.
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AledsiPad · 13/04/2022 22:14

I mean, life is absolutely too short to sit through something you don't enjoy. But... at the same time, who on earth goes to see the third film in a trilogy without at least trying the first and second beforehand? That's quite strange, OP.

adarkwhisperinthewoodwasheard · 13/04/2022 22:14

One of the most liberating moments when I was younger was the first time I walked out of a shit movie at the cinema. The realisation that I didn't need to waste any more of my life watching it and was free to leave any time I chose was amazing - a much better feeling than the boredom of the film.

So YANBU (although I also took DCs to see the same film as you today and we enjoyed it)

HerRoyalNotness · 13/04/2022 22:14

I’ve walked out of Boring movies before. Didn’t want to waste any more time on it

user1471443411 · 13/04/2022 22:14

I don't know why this is rude, if no one you are with is enjoying the film. I've walked out as a teenager; never go now. Can't remember the film but it was early 90s, something about an airforce pilot - it was SO BORING.

elidelochanthefirst · 13/04/2022 22:15

Ohh maybe my comment was incorrect then. When I was a kid (and even now) if my mum isn't interested in something she really makes me feel uncomfortable so we end up having to stop it or she makes it known she isn't interested so I would always just say I wasn't enjoying it as I knew she wanted to leave.

Think I'm projecting Blush

toastofthetown · 13/04/2022 22:15

The money's a sunk cost at that point, and I don't see how it's rude (unless you are walking out of a private screening being hosted by the filmmakers). My partner said that it was testament to his love for me that he didn't walk out of Cats after fifteen minutes.

NeedleNoodle3 · 13/04/2022 22:15

Don’t blame you, I wish I’d walked out of the first one, I had a couple of naps instead.

Justkeeppedaling · 13/04/2022 22:16

Some friends and I walked out of The Vagina Monologues in a theatre once. It was truly awful.

SquirrelFan · 13/04/2022 22:16

@FangsForTheMemory I liked Clerks! Walked out of Natural Born Killers and Mars Attacks, though. Rubbishy tripe.

I agree with pps--you are fully entitled to walk out of any film at any time. If you bought a dress online and it didn't fit, would he make you wear it?

Needcoffeecoffeecoffee · 13/04/2022 22:17

You definitely need to have watched the first two it would have made much more sense
But it wasnt rude to walk out -unless you left people you went with still sitting there or made them leave something they enjoyed.
Its much rude to stay and either talk through it or be on your phone Hmm so if I was in the cinema with you I would prefer you to leave than do that

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distilledwater · 13/04/2022 22:17

@elidelochanthefirst

Ohh maybe my comment was incorrect then. When I was a kid (and even now) if my mum isn't interested in something she really makes me feel uncomfortable so we end up having to stop it or she makes it known she isn't interested so I would always just say I wasn't enjoying it as I knew she wanted to leave.

Think I'm projecting Blush

Oh no she definitely wasn't enjoying it and was very relieved when I said we could leave. If she'd been enjoying it I would have obviously sucked it up and she'd of been none the wiser
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BeforeGodAndAllTheFish · 13/04/2022 22:17

@distilledwater

It isnt part of a trilogy. There are going to be 5 of them. This was number 3.

The first 2 movies also had parts which didnt make much sense until you got to the end and things are explained.

How did you not realise this was the 3rd film? They're pretty well advertised.

manysummersago · 13/04/2022 22:18

Well … how did you and DD each communicate to the other you wanted to leave?

Because I think that’s a bit rude …

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distilledwater · 13/04/2022 22:18

@toastofthetown

The money's a sunk cost at that point, and I don't see how it's rude (unless you are walking out of a private screening being hosted by the filmmakers). My partner said that it was testament to his love for me that he didn't walk out of Cats after fifteen minutes.
Oh I hated cats, that was a film that I wanted to walk out of but my daughter was enjoying so endured.
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ivegotthisyeah · 13/04/2022 22:18

Don't blame you it's 2&1/2 hours I ain't getting back 🤣 kids enjoyed it though I didn't have a clue what was going on and fell asleep 🤫

CinstonWhurchill · 13/04/2022 22:20

Was your husband just annoyed you simply cut short his " alone" time?

SocksAndTheCity · 13/04/2022 22:20

The only possible way this would be rude is if you left in such an ostentious way it disturbed or spoilt the film for the other people there who might have been enjoying it.

I've walked out of more films than I can remember, and for a multitude of reasons - most recently was the first film in an allnighter that I'd been looking forward to for weeks but I suddenly felt unwell about an hour in and realised I wouldn't be able to make it until the end.

The last film I walked out of because it was such unmitigated shite was Free Guy, but it was a mystery film and I wouldn't have gone had I known what it was. The idea that it's rude to do so is absolutely bizarre.

lisaandalan · 13/04/2022 22:20

Ignore him. X

MangyInseam · 13/04/2022 22:20

I don't think it's rude unless it disturbs other viewers which seems unlikely.

It's not really a waste either, you've paid the sunk cost so all that you can waste after that is your time.

It's always possible a film could get better if you stick it out, that might be the only thing that would make me hesitate. The one film I walked out of though was Eyes Wide Shut and I wished I'd left earlier. I also wished I hadn't sat through The Blair WItch Project.

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distilledwater · 13/04/2022 22:20

@manysummersago

Well … how did you and DD each communicate to the other you wanted to leave?

Because I think that’s a bit rude …

Sometimes we communicate through blinks, so that's what we did in this situation.
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VariationsonaTheme · 13/04/2022 22:20

Only ever walked out of one movie - it was filmed on handheld cameras and made me violently ill.

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distilledwater · 13/04/2022 22:20

Reading these replies to husband, he knows he's being a dick now.

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distilledwater · 13/04/2022 22:21

@CinstonWhurchill

Was your husband just annoyed you simply cut short his " alone" time?
I wondered the same Grin
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dworky · 13/04/2022 22:21

How is it rude & why is he so angry about It?
Is he always bizarre?