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Walked out of cinema mid movie

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distilledwater · 13/04/2022 22:06

Took my dd to see the secrets of dumbledore. Really didn't enjoy it, wasn't our thing and the cinema was boiling on top of that, I was burning up and so uncomfortable. Daughter agreed she wasn't enjoying the film so we walked out about 45 minutes into it (discreetly I hope). Both agreed once out that we had no idea what was going on, the storyline was difficult to follow.

Obviously we were home early and my husband was outraged (no exaggeration) that we had paid money to see a film and walked out mid way. He said it's rude and a waste of money and not teaching my dd anything Confused I think he's mad and considering this particular film is 2.5 hours long, I'd rather not sit and bear it.

AIBU?

OP posts:
Wannabegreenfingers · 14/04/2022 05:25

It's weird to the the third film in a series without seeing the other two first.

toots111 · 14/04/2022 05:31

@Spidey66

I've done it once, several years ago. The Hunt for Red October. No disrespect to Sean Connery, he's good at what he does, just not my kind of genre. I was with 4 others, 3 of us left and went to the pub. It was the 2 left who really wanted to see it. I've not hated a film so much since, not one I've paid to see anyway, but I'd do it again if I was that bored.
Oh this is the same film I’ve walked out of. Do I know you?Grin
Alyssasbackrolls · 14/04/2022 05:32

I don't blame you. There's a trend these days for really feckin long movies and it sucks. We nearly left the latest bond for the same reason. Especially when there's the endless ads and trailers beforehand.

Cervinia · 14/04/2022 05:33

It’s fine, I wouldn’t even walk in through the doors of a cinema to see a Bond film.

torquewench · 14/04/2022 05:36

I've only ever walked out of one film that was utterly shite (Ace Ventura, Pet Detective) but blamed it on unsupervised kids in the audience (Showcase cinema, East Lancs Road) fighting/throwing food/generally being noisy gobshites and we got our money back.

Doggirl · 14/04/2022 05:45

T*hing is that I was pedalling the bike-powered amplifier, and I didn't want to draw that much attention that the sound going dead would have.

I totally want to know more about this…*

It literally was just that- the drive train of a bike hooked up directly to the amp. I moved in cyclist circles, so it didn't seem that weird, but come to think of it haven't seen one elsewhere.

Elderflower14 · 14/04/2022 05:45

I've walked out of films three times! First time was with friends watching Evil Dead 2. I walked before I was asked to leave as I was screaming...
Second time I was at a conference in Birmingham on my own. I went to see the remake of The Pink Panther and it was an insult to Peter Sellers memory.
Third time was the remake of True Grit in our village hall. Got very peed off as I couldn't understand Jeff Bridges mumbling I left at half time!!

JeffThePilot · 14/04/2022 05:46

I think anyone who goes to the cinema with someone else should agree some sort of gesture to indicate “shall we leave?” so there’s a chance people can be saved from being stuck watching desperate movies. This would’ve saved me from Reservoir Dogs, Swingers and Van Helsing.

It still wouldn’t have saved me from Mamma Mia, mind, as my mother in law bloody loved it.

HELLITHURT · 14/04/2022 05:54

@NotTheOW

How I'd it rude? It's not live theatre. Dumbledore can't see you.
GrinGrin

True this!

StopStartStop · 14/04/2022 05:56

Leave if you aren't enjoying it. Whatever it is.

Doggirl · 14/04/2022 05:57

I've just read Death of Grass. I quite enjoyed it.

The details are a bit hazy now because it was decades ago. I remember as a sciencey type the book's premise being intriguing and plausible. Unfortunately it then seemed to descend into 'hero man saves his family ', where the female characters had no agency or ability to do much for themselves and were there mainly for the males to do things to/ for.

BrizzleGuts · 14/04/2022 05:58

I don't think it was rude people leave to go to the toilet I wouldn't have noticed if they didn't come back. Who cares.
On the movie we are big fans if Harry potter and have seen all movies and related movies. This one was terrible. I haven't been a huge fan of the fantastic beasts series compared to the actual HP movies, but this was terrible and I've heard the same reviews from other fans after seeing this. So I'm not surprised it was bad enough for others to walk out of. We stuck it out but didn't care for it.

IamtheDevilsAvocado · 14/04/2022 06:02

This...

Just teaching your child to assertiveness /boundaries m

Hopefully she'll not becoming a people pleaser (like so many women/me!)

Changeee1546789 · 14/04/2022 06:30

You taught your daughter a very valuable early life lesson about sunk costs OP Cake

SchadenfreudePersonified · 14/04/2022 06:31

@Duracellbunnywannabe

You taught your daughter that she doesn’t need to keep doing something if it isn’t what she expected/isn’t enjoying it. Judging by the relationship board this is something every girl/women definitely needs to learn but many haven’t.
THIS ^

Our time is a precious commodity - we don't value it enough.

The day I realised that I didn't have to trudge through a book I wasn't enjoying was a revelation.

What benefit would the two of you have gained from spending another hour+ bored out of your skull? None!

Unless you've only gone into the cinema to get out of the rain, just leave. Life's too short

SchadenfreudePersonified · 14/04/2022 06:32

@Changeee1546789

You taught your daughter a very valuable early life lesson about sunk costs OP Cake
Yep - I was thinking that, too.

DOesn't matter what you've invested - time, money, emotion - if you're getting nothing back, walk away.

Robin843 · 14/04/2022 06:33

YANBU. Does your DH know the actors can't see you? Grin

I went to see a play with real actors in a proper theatre, and when the time came for the interval one man in the audience stood up and shouted "absolute rubbish!". Quite a few people didn't return for the second half. It was rubbish tbf, but I did feel embarrassed for the actors.

mogsrus · 14/04/2022 06:36

You would have done the same thing if one of you were taken Ill or whatever, , not the crime of the century is it, if you don’t like the movie for whatever reason,leave, I can assure you 100% not one person was bothered, having seen it happen many times, he is being absolutely stupid saying it was rude. Ask him to clarify who too!

speakout · 14/04/2022 06:37

I too think you taught your DD a valuable lesson.
And it is about sunk costs.

My mother is a bit like this- she will force herself to eat a stale cake even when she is not enjoying it, and it's not a food that will benefit her. But she paid.
But in that case there is the issue of food waste, but in walkig out of the cinema nothing is lost.

Caramelcap · 14/04/2022 06:39

Agree - thought it was crap. My son did too... wish we had walked out tbh 😂

actiongirl1978 · 14/04/2022 06:49

I walked out of a musical with DD last year. It was awful. Neither of us were enjoying it so we went home.

DS didn't like the opening of a movie last year. I took him out and DH stayed to watch.

C'est la vie.

I also don't finish books I don't like.

TenoringBehind · 14/04/2022 06:56

YANBU

Life is too short to waste sitting through a film you’re not enjoying. Do something better instead. It would be different if it was a play that a close friend or relative was in. You’re not upsetting anyone’s feelings by going.

Did your early return stop dh from something he’d planned to do with the house to himself?!

OctopusSay · 14/04/2022 07:03

I have a friend who makes her living as a film and TV actress. She regularly walks out of films if she thinks they're a waste of her time.

What we're DH's plans for the time you were away. Is that the real issue?

rwalker · 14/04/2022 07:07

To me it's about teach your kids to stick with things .

TenThousandSpoons · 14/04/2022 07:12

I found the second one quite hard to follow despite having watched the first and being a massive Harry Potter fan. I’m going to re-watch both before I go to see the third. I also find them quite scary in parts - thought you were going to say dd was scared. But either way YANBU to walk out of a film neither of you were enjoying and DH sounds a bit odd in his response to it.