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Husband screaming and swearing at the football

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Santandave · 13/04/2022 22:03

My husbands fave team are playing, he is screaming and swearing at the tv, my 15 year old has her friends sleeping over, I just texted him from upstairs saying “you are REALLY loud” and he replied “so? It’s my house” I’m disgusted at his attitude, my poor daughter! They are watching a film really loudly but I can’t imagine they can’t hear him! He’s dropped the c bomb about 5 times I’m so embarrassed. I’ve spoken to him before about how emotional he gets watching football and his general outbursts of temper (if someone drops a cup or we forget to put the bin out he totally angrily overreacts) I don’t think this is normal, am I wrong? Am I being unreasonable?

OP posts:
billy1966 · 14/04/2022 21:36

@ilovesooty

Ring Women's Aid for support

Because he gets worked up watching a football match?

Because he is an angry man that gets angry at the smallest thing.

Because the OP has stated its an issue.

Have you literacy issues?
The OP has been very clear that he is a vulgar swearing angry man who is set off very easily.
It's all there in the OP's posting.

So if the OP would like clarification and support about exactly what she is dealing with, Women's aid would be great to give her support.

I hope that explains it for you.🙄

ilovesooty · 14/04/2022 21:57

No I don't have literacy issues.
The insults are unnecessary.
Your previous post indicated that the OP should contact Women's Aid purely on the basis of the football behaviour. If you thought his all round behaviour justified such a move you should have been more explicit.
I'm not going to sink to the insult you used - I've seen your posts before and I know it's not worth it.

user1471538283 · 14/04/2022 22:21

My bf and DS get in a right state when the football is on and often have sore throats from shouting. They do not use obscene language though. I laugh myself hoarse while saying "it is only a game". Men and football ...

billy1966 · 14/04/2022 23:19

@ilovesooty

No I don't have literacy issues. The insults are unnecessary. Your previous post indicated that the OP should contact Women's Aid purely on the basis of the football behaviour. If you thought his all round behaviour justified such a move you should have been more explicit. I'm not going to sink to the insult you used - I've seen your posts before and I know it's not worth it.
My post is not responding JUST to his foul language. My post is responding to the OP's posts.

Her husband is a bully who is trigger aggressive to any normal family life.

That is what it reads like to me from reading her posts.

He also uses foul language.

The OP is very clear in her description of her husbands behaviour.

Foul language and angry behaviour at the slightest irritation.

The OP should contact Women's aid for support.

Women's aid offer a listening ear to women who need support.

Posts like yours undermine women that are seeking support for aggressive behaviour.

Post like yours try to normalise abusive behaviour that women like me encourage abused women to report.

Post like yours try to belittle organisations that are out there to support women in abusive relationships, that need advice and direction to help them.

Women's aid are there to offer a listening ear and support to women who are confused about the behaviour they are tolerating.

Any woman who is confused about the behaviour they are subject to in a relationship, can get great advice and support from Women's aid and the end of a phone.

Post like yours do nothing but try to dismiss women who need to reach out for support.

ilovesooty · 14/04/2022 23:32

Still throwing insults and interpreting something I didn't say.

As I said : I've seen your posts before. On that basis I see no need to debate with you. It isn't worth my time.

Momicrone · 14/04/2022 23:39

Sport is basically a religion for some people, it's hard to understand if you don't have a belief. I don't get it at all.

Momicrone · 14/04/2022 23:40

And both cause so much pain

dissertationhell · 14/04/2022 23:48

I cringe so much at men that react that way to well...anything, but particularly football. My friends partner does it and she just laughs but I cringe whenever she tells me about it.

Minatrina · 15/04/2022 06:50

@AndAsIfByMagic

It's pathetic to get so worked up over a game. He needs to grow up.
This is also my unpopular opinion - even worse is grown men getting angry about video games
Samssocks · 15/04/2022 06:57

My next door neighbour shouts and screams at the telly for horse racing, football and some other sports. His wife assures me it's at the telly and not domestic violence and jokes that she's not being murdered,. It sounds awful and gives me the dreads in the oit of my stomach to hear it.

girlmom21 · 15/04/2022 07:22

@Momicrone

Sport is basically a religion for some people, it's hard to understand if you don't have a belief. I don't get it at all.
I've never known anyone call the vicar a cunt in church for picking the wrong hymn
LifesABotch · 15/04/2022 07:26

YANBU, vile and embarrassing. Poor you, and your DD.

MrsDThomas · 15/04/2022 08:39

Jeez there’s a lot os psychologists on this thread.

Let the man be. My lot (plus kids)are the same. Doesn’t make them violent and i don’t need to ring Women’s Aid nor the police.

It passes once the game is over.

girlmom21 · 15/04/2022 08:46

@MrsDThomas

Jeez there’s a lot os psychologists on this thread.

Let the man be. My lot (plus kids)are the same. Doesn’t make them violent and i don’t need to ring Women’s Aid nor the police.

It passes once the game is over.

It doesn't pass when the game is over in the OP's house. The man has a temper.
IamaBluebird · 15/04/2022 09:15

I think the Ops husband would probably pour milk in his tea angrily. I’d be more annoyed about the temper loss over things like dropped cups, than the screaming at a football match on the tv.

ilovesooty · 15/04/2022 11:36

@IamaBluebird

I think the Ops husband would probably pour milk in his tea angrily. I’d be more annoyed about the temper loss over things like dropped cups, than the screaming at a football match on the tv.
I agree with that.
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