To report myself to social services?

[Kddie]

My daughter (4) has recently started refusing baths. Point blank. Nothing I say will budge her and she has screaming tantrums if I even attempt. To the point that when I forced her to bath the other day, she writhed and threw herself around the bath so much she has ended up with scratches and bruises. I was trying to stop her from literally launching herself out of the bath! Guilt ridden doesn't even describe it.

Today was a new low. She got some chocolate in her hair, so it needed to be washed out. I tried to explain to her that I could wash her hair over the sink, if she really didn't want to go in the bath, she kicked off. I managed to get her hair wet before she really lost it. Kicking screaming and I had to do all I could to hold her still.

After we were done, I noticed she had some red marks and bruise like marks on her back from where I tried to hold her still. I didn't want to hurt her at all and I have been crying constantly since, she is happy and I have put some cream on it, but I feel truly awful and feel like I should report myself to social services.

@Kddie

Oh and someone else mentioned paddling pools, she loves them!

That was me maybe get a really small pool I mean rally small. Put it in your kitchen. And put just 1 bucketful or maybe 2 of water. Give her the toys she would normally have in a paddling pool. And just let her play In the water. That way shes playing and getting clean.

Could you use a small paddling pool? Fill with warm soapy water, swimsuit on if it helps & let her play in the water.

@TabithaTittlemouse

She seems so bright and clever

I can’t even be bothered

Except you can be bothered. You can be bothered to come on & be all Judgey to a mum beating herself up & upset.

Could you get a bath bomb kit & make them together & see if she wants to try a bath with them? You could get some tiny plastic toys to put in them so she has to look for them.