AIBU?
Being annoyed by friend judging name choices
87beck · 13/04/2022 11:50
Our second son was born a few weeks ago and we decided to name him Jack
My friend met him for the first time yesterday and decided to inform me that her DH has commented that if they ever have a boy, jack would've been the last name on their list as it's associated with bad behaved boys etc and it's just not "a cool name" & also said that my first boys name isn't cool and why do we go for such simplistic names ..?
It might just be the postpartum hormones but I'm soooo angry she decided to share this with me .. wtf !
I Didn't say anything but my DH said next time he will see them he will mention the unnecessary comment.
I would never judge anyone's name choices so I'm super angry that behind close doors they bitch about my boys names 🥲 not in a rush to meet up with her again
FairFuming · 13/04/2022 11:58
What she did is shitty. Hopefully she just wasn't thinking and said some really stupid things. But you're entitled to be upset.
Next time just tell her You don't give a flying fuck what her boyfriend thinks and if she's going to be so rude about your amazing new baby she can leave.
Congratulations on the birth of your son.
pepsirolla · 13/04/2022 12:00
Yanbu, what a nasty, needless thing to say! I would be reconsidering this "friendship" even if you don't agree with a baby's name choice,unless it's really out there it's unreasonable to say so. Btw I love the name and any I have met have always been lovely
What a nasty woman. 
10HailMarys · 13/04/2022 12:05
It is incredibly rude to sneer to someone's face about their children's names. Unless someone has just announced that they're intending to call their child Jimmy-Savile Hitler or Twatty Pants Fuckface or something, the polite thing to do is say 'Aw, lovely' and move on. Your friend is a dickhead.
FWIW I think Jack is a lovely name and also one that's quite dear to me for family reasons - I have a lovely, kind, thoughtful teenage relative called Jack and he was named that after an equally lovely and much-missed older family member :)
surlycurly · 13/04/2022 12:05
I'm a teacher and lots of Jacks a lovely boys- not badly behaved at all. And it could have been worse- the day I had my son I told my mum his name and asked if she like it and she said 'no, I hate it actually. It's unlucky'. That one has kind of stuck with me if I'm honest!
amusedbush · 13/04/2022 12:11
Why would she tell you that?? She can judge all she likes in the privacy of her own home (or better yet, inside her head!) but what the fuck was she hoping to achieve by telling you? It serves absolutely no purpose other than to upset you, which she must have known.
What an arsehole.
John nn. Jack is well-used in my family, spanning ages 10 - 90. It's a great name.
87beck · 13/04/2022 12:14
Thanks everyone for your lovely comments & reassurance that his name is perfectly normal 🙈 It really did get to me and made me wonder if we chose Boring & out of date names. But we love them & great to read that you all don't think it's a bad name choice.
Thank you
diddl · 13/04/2022 12:24
What a shit stirrer she is!
Tell your husband not to say anything-don't let them think that you've given their nasty comment any thought.
I can't help thinking that you'll just be labelled "sensitive/hormonal" or some such shit.
Congratulations on a newborn with a lovely name!
Sally872 · 13/04/2022 12:27
Lovely name choice.
I have no idea how your friend gets through any week without offending someone if she is so thoughtless. If not a close friend I would laugh it off and think about what else she says to people. If a closer friend I would mention it was rude.
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