Being annoyed by friend judging name choices
87beck · 13/04/2022 11:50
Our second son was born a few weeks ago and we decided to name him Jack
My friend met him for the first time yesterday and decided to inform me that her DH has commented that if they ever have a boy, jack would've been the last name on their list as it's associated with bad behaved boys etc and it's just not "a cool name" & also said that my first boys name isn't cool and why do we go for such simplistic names ..?
It might just be the postpartum hormones but I'm soooo angry she decided to share this with me .. wtf !
I Didn't say anything but my DH said next time he will see them he will mention the unnecessary comment.
I would never judge anyone's name choices so I'm super angry that behind close doors they bitch about my boys names 🥲 not in a rush to meet up with her again
Mumoblue · 23/04/2022 07:47
What a cow!
As a mum to a Jack, I couldn’t be happier with the name. As people have said, it’s a classic.
A friend of my ex-MIL ran into me while I was just about to pop with my son and asked if we had a name yet. When I told her “Jack” she made a face and said “Well its very common isn’t it?”
Still makes me laugh to this day, I wish I’d been quick enough to say “Well, bitch, so am I!”
I can’t imagine my son being called anything else. And he’s not badly-behaved either, what a load of wank!
Mouk · 23/04/2022 07:35
What a bitch!
Congratulations on the birth of your son.
I love the name Jack. It was one of the names we considered for my son, but his Dad veto'd it. It was my grandads nickname. He was named John, but went by Jack.
Blaggertyjibbet · 23/04/2022 07:30
I think Jack is a nice name! My SIL made some really mean unsolicited comments about my kids’ names a few years ago. They are established and classic names, just not bestowed upon every other kid right now. You can’t win, OP. If you go simple, people judge. If you go less common, people judge.
UserError012345 · 23/04/2022 05:10
Jack is a fab name. I love classic names.
Congratulations on the birth of baby Jack
garlictwist · 23/04/2022 03:45
Some people pride themselves on being so above convention and oh so special that they couldn't possibly give their child a normal name.
Jack is a lovely name and your friend was rude.
phishy · 23/04/2022 03:31
ExplodingCarrots · 13/04/2022 14:31
Does she have children OP? She sounds awfully bitter and possibly jealous and this is her way of punishing you . No friend would say something like this unless something is going on with them.
Sunriseboy · 23/04/2022 02:08
Tell her to STFU!!!
Why do so many females make a career out of being "expert" busy-bodies?! They talk so much shit, gossip about, and shame others. Dear God, no wonder I've enjoyed the last 35 years on my own. No arguments. No hissy fits because I used a knife out of the kitchen draw to adjust a fuel sensor on the car. I can put something in "its place" and the bloody thing is exactly where I left it two years later. Heavenly existence.
I'm not a sodomite. But girls I don't want to be around you.
MrsTerryPratchett · 23/04/2022 01:54
Not RTFT but my granddad's name was Jack. One of the kindest, most compassionate, softest but hardest men I've ever met.
I bestow Jackness on your son. May he have all the lovely qualities of my lovely granddad and lots of lovely qualities of his own.
Vikinga · 23/04/2022 01:43
Bloody hell that's unbelievably rude! No name is going to be liked by everyone. Some people love unusual names, some people hate unusual names. Some people want names that can't be shortened etc.
If you have nothing nice to say about it don't comment!
Kite22 · 23/04/2022 01:16
Aside from the fact that I think Jack is a lovely name, and it certainly doesn't have any of those associations, she was being extremely rude.
YWBU not to call her out on that when she started being so rude.
YANBU to be annoyed with her.
safclass · 23/04/2022 01:07
I was an infant teacher for nearly 20yrs and had several Jacks through my class. I can honestly say ALL if them have been lovely lads, yes some were 'cheeky chappies' but none were unlikeable kids. I love the name. (2 teachers saying the same thing (pp) and we are REALLY fussy on naming children)
Nickpeacock36 · 23/04/2022 01:02
I’m boiling my blood! My son is called JACK and he is the kindest lad. Your ex mate if I saw her would get a big thump on the nose the rude rude nasty mean disgusting person. You be proud of the name jack it’s the most beautiful boys name a very strong and sturdy name.
I truly hope your ex friend has karma - absolute mean bixxh I would have throttled her in the spot
MrsDamonSalvatore · 22/04/2022 09:10
Your ‘friend’ is a rude cow. Jack is a perfectly good name, so I don’t know what she’s on about. Even if it was Ebeneezer-Adolf or something equally obscure, she’d be rude to slag it off. You say she’s known for making mean comments…why not call her out on it or just distance yourself from her bitchiness?
FabianaUteda · 22/04/2022 08:08
First I would say, Jack is a lovely name and it means "God is gracious". I even love the way it sounds, it doesn't feel negative, or "misbehaved" it just feels kind of musical.
Second I would suggest that if you go on to have another child and it is a girl, don't give her your "friend" name. It obviously means "badly behaved". Personally, I would've shown her the door and told her not to come back because I wouldn't want badly behaved and self-entitled people to be a negative influence on my children. And no. I am not postpartum hormone influenced, so I don't have that "excuse/justification". I am just a hot-blooded Latina that is very protective of those she loves and has no time for negative and jealous/envious people that haven't got any kind, or loving things to offer to others. I am also old, so maybe that is my "excuse/justification?.
Thumper's mum put it best;
"If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all"!!!!!
EV117 · 13/04/2022 21:02
For what it’s worth, Jack is a lovely timeless name - although I think that’s been made clear. But it could have been any name, even a genuinely ‘boring’ one, you’re friends comments would have still been really shit. I’d want nothing to do with a person who behaves that way.
TootsAtOwls · 13/04/2022 19:31
I bet she actually has Jack on her list of favourite names and she's trying to convince you not to use it so she'll be able to in future 😆
87beck · 13/04/2022 19:04
Thank you everyone! Making me love his name even more!
Yes she has a little girl with a very unusual not boring name & it really hurts me as even though her name choice wouldn't have made it to our list .. I've never said a bad thing about it.. not even thought anything negative .. so the thought of them two bitching about my childrens names makes my blood boil. I can imagine them laughing ..
She's known for making mean comments and thinking her way is the only way but I never paid too much attention as it was never directed at me.
Anyway thanks everyone! Hope you all have a lovely evening xx
Topseyt · 13/04/2022 17:52
This woman is not your friend. Back away from her and let the "friendship" die off. If she asks why then tell her bluntly.
There is nothing wrong with the name Jack. If we had had a boy then I might well have considered it. It is a strong, classic name that doesn't date.
Beautifulmonster87 · 13/04/2022 15:49
I love the name Jack.. have associated it with naughty boys but I don’t care and would have used it if my husbands ex step dad wasn’t called Jack who he hated!
My boy is called Samuel, Sammy for short… my dad said ‘oh good as I don’t like Samuel’ oh thanks… that’s his name ffs! People are bell ends sometimes. Rise above it.
BeaLola · 13/04/2022 15:36
Lovely name and congrats on baby
She is either thoughtless to repeat this or being nasty by deliberately saying it.
Tbh I haven't RTFT but does she have children ? If so what did he'd and her DH choose ?
Next time you see him I would thank him for his comments and that baby Jack doesn't care for his band either but is too polite to say !
Tillerman · 13/04/2022 15:29
It’s just a timeless name really like James or Oliver. I can’t see it going out of fashion, it’s a nice normal name. I don’t think it’s associated with naughty boys, Jackson maybe but not Jack on its own.
JustSaying101 · 13/04/2022 15:26
Is your friend generally quite a tactless person, or is this a new thing? Either way, it's not a nice thing to say - rise above and ignore. Wishing you all the best with your new arrival.
Nillynally · 13/04/2022 15:03
Jack's a lovely boys name! She's a twat. Ignore her.
Katela18 · 13/04/2022 15:00
My husband is called Jack.
Funnily enough, his mum says when he was born 30 years ago, she got lots of comments then too! Very strange as I always thought it was a fairly popular name.
For what it's worth, he's grown into the most loving, supportive husband, best dad and also very successful and driven in his career....far from these judgements around the name.
Enjoy your baby and ignore these comments, completely unnecessary.
Gonnabegrandma · 13/04/2022 14:49
Jack is my favourite boys name . Only couldn’t use it as Jack is part of my surname now . Ignore idiot rude friend . Enjoy your boys
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