Being annoyed by friend judging name choices
87beck · 13/04/2022 11:50
Our second son was born a few weeks ago and we decided to name him Jack
My friend met him for the first time yesterday and decided to inform me that her DH has commented that if they ever have a boy, jack would've been the last name on their list as it's associated with bad behaved boys etc and it's just not "a cool name" & also said that my first boys name isn't cool and why do we go for such simplistic names ..?
It might just be the postpartum hormones but I'm soooo angry she decided to share this with me .. wtf !
I Didn't say anything but my DH said next time he will see them he will mention the unnecessary comment.
I would never judge anyone's name choices so I'm super angry that behind close doors they bitch about my boys names 🥲 not in a rush to meet up with her again
whyayepetal · 13/04/2022 12:28
Jack is a great name OP - and congratulations on the birth of your second lovely DS.
It is a shame that your friend chose to be so incredibly rude and hurtful. I agree with you - I certainly wouldn’t be in a rush to meet up with her anytime soon.
Maisa45 · 13/04/2022 12:29
I love the name. It was on my list of boys names until I dated a a Jack. I had a friend say something similar about my DD's name. "Oh all the girls I know of that name are brats". I just ignored her.
MsTSwift · 13/04/2022 12:29
Reminds me of that line in the film Bridesmaids after a disastrous confrontation at a party “why can’t you just criticise me in the car on the way home like a normal person” 😁
Maisa45 · 13/04/2022 12:30
And yes your friend was very rude.
Charlavail · 13/04/2022 12:30
I love the name Jack. Wanted to call DS that after titanic and This Is Us but have a cousin with it so I couldn't.
PierresPotato · 13/04/2022 12:31
I wouldn't bring it up if I was your husband. Maybe you'll get further information down the line about troubles she has which may explain why your friend was so rude as a one off. Or maybe it is just who she is.
toomuchlaundry · 13/04/2022 12:32
Be grateful you are not having a child with her DH as he sounds awful (as does she)
jytdtysrht · 13/04/2022 12:33
How good a friend is she?
She was shockingly rude. Even if it was a crap name (which it isn’t - crap names aren’t baby name chart toppers!) it would still have been a completely ridiculous thing to say.
There are Jacks of all ages and all classes and therefore it fits in anywhere.
She sounds rude and thick. I’d consider phasing her out.
AllOfUsAreDead · 13/04/2022 12:33
She only goes for names that are 'cool'? Oh dear hipster mum to be. Hide your valuables when she has a kid, I imagine it will lack manners and just destroy things for fun.
Chaoslatte · 13/04/2022 12:34
She was weird and rude to say that. And I think Jack Kerouac was pretty cool!
lunar1 · 13/04/2022 12:36
She's not your friend. Friends don't deliberately say hurtful things to postpartum women.
It's a lovely name, just ignore her and reevaluate your friendship when you aren't sleep deprived.
1forAll74 · 13/04/2022 12:38
Unfortunately, there are a lot of people who have a tendency to make comments about some names, that people choose for their babies. They come up with reasons why they don't like a name, which is usually a stupid reason and nonsensical. You have to just ignore dumbo's.
Winter2020 · 13/04/2022 12:39
Jack is a lovely name. I have a nephew Jack - he is a lovely young man, doing great and we are very proud of him. Your friend was at best rude and at worst nasty. I wouldn’t be at all surprised if she was jealous of you for some reason and lashing out.
Apatosaurus20 · 13/04/2022 12:44
Lovely name! 👶🏼
Organictangerine · 13/04/2022 12:45
Haha what a bitter lemon, Jacks a lovely name. I would have just said, good thing he’s my son then because I think it’s lovely 🥰
Blueeyedgirl21 · 13/04/2022 12:46
It’s a lovely name and it’s having a bit of a resurgence I know a couple of baby Jacks!
Goatinthegarden · 13/04/2022 12:53
I’ve had friends and family give their children names that I don’t particularly like and I have smiled and said it was a lovely choice. Names are very personal decisions.
Jack is consistently in the top ten so it’s clearly a pretty solid choice.
Flickflak · 13/04/2022 13:02
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Brightrainbow · 13/04/2022 13:04
Jack is my sons middle name-I couldn’t use it as his first as his brother is a Joshua
It’s a good,solid,never going out of fashion,short,easy to spell name
(My own name is long-9 letters-and my parents went to hell trying to teach me how to spell it)
It’s a classic name and your friend is very bloody rude-ive heard some corkers in my time and the only thing you can do is smile and tell the parents it’s a beautiful name and they have perfect taste-oh and that he/she is gorgeous
pussycatunpickingcrossesagain · 13/04/2022 13:07
next time he will see them ...I wouldn't go out of my way to see either of them again. Tell your DH not to bother.
Friends, real friends, don't behave like that.
tcjotm · 13/04/2022 13:09
Exactly! If she hated it so much the correct response is to say “how lovely, and baby Jack is adorable!” and then bitch about it to someone else who doesn’t know poor OP.
OP. Jack is a great name. And now I’m dying to know what her twatty husbands name is so we can bag that 😂
Ohfgsnotagain · 13/04/2022 13:11
Your friend is being judgemental, bitchy and should keep ‘her’ opinion to herself. I think Jack is a lovely name. I’ve found most people shorten their names so Benjamin becomes Ben, Daniel becomes Dan, Theodore is Theo so a one syllable name is simple but in a nice way. I have two friends who chose one syllable names (Grace, Sam, Scott and Ben) because they didn’t want the names shortened!
WonderfulYou · 13/04/2022 13:17
She sounds jealous.
Jack is a lovely name and will never go out of ‘fashion’.
It’s also not boring as I think I have only ever one Jack in my entire life.
I do know a Jackson but they prefer to be called Jack as they think it’s cooler.
And this myth that certain names are associated with bad behaviour is BS and extremely prejudiced.
Gowithme · 13/04/2022 13:19
Well this article suggests she's completely wrong, Chloe and Jack are the most well behaved!
To be honest I'd put this down to her boyfriend knowing someone called Jack at school who he didn't like. They'll probably call their child something pretentious and believe wholeheartedly that it will make him an angel without any further effort required on their part.
cigarettesNalcohol · 13/04/2022 13:21
Well she didn't just bitch about your choice of names behind your back, she also tactlessly said it to your face. Either way it was out of order. How insensitive. I would be angry too and next time I'd tell her to keep her opinions to herself.
I love the name Jack.
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