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Table 8 CF

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HappyDays40 · 12/04/2022 13:53

Just stopped at Morrisons for a cheese toastie and sat down at table 8. A very unremarkable table not near a window or any interesting features of note. Sat happily drinking my brew waiting for my cheese toastie listening to a Podcast when CF lady walks over.
CF: error scuse me but I always sit here.
Me: Huh
CF: Yeh everyday at this time.
Me: okay well I was here first so....
CF: Are you gonna move.
Me: Errm now let me think ....... no.
Put my ear phones back in while she starts blethering on about the table. She even sort of place marked the table by placing two fingers on it.
I just keep shrugging pointing at other free tables and saying " sorry can't hear you". She slams he tray down on the next table and then sits there aaaaaallllll through eating staring and sort of making grouchy noises. WTAF can't stop giggling now but I didn't give her so much as a sideways glance brazened it out to the end then drank my tea slowly 😏. If ou fancy, leave an entitled CF story here they are never boring!

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RedWreck · 12/04/2022 13:55

Well done for not moving! A total CF.
I hope you enjoyed your toastie.

MintheMiddle · 12/04/2022 13:55

No comments as haven't came across much CF (thankfully!!) but glad you stood your ground!
I'd do the same too, fair enough if it was in a fantastic spot with scenery or a window (Grin)

Entitled git, enjoy your toastie!

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HappyDays40 · 12/04/2022 13:59

It was all the cheesier and all the nicer! I'm not the type of person who even minds sharing a table if space is limited.It was so funny 🤣 the brass neck of her!

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RedWreck · 12/04/2022 13:59

Just to add a CF older lady inched her way in front of me in a cafe queue last week, placemarked with a hand on the counter & sidled in!
I said I was in the queue, she replied she'd been queuing in the wrong place & figured she'd be in front of me if she'd queued in the right place to start with! There was nobody behind me, entitled CF at her best...

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HappyDays40 · 12/04/2022 14:01

I alwafeel the best responses to CF are to sort of pretend you don't want what they are saying or don't engage in it then watch them Blaze....ti's a beautiful thing.

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NowNowDermot · 12/04/2022 14:02

What did you say to that RedWreck?!! The nerve of some people!

CounsellorTroi · 12/04/2022 14:04

@RedWreck what did the fact she was older have to do with anything?

RedWreck · 12/04/2022 14:05

I very graciously told her to go ahead with a smile, she was quite cross, I think she had an argument prepared & didn't get a chance to use it!
She was quite rude to the counter staff who'd seen the whole thing too.

RedWreck · 12/04/2022 14:09

@CounsellorTroi, that didn't take long now did it. Calm down, I'm just adding description.
Sorry if that mortally offends you not

VainAbigail · 12/04/2022 14:16

@RedWreck

Next time just write “human” then no one will ever feel the unnecessary need to be offended again!

eye roll at Troi

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HappyDays40 · 12/04/2022 14:20

@RedWreck I do find the finger place marking very funny. People do it at a bar not in a supermarket......a hotbed of CF.

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Rockband · 12/04/2022 14:27

[quote VainAbigail]@RedWreck

Next time just write “human” then no one will ever feel the unnecessary need to be offended again!

eye roll at Troi[/quote]
Sounds offensive to me to just assume they identify as a human

www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-6269051/amp/My-partner-dog-transgender-man-identifies-canine.html

www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/human-pup-who-never-felt-14235958.amp

www.vice.com/amp/en/article/mvxgwa/from-dragons-to-foxes-the-otherkin-community-believes-you-can-be-whatever-you-want-to-be

www.vice.com/amp/en/article/yvwknv/what-does-it-mean-to-be-trans-species

IDontHaveAnOutingHobby · 12/04/2022 14:30

Was it possibly someone who is autistic?
Who cant manage change?
Who needs routine in their life?

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Curlygirl06 · 12/04/2022 14:36

I was queuing behind a lady who was older than me (I'm 61, that should please everyone!) who had about half a dozen things. She suddenly left the queue and went over to another till that was opening at the other end of the shop. However by the time she got there, two trolley loads had turned up. She stood there and huffed for a while, then came back to my queue and pushed in front of me. I politely said I'm next in the queue and had unpacked my shopping already, but she said in a most indignant tone that she'd been on our queue before me and should be allowed back in to her place.
I'm perfectly happy to let anyone through with a few bits before me but my inner mumsnetter came to the fore and I said no, as she had left the queue once so no. (And she was bloody entitled) If she'd asked nicely I'd have said yes, so she queued behind me shooting daggers at me and huffing.

Georgeskitchen · 12/04/2022 14:38

I love CF stories. Trying to pull some up from my memory bank 🤣

irishfarmer · 12/04/2022 14:39

CF!! Glad you didn't move. I'm sure I have plenty but none are coming to mind just now.

DrManhattan · 12/04/2022 14:42

I hope they were a CF and not someone with ASC or something like that.

Somethingsnappy · 12/04/2022 14:42

I'm always delighted to read a CF story where the poster stood their ground. The ones where the posters don't stick up for themselves at the time, make me wince in frustration and want to rewind the clock for them, with strict instructions of what to do.

MrsRobinsonsHandprints · 12/04/2022 14:48

I am about as anti be kind as possible, but in a situation as you describe you are not some hero standing up against an entitled cf. I would have moved, if their life was such that they needed to sit at a unremarkable table then the effort of me moving to one of the empties would be worth it.

That's not being walked over that's being decent.

TibetanTerrah · 12/04/2022 14:51

@IDontHaveAnOutingHobby

Was it possibly someone who is autistic? Who cant manage change? Who needs routine in their life?
Please stop with your virtue signalling, its offensive. Many autistic people would be embarrassed by this womans behaviour, and you're tarring them all with the same brush.
incognitoforthisone · 12/04/2022 14:54

Was it possibly someone who is autistic?
Who cant manage change?
Who needs routine in their life?

Well, that's possible, but the much more likely explanation would be that they're simply a twat.

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HappyDays40 · 12/04/2022 14:57

@MrsRobinsonsHandprints
No that really is being walked over. If she has just used manners and asked I would actually have moved but you don't get anything from me without asking nicely. I wouldn't go over and do the same to someone else so not quite sure why I should take it.

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StrangeCondition · 12/04/2022 14:57

@MrsRobinsonsHandprints

I am about as anti be kind as possible, but in a situation as you describe you are not some hero standing up against an entitled cf. I would have moved, if their life was such that they needed to sit at a unremarkable table then the effort of me moving to one of the empties would be worth it.

That's not being walked over that's being decent.

Good for you, I wouldn't have moved either
Scautish · 12/04/2022 14:58

Just before everyone jumps on the autistic bandwagon can I just say that I’m autistic and whilst I of course do have favourite places, there is no way whatsoever I’d ever expect anyone to move. I’d react exactly the same way as you did OP.

Obviously, I speak for no autistic person other than myself, but none of my autistic friends would ever behave this way so please don’t assume this is something “we do”. We suffer from enough damaging stereotyping on here as it is.

And to the poster who said we need to learn that the world doesn’t revolve round us - believe me, we are very, very, very aware that it doesn’t. This is a world designed for NT people and not only do we struggle to fit in, we are criticised when we can’t - and then accused of being selfish.

So please don’t turn this to yet another MN autism pile on.