Feel horrendously ill. He’s gone to sleep.

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Not really an AIBU and I know I need to leave. But don’t want to face up to it.
I have been feeling dreadful lately - honestly I think I am burnt out with the amount I have been doing. I am not getting much sleep with 7mo, have another dd and we have just moved house. So been run ragged and doing way more than I should. I have been feeling awfully depressed and sometimes when I feel like this I just don’t stop to block it out.
Anyway..about an hour ago I was feeding 8mo when I started shaking uncontrollably. My body is in awful pain and all I can describe it as is really bad muscle spasms. I’ve never had this before and was really frightened so I text OH to come upstairs. He laid with me for 45 mins with me still shaking until I asked him to run a bath for me.
Been sat in here an hour now with it scolding hot to try and ease the pain. I don’t have any energy to get out and feel like I could just sleep. This sounds very dramatic but genuinely how I feel.
Anyway about 20 minutes ago I heard him snoring. He doesn’t give a shit does he? This comes after crisis talks about our relationship and me feeling like he doesn’t care as well.

I had this and I had sepsis. Rigours -the shaking - could be high temperature even if you feel cold. Please take your temperature and get medical help if it’s v high

You are both shattered with small dc's. You have been in the bath for an hour and he has fallen asleep. This on its own is no biggy though you say this is not an isolated incident. If you still feel rubbish then get into bed, try to sleep yourself and talk in the morning hen hopefully you both have a clear head

I think this is only in the wider context of your current relationship. He came upstairs to be with you, ran you a bath when you asked and has fallen asleep while you've been in there an hour, it's nearly midnight. I think if he was laying on the bed waiting for you it would be easy to fall asleep.
All that said, that would be in the context of a relationship that was fine. Yours doesn't appear to be.

I will @Nightmanagerfan thank you. Unfortunately it involves going downstairs and I feel so weak

Regardless of what he has done, if you really are having un explained muscle spasms for 45 minutes you need medical attention.

Ring 111

You need to get out of the bath. It is dangerous.!

If you've got your phone in hand, you need to call some one. Take the emotion out of it for now. Ask for help.

You need medical attention urgently, and you can discuss your emotions when you've been deemed fit and safe to be left unsupervised.

Don't downplay your symptoms. It could just be nerves but unless you're actually a doctor and feel confident self diagnosing then act as though you've not got a clue, and seek help for your symptoms.

Then tell your husband how you felt, give him an opportunity to rectify, and depending on his reaction, take steps afterwards.

Can you phone your DH from the bath and ask for help ?

@TracyMosby

You need to get out of the bath. It is dangerous.!

Agree - if you've had spasms and they come on again the bath is not a safe place to be

You need to get out of the bath.

Get out of the bath
Take your temperature after you’ve dried and dressed incase being in the bath so long has altered it.
Have you taken any painkillers? Any recent illnesses?

Please get out of the bath and take your temperature. If you’re too weak to do that please call your OH. If he won’t help you or doesn’t take this seriously please call 111 for medical advice.

It may be nothing but it may be very serious.

Get out the bath, check your temperature and ring 111 for advice.

OP, ignoring your relationship for now you need to call 111. And I agree, get out of the bath even if the idea of it is exhausting.

Relationship-wise it obviously isn’t good but he also came upstairs with you for 45 minutes and ran you a bath. He then fell asleep near midnight. All of that is pretty normal and nice, but you obviously aren’t in a good place. Try and see the nice but of that.

Get things into perspective for now. Plenty of time for assessing your romantic life once you’ve got advice on your physical state. It’s late, he’s tired, so he fell asleep. No good to the baby or older child if you’re both up all night unless absolutely necessary.

Please call 111, if you're feeling that unwell.

OP, get out of the bath and call 111.

Use your every last iota of energy to just do that please.

OP, this sounds like rigours. I've had this and I was developing sepsis. Same uncontrollable shaking. I didn't feel hot at all. You need to go to A&E or call 999.

Yeas as above poster says get help now I had this and was very I'll I had sepsis too, I was told I just got to the hospital in time so please ring for help

Reasons to get out of the bath:

• it might not be safe for you
• you might drop your phone in the water if you are having spasms and then you have no means of getting help
• if help does need to be summoned you don't want to be naked and wet. Get dressed in something warm

@RewildingAmbridge

I think this is only in the wider context of your current relationship. He came upstairs to be with you, ran you a bath when you asked and has fallen asleep while you've been in there an hour, it's nearly midnight. I think if he was laying on the bed waiting for you it would be easy to fall asleep. All that said, that would be in the context of a relationship that was fine. Yours doesn't appear to be.

I agree with this. OP it sounds like you’re really poorly

Agree with all the advice OP. Get out of the bath or wake up your DH to come help you again. Take your temp and seek medical advice. Hope you feel better soon

I’m out and in bed. Kicked OH to spare room as his snoring keeps me up. No I lm not in a good place. I wish I would just drift away. Thank you for kind messages apart from @TheYearOfSmallThings. I still feel awful but the rigours have stopped. I just want to sleep