Feel horrendously ill. He’s gone to sleep.

[inacuppa]

Not really an AIBU and I know I need to leave. But don’t want to face up to it.
I have been feeling dreadful lately - honestly I think I am burnt out with the amount I have been doing. I am not getting much sleep with 7mo, have another dd and we have just moved house. So been run ragged and doing way more than I should. I have been feeling awfully depressed and sometimes when I feel like this I just don’t stop to block it out.
Anyway..about an hour ago I was feeding 8mo when I started shaking uncontrollably. My body is in awful pain and all I can describe it as is really bad muscle spasms. I’ve never had this before and was really frightened so I text OH to come upstairs. He laid with me for 45 mins with me still shaking until I asked him to run a bath for me.
Been sat in here an hour now with it scolding hot to try and ease the pain. I don’t have any energy to get out and feel like I could just sleep. This sounds very dramatic but genuinely how I feel.
Anyway about 20 minutes ago I heard him snoring. He doesn’t give a shit does he? This comes after crisis talks about our relationship and me feeling like he doesn’t care as well.

I had rigours and chills, It turned out to be uraemia, a form of blood poisoning from my kidneys.

Please get medical advice.

Thanks for the update and I hope whatever it is, is soon 'sorted', passes and you feel better, inacuppa. Bless you.

Another one here who thought sepsis. I had the rigours with sepsis too.

I really hope you're ok

Hope you're getting checked out?
Is there more to the story with dp? What you've said doesn't sound bad? Could the PND be making you feel like this?

Hope you got checked out and all is well. At that time of night I suspect he just dozed off, if he didn't care I doubt he would have lay with you for 45 mins or ran a bath.

If the shakes have subsided and came on whilst you were under pressure it could have been a reaction to a panic attack. If you enter into fight/flight mode all the hormonal changes in your body can eventually lead to uncontrollably shaking.

Try breathing 4 in 4 out then 4 in 6 out then 4 in 8 out.

You should see a doctor to get checked for any physical problems, but your posts read like someone at their limit and under great mental stress. Can you access some therapy?

He lay with you for 45 mins. But he’s a wanker cos he fell asleep and you think he doesn’t give a shit.

could be hypoglycemia if you have not eaten enough recently

Awful feeling ill, but I really don’t think he did anything wrong by falling asleep. He was tired, thought you were relaxing in the bath to make yourself feel better, and he dozed off. If I was him, I probably would think if you needed me that you would just call out or wake me up.

@Livelovebehappy

Awful feeling ill, but I really don’t think he did anything wrong by falling asleep. He was tired, thought you were relaxing in the bath to make yourself feel better, and he dozed off. If I was him, I probably would think if you needed me that you would just call out or wake me up.

Tired? He sounds like a lazy wanker.

Women get exhausted. Men are just lazy.

@thedancingbear

I bet you're the kind of person who tells suicidal or depressed men to 'man up'

You're a disgrace.

How are you op I’m concerned about your welfare

@thedancingbear all men are lazy? Never allowed to be tired?

Wow!

Please update us op it could also be thyroid problems

Sorry, I think you've missed the irony in my post. I've been around here long enough to know that men are not allowed to be tired, or weak, or fallible in any way, and as usual, this thread has confirmed it.

He sat with his wife for 45 minutes when she was feeling ill, and then dropped off in the early hours of the morning. And he's getting it in the neck for that.

Tbf, most people have said to the OP that her partner was probably just knackered and it doesn’t mean he doesn’t care about her.

@thedancingbear

Sorry, I think you've missed the irony in my post. I've been around here long enough to know that men are not allowed to be tired, or weak, or fallible in any way, and as usual, this thread has confirmed it.

He sat with his wife for 45 minutes when she was feeling ill, and then dropped off in the early hours of the morning. And he's getting it in the neck for that.

My apologies! I was multi tasking whilst cooking a roast!

@thedancingbear

Sorry, I think you've missed the irony in my post. I've been around here long enough to know that men are not allowed to be tired, or weak, or fallible in any way, and as usual, this thread has confirmed it.

He sat with his wife for 45 minutes when she was feeling ill, and then dropped off in the early hours of the morning. And he's getting it in the neck for that.

@thedancingbear

Ah, I'm sorry for the misunderstanding. I know what you mean now.

How are you op?

How are you feeling OP?

Hope your ok op