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Deeply concerned about Child Safety in Bristol

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MatthewJTaylor · 07/04/2022 21:28

From May 5th to May 8th 2022, the Tobacco Factory Theatres in Bristol is having performances of "The Family Sex Show".
This show is aimed at children 5 years old and up.
The performers involved get naked.
The discussion with the children is on sex, sexuality and sexual pleasure.

I cannot imagine brining a 5 year old child to a theatre where people will to to her/him about sex and show their naked bodies to her/him.

Am I the crazy one?

Sources:
The Family Sex Show website
Listing at The Tobacco Factory Theatres

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Lockheart · 07/04/2022 23:07

@Electrox

I sincerely hope that this is picked up by the media.

Agreed. Where are the Daily Mail when you need them?

Busy getting paparazzi pictures of celebrities of varying fame in skimpy clothes so they can talk about their "assets" and "pins".
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MichelleScarn · 07/04/2022 23:07

@Lockheart
The performers involved get naked.

At one point for a couple of minutes if they feel comfortable (this is explicitly stated, if you'll pardon the pun, in the FAQs).


As long as who is comfortable? So the performers if they want to get naked around kids and feel comfortable is all systems go? If a child indicates they're not happy around these oh so with it naked people performing in front of them, what happens? child is decryed as bigot and forced to leave?

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SpaceshiptoMars · 07/04/2022 23:07

What are MAPs? I googled, but it just showed me diagrams of how to get from A to B.

Asking for a friend.

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MoltenLasagne · 07/04/2022 23:08

Literally the P in the NSPCC PANTS is that privates are private so how they claim their show is NSPCC aligned I do not know.

God knows what kind of parent would take their kid to this though - have them telling the teacher about clitorises and seeing a stranger's penis at the weekend and it would be straight to the safeguarding lead.

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Lockheart · 07/04/2022 23:08

[quote MichelleScarn]@Lockheart
The performers involved get naked.

At one point for a couple of minutes if they feel comfortable (this is explicitly stated, if you'll pardon the pun, in the FAQs).


As long as who is comfortable? So the performers if they want to get naked around kids and feel comfortable is all systems go? If a child indicates they're not happy around these oh so with it naked people performing in front of them, what happens? child is decryed as bigot and forced to leave?[/quote]
It's stated plainly in the FAQs that people are free to leave and come back in as they wish if there are parts they're not comfortable or happy with.

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DigsDilemma · 07/04/2022 23:08

I'm pretty Liberal and agree this is awful. My oldest child (much older than 5) might just about be of an age where this sort of content would be okay, but they are also old enough to not want to watch a show about sex with their parents! And I think that is probably true for most kids - the ones that are old enough to make an informed choice (consent no less) would probably choose not to go. For younger kids it makes a complete mockery of the PANTS rule.

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PrelateChuckles · 07/04/2022 23:08

then surely it's personal choice for the parent. No child is going to go alone! It's not a porno. Sounds like it's going to be done in a 'don't be embarrassed about your body' type of way?

It's seriously not appropriate for 5 year olds. Look at the glossary page and they have 'cum/ejaculate' 'squirting' 'white supremacy' etc - those things might not be in the show but they might, and they clearly inform it - how can we know?

They are clearly trying to persuade parents that this is all fine and not a massive safeguarding problem. Some parents may believe them.

I understand people may have views on how sex education can be improved but this should not be aimed at 5-year-olds. Schools already cover basic body parts and things like that without having to have actual naked adults in front of them and without discussing sexual pleasure.

I am actually amazed I'm having to type this.

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PigeonLittle · 07/04/2022 23:08

@SpaceshiptoMars

What are MAPs? I googled, but it just showed me diagrams of how to get from A to B.

Asking for a friend.

morning after pill? Not sure of the context you saw it in.
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PrelateChuckles · 07/04/2022 23:09

Minor-Attracted People.

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EmmaH2022 · 07/04/2022 23:09

@Clymene

I can't imagine anything more cringy than a show about how much fun sex is when you're sitting next to your parents.

That's why they're targeting kids too young to feel that way

Making it normal for a 5 year old to see sexual material in front of a theatre full of adults.
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MoltenLasagne · 07/04/2022 23:10

MAPS is the new name paedophiles have given themselves as Minor Attracted People.

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Clymene · 07/04/2022 23:10

It's not 'morality police' @Lockheart

Or do you think it's fine if I sit in my living room watching porn with my infant school kid. If not, why not?

I'm guessing you'd think that was inappropriate and wrong. What's right about this? Do you think that 5 year olds need to learn about sexual pleasure?

I'm asking you because you're dismissing concerns but not saying where you'd draw the line. I'm interested to know.

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littledrummergirl · 07/04/2022 23:10

Life at the minute feels like a cross between 1984, Fahrenheit 451 and a brave new world.
I always thought of them more as a warning rather than a bloody manual!

As they say, to find out the truth, follow the money and the people behind it.

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PrelateChuckles · 07/04/2022 23:11

It's stated plainly in the FAQs that people are free to leave and come back in as they wish if there are parts they're not comfortable or happy with.

Cool, so as with everything else like this, first you have to wait for it to happen before you can stop it? ffs.

Literally the P in the NSPCC PANTS is that privates are private so how they claim their show is NSPCC aligned I do not know

Exactly. It goes against everything taught in schools.

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FOJN · 07/04/2022 23:11

What are MAPs?

Minor attracted people, paedophiles to you and me.

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AthenaWhite · 07/04/2022 23:12

Just look at who school of sexuality follow on their twitter account....

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Lowhum · 07/04/2022 23:12

MAP is the new term for paedophile.

Anyone fancy giving their podcast a whirl? pod.co/the-family-sex-show-starts-here

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Knackeredbutnot · 07/04/2022 23:13

I had a look at the website. It’s being developed with the ‘School of Sexuality’ educational provider, who are excellent. I think I’ll take my 10yr old to see it. Thanks OP! (And if anyone is interested I am a teacher, SLT, safeguarding lead and in charge of PSHE….) Shock

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PrelateChuckles · 07/04/2022 23:13

The "school of sexuality education" who have consulted on this show, provide sex ed for most of the independent schools in Somerset (and a whole bunch of other schools as well, but I know them through the secondary school I work at in Somerset).

Their website suggests they start at KS3. (Only skimmed it briefly).

Not EYFS as per this show!

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bouquetofpeonies · 07/04/2022 23:14

If ever, EVER, a teacher is asked "Why do people have sex", there should be no discussion of sexual pleasure at primary school age. Why can't the teachers just say, "it is a thing for grown ups, like your mummies and daddies."

I'm very wary of any person who is so eager to tell us that (primary aged) children are curious about sexual pleasure. Messages should always be age appropriate. If you want to teach about consent and not doing anything you are not comfortable with, you must use age appropriate examples. Eg, friendships and not making friends do things they don't want to do, or emphasising that nice adults don't ask you to keep secrets.

There is absolutely no good reason why sexual pleasure should be brought up to children. There is always an age-appropriate (and more understandable!!) example to use.

Sorry for the rant, but I'm just so angry and upset about this.

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DoobryWhatsit · 07/04/2022 23:14

@geojellyfish the school of sexuality education do in fact deliver rse workshops in schools in and around Somerset.

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QuattroFormaggi · 07/04/2022 23:15

OMG
ThisEgg, who have devised the show, is the creation of a young woman who
is the daughter of a guy in my class at school in the 80s. I have seen him in the last 5 years and he seemed quite normal (for a theatrical person!)

The whole show looks wrong. They've either made a big error in the targeted age group or they've made the description misleading. The two just don't tally.

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Mumwithapub · 07/04/2022 23:18

Years ago (mid 90s) we used to have an evangelical church week at a holiday camp in North Wales they used to do this kind of thing in the kids theatre!

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