[quote EthelsAuntie]@Cookiecrumble22 I just felt that actually my word should be enough. I realise now that apparently not because according to some people here, almost all women are liars, not to be trusted.. The fact they did take my word on not being allergic to things but were insistent on the pregnancy test seemed weird. The "since you are married" comment really annoyed me. Would they not have insisted on a pregnancy test if I had been single? That seems just as silly and not following their own procedures.
It just seemed a bit like "put the little wife in her place."
I did mention my hysterectomy straight away to the doctor, btw. I'm just very wary of putting too much identifying features on a public forum. [/quote]
From my personal experience, I've been able to parrot a long and ever growing list of allergies since I was five years old.
The order doesn't change, if I'm asked about what happens if I have those medications, the symptoms don't change.
I still use the old form of medication names and can give examples of brand names of medications that have been withdrawn for decades, the list goes from old medications and names/classes to newer names and classes, suggesting that this is indeed a list that has been drilled into me (and added to) for the last 45 years -
and I can also give details of the medications that I have taken without issue previously,
that I had to have a different anaesthetic for a procedure because I was allergic to the usual one and,
as long as I am not actually fully unconscious, I'll instinctively go 'Hold up! What's in that? I'm allergic to...' the moment anybody comes anywhere near me with medication.
I was, however, utterly wrong when I said no, my period was only a week ago as they asked if it was a possibility. I was having discomfort and bleeding as though it was a period each month.
The 'married' thing would be you're in a long term relationship, so you're likely to be sexually active. If somebody were not married, they'd be saying 'because you live with somebody/have a boyfriend/have had sex' and still perform the test anyhow even if the answer was no, don't have sex, single, etc.
And as I've said before, people can be wrong (as I was), or not be able to accept they're pregnant - but there isn't really a known phenomenon of people denying they're allergic to medications, and if they are given something they are allergic to because they didn't know about it or forgot to mention it/thought it wasn't important because that's an antibacterial, not an anaesthetic, for example, the symptoms are very quick and the treatment is easily accessible.
It does sound very traumatic to be that seriously ill and to need such extensive surgery. But at that moment, whilst it was horrific for you to experience it, they had the time to give you fluids (which you needed anyway) and test to ensure that it wasn't a pregnancy related emergency which would have necessitated a gynae instead of the surgeon who performed your operation.