Am I being miserable cow…holidays?

[JustJam4Tea]

Like a lot of other people we’ve not been away in a while. Couple of weekends away as a couple.

I suggested we booked a week in Spain. DH is now considering taking his parents, 20 something son, daughter, their other halves and their mum. His ex.

AIBU for thinking that won’t be a holiday.

He’ll think it’s fun, and tbh , they are good company, but the cooking, the organising, the fact his kids don’t lift a finger. He won’t want to do every shop and the cooking. I just want to go away for a week and not worry about what other people want to do.

He wants a big family holiday like back 8n the day. He’s been divorced 15 years, we’ve been married 12. We’ve been away for family wedding as a big group and graduations and it works ok for a weekend.

I’m considering just leaving him to it. AIBU to think I can’t be arsed with all that.

I like big family holidays but separate hotels are a must for us!! Same area, close enough to wander to eachothers places or to restaurants but not on top of eachother. Group chat so people can say they are heading to the beach/bar/going to X if anyone wants to join.

@Newestname002

^*Person A- Activities - for a group this size I’d do a morning and afternoon or all day activities. Everyone signs up for what they want to do. Person B- Restaurants/Eating out. Finding and booking for x nights per week Person C- ‘At home’ activities, games, etc Personal D- Breakfast- at home Person E- Lunch and snacks -at home Person F- Dinners -at home Then assign any leftover people to help with cooking/cleaning*^

This sounds more like boot camp than an enjoyable holiday. 🌹

Can’t say it would be my idea of a great holiday, but it would stop the one person responsible for everything. Which was one of @JustJam4Tea‘s concerns.

Fair enough it does sound regimented when written down like this. In my head it was more like

‘Right then, Lucy, you sort breakfasts, Stanley has lunches, and everyone come up with ideas for dinners in. Susan, come up with some ideas for outings and Dad, you bring the games for nights in. DH will work on accommodations, and I’ll come up up some restaurant ideas and sort reservations if needed’

Laugh and agree. Then leave him to organize it... Meanwhile plan your own holiday and point out to him how you want a holiday with just the two of you. It sounds like he won't want the faff of having to book it, and organize everything so hopefully his plan will just die off.

@Squirrelblanket

Just book a hotel. Nobody has to cook, everyone gets their own space. Job done.

This.

Er that is no holiday… f that s!!!

Why not suggest doing the first half of the holiday by yourselves and then arrange for the family to join for the last 3/4 days.

Best of both worlds a few days to relax and alone time, followed by family time... if it's self catered put in a note bring some food with you as you come so half the job is done!