@AnnesBrokenSlate
Many men that fight other men compartmentalise those behaviours
Any research to support that? Because everything I read when I worked in this area, said the opposite.
This entire incident will be triggering and upsetting for victims of violence. Not only the event itself if they were watching but all the idiots rushing to justify it and paint it as romantic. That belittling of violence is really upsetting and sends a clear message that men are allowed to hit whenever they feel like their feelings have been hurt - and people will rush to excuse them. I mean, we know that's the case but it's been so blatant in the aftermath of this.
All of people infantilising men by comparing them to little boys at school is quite sickening.
Many men learn those behaviours as boys though. They were taught that it's OK to fight other boys but not girls. And some of them continue with that mindset as adults. I know that's how my brothers were raised (but I won't raise my own boys to think any fighting is OK).
Again, people are really blowing this out of proportion by immediately comparing him to domestic violence abusers and wife and child murderers. Jada did not look scared in the slightest, so given the woman closest to him in life was fine, it's not our place to fear for her safety.
Why is it that when a black man (or woman for that matter) does something bad, people compare them to the worst of society, and speculate that the one incident (even in the context of an impeccable and non-violent public and private life) must mean the worst, rather than assessing their isolated incident behaviour for what it is and wondering whether this change in behaviour is reflective of that person's mental state?
Black people never get to represent just themselves, they have to represent:
-other black people (people on this thread suggesting Will has let other black men down by playing into a stereotype - something that would never be said about a white actor),
-societal violence (black on black violence, male violence)
-domestic violence and child murders
-an example to be made of (people suggesting he should be stripped of his awards despite white actors with worse convictions retaining theirs)
I'm sick of this narrative around any black person, and would like just for once, for a black person to be judged on their own merit in the context of their own individual lives.