i so get what your saying, its great when karma hits, especially when you have been wronged by that person
i think on here people are being dicks just for the sake of it, you had a normal reaction to some one you probably felt did you wrong.
i feel just like you, but my ex is very recent and wronged me
after 22 years together in oct 2020 he left me(and 2 disabled kids)overnight out of the blue for my best friend and made me not only a single adult for the first time in my life but a single mother and a single mother without transport to 2 kids a si dont drive that need 24./7 transport.
he didnt even move close its a 40 minute car ride away.
i also didnt have my best friend to fall back on, so i was doubly betrayed
since then he put on so much weight, went grey and grew a thick black beard with grey specks in.
he was 37 at the time so not older
with me he was clean cut and a decent weight but it would not have bothered me about the weight if he put it on
i believe heavily in karma(complete atheist religion wise)and with in the few years they both betrayed me boy have karma hit them both hard.
he left because he couldn't cope with 24/7 care anymore to 2 kids
hes now a carer to a disabled wife who 8 inches bigger than him and 10 stone heavier than him so he has to lift her around and he physically cant, this has caused him severe back problems and stress has ages him
when he left she wasn't disabled
theres 5 disabled kids that need 24/7 care as she also home educates(as do i) and not one of their dad are involved(5 kids by 5 different dads, all born with in 5 years so a baby each year)and shes now pregnant and there is a 99% chance that baby will have asd as both of his kids do as do her 5 as do he
2 adults and my 17 y old have gone to him(without my blessing)
social services have been called 3 times and they dont know who is doing it
me ive lost 4 stone, my house is 100% calmer and quieter as he had asd and adhd as well and i didnt realise how loud and full on he was as i didnt know any different as he was my only boyfriend ,he was 17 me 18 when we got together
even though my money have dropped with out him here ive saved a fair bit as he had a curry habit and a coffee habit, and im talking 12 expensive pods a day and instead of 1 portion of curry and the rest that goes with it he would by enough for 3,this was every other day and 4-5 meals a day
they haven't got a pot to piss in as they have accumulated so much debt.
im in a big 3 bedroom with just me and a 11 y old so we have plenty of space, they have 8 people and a baby soon in a cramped 3 bedroom and both are sleeping in the hall way(yes i mean hallway)as there is no room for them, council wont move them as she chose to move in another 2 adults and have another baby(they really said this to them)
so when the baby comes they are putting a cot in the corridor with them.
im learning to drive when she cant drive anymore and nor he can he go far as his back spasms
people will come on and say im nasty and bitter but after you have been wronged and betrayed by 2 people you would never think would do it to you and have you're whole life turned upside down overnight completely out of the blue and you really was unaware when karma hits those that deserve it you feel joy about it.