Is DH BIU- to talk with DSIL about planned baby name

[fringely]

DSIL is 34 weeks pregnant with first DC.
A few weeks ago her and her DP announced the planned baby name.
The actual 'sound' of the name is fine, but it is heavily associated with something which DSIL and her DP were not really aware of. They have been made aware of the association since (as it's pretty common knowledge- not sure how they hadn't heard of it tbh!) but are of the opinion most people won't make the association. DH and I are of the other opinion that most people will definitely make the association, it's not a good association, and genuinely worry that it's not fair to give a baby that name and it's fully possible it could lead to bullying when older.

Whilst DP and strongly agree on the huge issue with the name and agree it's unfair to lumbar a baby with it, I don't think DH should say anything. DH thinks he should have a proper talk with her about his concerns on the name and why he doesn't think it's fair to give to a DN. I think nothing good will come and we should stay quiet.

(So far we have said very little about it. We were notably shocked when told what it was, and clarified 'X' as in X'?? But other than that have nodded and smiled).

Girl’s name? Is it something like Jezebel?

If the parallel is Judas, in today's world it must be Gove.

@Blueuggboots

Myra?

No, it's a boy.

I’m thinking maybe Ira because it’s a lovely boys name but the spelling is obviously not a good association.

@IVFConfusion

It isn't a question of being uncultured or uneducated. If a name now has very strong links to something or someone notorious and/or evil, then past associations will fade and people will only make the unpleasant association. Therefore you are potentially setting your child up for a lifetime of bullying and judgement.

Not read the suggestions but just looking at your first post, it sounds like something I thought about a name that's hugely popular.
Arya or Aryan.
Lots of Indian couples recently have chosen this name. But the association with the Aryan brotherhood always comes to mind. Ironic.

OK, so your DH has mentioned it, as have others. And it's akin to Lucifer in that everyone knows the association.

So his sister knows this, knows that it will illicit a reaction the child's entire life and she is OK with that, in fact possibly even wants to be that controversial.

They're happy to enjoy all the shocked faces whilst thinking nothing of 13 Lucifer having to introduce themselves to strangers.

At least as they get older they can change it.

I don't think there's much point telling someone something they know and are actively aiming for.

Is it Lilith? I. Must. Know!

@Zippy1510

Lilith?

Most beautiful name ever.

I suspect it's Damien.
And I think it's usable.
Damien Hurst springs to mind first for me nowadays.

I wonder if it’s Saddam. It has been mentioned on the thread and is now synonymous with evil. I’d suggest to a family member to avoid it at least another generation.

Dexter?

Ira?

@Pandypuff

Is it Lilith? I. Must. Know!

Or Maris!

I think your DH is right to speak to her

If it’s something like Cain, I think your DH should raise it again. Cruel to saddle a DC with a name with such negative connotations.

My guess is Lilith.

Is it Damian?

There was a child at school named Jezebel. At infants none of the pupils caught the reference, after that she was always Jessie.

Afaik it was never a problem

My money is on Lolita. Beautiful name, horrible connotations. Are you sure they aren’t winding you up?

@IVFConfusion you're not wrong, but it's a lot to put on a child attending a school in Britain to carry the weight of overcoming cultural mis/understandings of their name.
I would never deliberately choose a name that I thought would get my dc picked on at school.

What about Attila? For some reason this name is frequently used in Hungary and a close friend’ s half Hungarian nephew has this as a second name.
Seems to have more negative associations in Western Europe than in other places

@Pandypuff

Is it Lilith? I. Must. Know!

It's a boy.