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AIBU?

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AIBU to think something is 'off' with neighbours

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dancingmonkey · 25/03/2022 17:31

So about a year ago we had a lady and her young baby move in opposite us.
At first she it's appeared she was single but after a few months I noticed a guy around a lot and seemed to be living there. I can't put my finger on it but they were an odd match and I once saw him leave the house, go to the car- he seemed to put something or collect something from under the wheel arch?! And then walk past the house and into the park..Anyway that might be totally irrelevant just weird. After a few months this guy moves out and within days they was another guy there who had seem to have moved in. This guy was very muscular and 'hard' looking! Didn't notice anything particularly weird about him but just how he literally turned up days after this over guy and was now moved in. Fast forward a few more months, and it's happened again! Within a matter of days one meat head guy has left and another moved in!
I forgot to add actually while second guy was living there a police officer did turn up to the house and was peering through the living room window. They were definitely in and seemed to be hiding?

So now this other guy is in. When guy number 2 was there the women got a new car and now he's gone a new car has arrived. She and new man are driving this car.
I can't work out what the hell is going on, or is it actually nothing? Bf thinks witness protection but im not sure really what that involves. House is council if relevant.

Any ideas?

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Christinatherabbit · 26/03/2022 23:08

@Schmz

Did u watch Line of Duty - The young lad with Downs was being cuckcoo’d

I’m nosy and worry,
I’d probably report it to police - non emergency- just in case all the tooing and froing you see helps them with any known vulnerability / safeguarding issue ??

You would report it to the police? What exactly would you say?...... My neighbour has had 3 male visitors in a year and a couple of them looked dodgy'? I don't think she works and once someone with a clip board came to the door 😳 seriously?!

WomanStanleyWoman · 27/03/2022 08:26

Exactly. The police would laugh in your face.

TimBoothseyes · 27/03/2022 09:35

@WomanStanleyWoman

Exactly. The police would laugh in your face.

Well according to the OP the police have been there before, so I doubt they would laugh in her face.

Thoosa · 27/03/2022 09:41

I’m really appreciating our current layout where utility rooms, staircases, bedrooms, bathrooms and WCs are at the front and all receptions are at the back.

Someone remind me never to buy a nosey neighbour friendly layout again. Or to have high hedges.

Anniefrenchfry · 27/03/2022 09:45

I mean this gently but you seem very invested in your neighbours life and to be honest it’s a little creepy.

Pliudev · 27/03/2022 11:18

Could be anything but I hope you'll let us know developments. I live in a small village where nothing happens but when my son's friend's dad answered an ad in the local paper for a single bed it turned out to be a lady offering her quite specific services. So OP, do keep us posted.
On the other hand, if some form of abuse is occurring you may be in a position to offer support in the long term.

Bertiebiscuit · 27/03/2022 11:30

Safe house for gangsters, no question - I'd enjoy continuing to watch, love an intrigue

Hmm1234 · 27/03/2022 12:01

Wow! Are you my nosey old neighbours that are spying on me!?
Please mind your business could be extended family or friends that are helping her out. Are you employed? Having time to notice the cars and who’s driving them or watching her on cctv? Honestly increase your work hours or get some hobbies that don’t involve pretending to garden and peer over her fence. lol

ChilledBeez · 27/03/2022 12:12

As long as it is not directly affecting your life - why even care?

SmudgeButt · 27/03/2022 13:07

lots of interesting ideas. I was just going to be boring and suggest she's a slut!

Grandville · 27/03/2022 13:50

I have a male lodger and a boyfriend. I wonder if some neighbours think we live as a threesome.

WomanStanleyWoman · 27/03/2022 14:09

Well according to the OP the police have been there before, so I doubt they would laugh in her face.

But she doesn’t have anything to report! What is the crime here? Newsflash - the police won’t even come out for a burglary these days. ‘I saw a man in a house, having previously seen different men in the same house’ isn’t going to get CID racing around.

fetchacloth · 27/03/2022 14:25

@SmudgeButt

lots of interesting ideas. I was just going to be boring and suggest she's a slut!

🤣🤣

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dancingmonkey · 27/03/2022 14:57

@Anniefrenchfry

I mean this gently but you seem very invested in your neighbours life and to be honest it’s a little creepy.

I am invested what if something bad is Going on. if I was in a horrible situation like cuckooing - I would be praying other people may be watching over me. Obviously I have no real evidence yet but I dont understand the harm in taken an interest.

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dancingmonkey · 27/03/2022 14:59

@Hmm1234

Wow! Are you my nosey old neighbours that are spying on me!? Please mind your business could be extended family or friends that are helping her out. Are you employed? Having time to notice the cars and who’s driving them or watching her on cctv? Honestly increase your work hours or get some hobbies that don’t involve pretending to garden and peer over her fence. lol

I work 10 hours days if not more, 7 days a week. I have enough going on thankyou. Everything I've seen have been on the off chance of going out or opening the curtains. Or perhaps god forbid passing a window and looking outside

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TeachesOfPeaches · 27/03/2022 15:22

It's a trap house

TatianaBis · 27/03/2022 15:36

I would certainly peer at my neighbours if there was anything worth peering at.

Unfortunately I know all of them and half of them are friends so there’s nothing to see.

Iseestupidpeople · 27/03/2022 15:50

The woman with clipboard will have been a health visitor or social services. Possibly also why police were peeking in.

Iseestupidpeople · 27/03/2022 15:52

I also don’t think it’s lodgers. Don’t think you’re allowed to let the rooms in council houses.

WomanStanleyWoman · 27/03/2022 16:03

@Iseestupidpeople

I also don’t think it’s lodgers. Don’t think you’re allowed to let the rooms in council houses.

Because no one ever does anything they’re not allowed to, do they? 🙄

gingerhills · 27/03/2022 16:03

Maybe she rents out short-term to people who have just come out of prison? A few months to find their feet, look for a job and permanent lodging. That could explain a police officer doing a check and why they don't stay for long and there's a continuous stream of men who look dodgy to you.

TimBoothseyes · 27/03/2022 18:10

@Iseestupidpeople

I also don’t think it’s lodgers. Don’t think you’re allowed to let the rooms in council houses.

Depends on the area, some will allow it some won't. You do have to declare it though for Council Tax purposes if you are a single adult letting a room.

Onlyforcake · 27/03/2022 18:16

"a slut" well aren't you a nasty little misogynist then. @SmudgeButt

Sortilege · 27/03/2022 18:22

I thought there was a big push to positively encourage social tenants to take lodgers? There were posters on public buildings here a couple of years back.

Dawn884 · 28/03/2022 08:03

I wouldn't listen to comments like these OP Bet they wouldn't be making these commentsif you actually saved this girl from a scenario! I would definitely notice the things you have about my neighbours too..

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