AIBU to think something is 'off' with neighbours

[dancingmonkey]

So about a year ago we had a lady and her young baby move in opposite us.
At first she it's appeared she was single but after a few months I noticed a guy around a lot and seemed to be living there. I can't put my finger on it but they were an odd match and I once saw him leave the house, go to the car- he seemed to put something or collect something from under the wheel arch?! And then walk past the house and into the park..Anyway that might be totally irrelevant just weird. After a few months this guy moves out and within days they was another guy there who had seem to have moved in. This guy was very muscular and 'hard' looking! Didn't notice anything particularly weird about him but just how he literally turned up days after this over guy and was now moved in. Fast forward a few more months, and it's happened again! Within a matter of days one meat head guy has left and another moved in!
I forgot to add actually while second guy was living there a police officer did turn up to the house and was peering through the living room window. They were definitely in and seemed to be hiding?

So now this other guy is in. When guy number 2 was there the women got a new car and now he's gone a new car has arrived. She and new man are driving this car.
I can't work out what the hell is going on, or is it actually nothing? Bf thinks witness protection but im not sure really what that involves. House is council if relevant.

Any ideas?

Seeing as the OP didnt seem to know or understand about cuckooing, whether she is a 'curtain twitcher' or concerned neighbour is a fine line. presumably now that she knows and understands the pattern of exploitation she may be more concerned than she was originally

Or she may not.

But either way the pattern is familiar to those of us to work with children and families.

@godmum56 clearly.has got it in one spot on obvs heheh

Never heard of cuckooing! Maybe she just likes to change her boyfriends regularly??

[quote andysgirl22]@godmum56 clearly.has got it in one spot on obvs heheh[/quote]
yeah but now I will have to kill you

Clip board women could be about the census , I had one the other week

Some people do change live in boyfriends as regularly as this. I've known a few including ex dil

People have weird living arrangements.

I lived in a duplex where we were downstairs and there was a unit above us. Both were pretty small two bedroom apartments. Above us there was a married couple in their 40s - both employed - who fought like cats and dogs. Loudly! They also made a ton of noise - there was always something rolling or banging or clanging. Lastly they had very loud make-up sex. They did not care at all that we could hear all their fights and all their sexcapades Then one day they tell us they have decided to rent out the second bedroom in their apartment to some random stranger. I have no idea why, they never seemed short on money and who wants a stranger in your little apartment when you already have two people there! Poor innocent bloke moves in. Student, about 20, quiet. I saw him outside a few days later and he told me he was moving back out! They then had a string of other roommates - no one stayed long as most people don't want to listen to fighitng and sex all the time while living basically in someone's else's apartment. Then one guy moved in and stayed months!

@Thoosa

But that isn’t what you said. You said “she has a baby and doesn't appear to work so perhaps financially vulnerable”.

You’re guessing. There’s no such thing as “appearing to work”. You can’t tell from your curtain twitching if she works, where she works or what she works as.

This really is an unpleasant thread, insinuating unsavoury things about a new mum, on no evidence.

Unless the OP is identifying the person , I don’t think it really matters !

I think a lot of the MN massive have lived lives where any out the norm behaviour from neighbours isn't going to be an issue and the "mind your own business" or the totally cringey "keep your beak out" responses may be fair enough. Unfortunately, in the past I've lived in areas which were ok but on the fringes so our "nosiness" has resulted in a car thieving racket and a drug racket being run by neighbours being brought to a halt. Sometimes, if you aren't in the naice 'burbs, what is going to be an irrelevance in which you are over invested is actually something.

the totally cringey "keep your beak out" responses

Why is it ‘totally cringey’ to live your own life rather than poking your nose into other people’s?

@godmum56 🤣🤣 I'd watch the movie of that!!

No, but I'd love to solve my mystery of the dog I can't hear in my building. I'm sure I can hear a dog coming up the communal stairs but never hear a bark/whimper/yap. Never seen a dog in the building 🤷‍♀️ I'm sure it's a dog.

We’ve got a mystery to solve here Scoob!

1. Her house is the Tardis. What you’re witnessing is the rebirth of The Doctor

1. She’s in the illuminati and it’s the same boyfriend but he is a shape shifter

1. There is no house and no neighbour. What you’re witnessing is a hologram.

1. She’s extremely successful at short term dating of a variety of handymen to get jobs done in the house. First one was a plumber, next the sparky, latest is the kitchen fitter.

@OMG12

I would also think cuckooing. You have no choice but to undertake round the clock surveillance and report back here regularly- I have no shame and really want to know.

This.

This thread is like Enid Blyton for grown ups

Have you considered going out and hunting for clues in her garden and taking drawings of any foot prints you find? Maybe you could put on a disguise (a waxwork doll or a snowman are suitably Blyton-batshit) and try to overhear her conversations with these strange and suspicious men...

For those saying the OP is nosy, a number of other posters have suggested it could be cuckooing which would be a safeguarding concern

@WrongWayApricot

No, but I'd love to solve my mystery of the dog I can't hear in my building. I'm sure I can hear a dog coming up the communal stairs but never hear a bark/whimper/yap. Never seen a dog in the building 🤷‍♀️ I'm sure it's a dog.

Ghost dog 👻

I find the people who are never single are also full of drama and love to chat so I'm going with something dodgy happening OP

She’s extremely successful at short term dating of a variety of handymen to get jobs done in the house. First one was a plumber, next the sparky, latest is the kitchen fitter.

Don’t jest. I had a neighbour once who did just that. Was renovating the house and in the space of 2 years went through 4 boyfriends, each a different necessary trade and each lasting until the necessary work was done. Ended up with a beautifully done house. It is basically prostitution though.

Not all of us who post on here live in lovely neighbourhoods.

Some of us live in places where there's a different boyfriend every couple of months. Drug dealers keeping their stash in a mates house etc

They are putting on a performing show for you, because you are always checking on them, and looking out of your windows.

@godmum56

Time travellers visiting to set history right but every time they fix one bit something else goes wrong. they re all the same man but from different times and the baby is him as well.

This seems the most logical explanation. Mystery solved!

Maybe let police deal? If there are any nefarious goings on .Really you need to stop being so invested in everyones life! If I catch myself doing any curtain twitching sharp words and try and get out more!

@1forAll74

They are putting on a performing show for you, because you are always checking on them, and looking out of your windows.

I'm really not, my office is it the garden so am actually rarely even in the house. Everything I see is either first thing in the morning, in the eve or when I need to go out,

I always wonder if the posters saying keep your nose out of it have ever done a safeguarding course or never been involved in a safeguarding issue, whereas those involved in safeguarding are more likely to think there could be an issue