Cards for dad's on mother's day?!

[TeddyisMydog]

What is this fuckery
What is the point?
If a child only has a father then surely they can wait until Mothers day and vice versa?

I taught a kid whose mum was in prison and she made her dad a mother's day card every year. Stopped her feeling left out - not harming anyone is it

Good god, is there nothing the menz don't want to take from us?!!! in a sort of light hearted way but also not lighthearted as this is just fuckery.

It’s one thing a child making a card for a different adult if the whole class is doing Mother’s Day cards, and a totally different one that commercial companies feel the need to pander to men on Mother’s Day.

Father’s Day is in June.

There are children who don't have mothers for various reasons including children in care etc. and you have to be sensitive to this. I used to get them to make a card for someone they love or who looks after them as appropriate.

Making cards, choosing something from school etc is completely different. Every child should be included. DDs school said any grown up could come to the Mothers Day spasms in reception class for example(it was mostly mums, but there were dads, neighbours, grandparents etc too).

Commercial gifts... bit strange.

They have the same on Father’s Day for mums

If a child only has a father then surely they can wait until Mothers day and vice versa? If everyone else in the class is making a card then, no, they can't wait. Personally I wouldn't put 'Mothers' Day' on the front of the card though.

Will there be any 'wishing a brilliant mum on Father's Day!' cards. Highly doubt it the way the world is going.

There's plenty of these around on Father's Day for mums too

@Supersee

Will there be any 'wishing a brilliant mum on Father's Day!' cards. Highly doubt it the way the world is going.

Probably I see it suggested on here 🤷 It's all just money making anyway .

@CaptainMyCaptain

If a child only has a father then surely they can wait until Mothers day and vice versa? If everyone else in the class is making a card then, no, they can't wait. Personally I wouldn't put 'Mothers' Day' on the front of the card though.

But that card hasn't been handmade at school?

There's always been fathers day cards for mums. I've never seen mothers day cards for dad before.

There's a whole section on Thortful! www.thortful.com/cards/fathers-day/for-mum

@Supersee

Will there be any 'wishing a brilliant mum on Father's Day!' cards. Highly doubt it the way the world is going.

There have been for quite a while.

Nothing to get worked up about. Not everyone has a mother and a father around.

I actually don't see anything wrong with this, they have the same thing on fathers day. Many single parents have to take on both father and mother roles and I think it's nice to acknowledge that. These cards aren't aimed at families consisting of both a mum and dad.

Nothing wrong with this. And it baffles me why people get so jumped up about things like this.

Like, with everything else going on in the world, and this is what people moan about. It’s ridiculous.

The company that stock that card also do ones for mums on Father’s Day. Imagine wanting to make a point and in the process suggest we exclude children with only one parent. I do think we need to be kind and think of others more rather than instantly react all the time.

The cards for mums on Father’s Day have been around for years.

My mum did the work of mum and dad, I imagine some dads have to do the same for dad. I see nothing wrong with this, and yes they do have it for 'the other way around' too.

Can we go back to discussing things that are ACTUALLY damaging to women's lives and rights? This is the kind of thing people make fun of us for.

We don’t need to ‘exclude’ children with only one parent though?

If making a card at school, or Brownies/Cubs , or Sunday School or nursery or whatever, best practise should always be ‘for your mum or anyone who loves you and looks after you’.

Commercially, though, who’s buying these or taking a child to buy them? If you’re a father on Mother’s Day, won’t you just not celebrate it and do Father’s Day instead? And vice versa? If you’re helping a child buy one for the ‘opposite’ parent- why? They don’t need to celebrate their parent twice on both days, just on the appropriate one.

Why if it’s ok for a child to make something for someone else other than their Mum to thank them for looking after, is it not ok for them to buy a card to do the same thing?

Some children, as other people have said, don’t want to feel left out and part of that experience and feeling like you are doing something special for someone is buying them a nice card like all the others kids get to do.

It’s a small token of appreciation and should be taken for the positive thing that it is and not turned in to a negative. There is enough of that in the world already!

@Supersee

Will there be any 'wishing a brilliant mum on Father's Day!' cards. Highly doubt it the way the world is going.

There already are many of those.

My daughter makes me a father's day card as her dad is a useless waste of space. She knows him and has a very minimal relationship with him, yet every year without fail she will make me a card. I see this as no different to a scenario where a mother is both a mother and a father. It works both ways.

@Supersee

Will there be any 'wishing a brilliant mum on Father's Day!' cards. Highly doubt it the way the world is going.

Here you go. Looks like there's plenty.

God so many people lack imagination and empathy.

There are good reasons I can think of - some of PP have outlined them - why there are cards for dad on Mothering Sunday and cards for mums on Fathers Day.