Cards for dad's on mother's day?!

[TeddyisMydog]

What is this fuckery
What is the point?
If a child only has a father then surely they can wait until Mothers day and vice versa?

I grew up with one parent and they got cards on mothers and Father’s Day because they did the job of both.

I find this thing about doing both roles thing interesting- it’s strange to me because I don’t think there are 2 ‘jobs’ in a gendered sense. It’s all just parenting and some people do twice as much in single parent families, yes, but you’re still either a mother (special day in March) or a father (special day in June).

But anyway, it doesn’t offend me or anything. I just think it’s a bit weird both ways, but also it’s just commercial crap so meh.

@EmmaGrundyForPM

It's not Mothers Day, it's Mothering Sunday (misses point of thread....)

Yeah. This too!

@TeenyQueen

Personally, I don't understand why someone would write a card to a dad on Mother's Day. If a child doesn't have a mother is his/her life then surely it would make more sense to write a card to a granny, aunty, older sister or another important female figure in their lives. Father's Day is totally separate, and again a card could be written to a grandad, uncle etc.

It doesn't matter if it doesn't make sense to you. If it makes sense to the person without a mum then surely that's fine?

Hmm personally I wouldn’t do it but I can’t get worked up about it, my kids dad is absent and I don’t want a Mother’s Day card on Father’s Day but I don’t judge anyone else that does. I hate the whole “can’t they just get it and give it to a [insert other relative]* as if all children have grandparents/aunties/uncles who act like a parent figure, I use to have that said to me a lot about Father’s Day that kids can just make a card to their grandad or uncle It doesn’t occur to people that some don’t have those either, a helpful person even asked if I had a neighbour my kids could write a Father’s Day card too instead, wtf?!

I'll definitely be getting the Father's Day equivalent for my son as it was really, really difficult for him last year even though school encouraged him to make one for me/ my mum. This year I'll just warn them and see if he can do something else during.

I used to get my Mum a Father’s Day card, because my Dad did one when I was younger so she did the work of two parents and I felt it should be honoured as such. I imagine these are for similar reasons?

Is it really such a big deal ? Card producers try to cover every possible angle to maximise their sales on every possible occasion.
If a child "only" has a father who fulfills both roles then why shouldn't they be given a Mother's Day card ? Vice versa also applies of course

I get my mum a mother's day card and a card on father's day. She did and still does double duty as mum and dad so she deserves double recognition!!!

My husband died when my kids were little. I was happy for them to make Father's Day cards for him - we'd chat a bit about our memories of him. I'd think it well odd if they gave the card to me - I'm their mother, not their father and each have their day.

At least there are still Mother’s Day cards - not Birthing-Person Day cards, not that I’ve seen, anyway.
(Yet.)

It's for people who don't have a mum and feel their dad fulfils both parental roles in their lives, or for younger kids who don't have a mum and feel left out on Mother's Day for that reason. Really not a big deal. Yes, they could just wait until Father's Day, but maybe they just feel it's a nice symbolic gesture to do both. There are similar cards available for mums on Father's Day, so it's not a sexism thing.

I don't understand why anyone would get annoyed about this when it affects them in no way whatsoever. Just don't buy one and accept that other people might feel differently to you.

@Darbs76

They have the same on Father’s Day for mums

Do they?

Maybe we should just have two yearly "Parent's Days" and have done with it!

Someone with two same sex parents may want to allocate one day to each parent? Celebrate one parent on Mother’s Day and one on Father’s Day regardless of the gender of the parents. Just a thought.

No one is taking your money, if you don't like it don't buy it? But someone may really appreciate this card, so leave them to it.

@NoSquirrels

We don’t need to ‘exclude’ children with only one parent though?

If making a card at school, or Brownies/Cubs , or Sunday School or nursery or whatever, best practise should always be ‘for your mum or anyone who loves you and looks after you’.

Commercially, though, who’s buying these or taking a child to buy them? If you’re a father on Mother’s Day, won’t you just not celebrate it and do Father’s Day instead? And vice versa? If you’re helping a child buy one for the ‘opposite’ parent- why? They don’t need to celebrate their parent twice on both days, just on the appropriate one.

This is quite harsh. When you're a kid it is very easy to feel left out of celebrating something that most other kids are taking part in. I think this card serves a purpose. I don't imagine many people with two parents buying this. But my dd had a little girl in her class whose mum died of cancer when she was very little and maybe buying this card would make her feel a little less excluded. Who knows?

My friend's daughters get her cards on both Mothers and Father's Day in recognition of both of the roles she's played in their lives

Batshit. I also saw some cards saying 'to my auntie on mother's day' today AND 'to my COUSIN on mother's day,' along with my grand/nan, and 'happy mother's day to my WIFE.' What fuckery is this? Mothers day cards for your AUNTIE and COUSIN now!

Would the auntie and cousin not get a card off their OWN DC??? And if they have no children, then they shouldn't be getting a mother's day card anyway!

Call me picky, but surely you should only be buying a mother's day card for your own mother!

My son buys me a FD and MD card because he says that I'm mother and father to him. His siblings feel the same but give me MD card only and that's fine.

@MurmuratingStarling

Batshit. I also saw some cards saying 'to my auntie on mother's day' today AND 'to my COUSIN on mother's day,' along with my grand/nan, and 'happy mother's day to my WIFE.' What fuckery is this? Mothers day cards for your AUNTIE and COUSIN now!

Would the auntie and cousin not get a card off their OWN DC??? And if they have no children, then they shouldn't be getting a mother's day card anyway!

Call me picky, but surely you should only be buying a mother's day card for your own mother!

Oh FFS. It's as if people on here can't fathom an alternative family set up.

Maybe some people have aunties who have fulfilled the role of a deceased, or otherwise absent, mother. Same goes for cousin.

I imagine posters like this live in those small middle class villages. The same type who turn their nose up at any child's name that isn't Thomas/Emma/Poppy/Grayson and all those other, run of the mill/painfully common names.

Widen your horizons!

There's a world of difference between a kid making their parent a card on a day that isn't designed for them, and a corporation designing a card just to underline that there isn't a single moment in the year when we are allowed to focus on women.

@ArcheryAnnie

There's a world of difference between a kid making their parent a card on a day that isn't designed for them, and a corporation designing a card just to underline that there isn't a single moment in the year when we are allowed to focus on women.

It was international womens day a few weeks ago.

Mother's Day isn't a day for women. It's a day for mothers and female role models - and for anyone else who anyone wants to celebrate.

@ArcheryAnnie

There's a world of difference between a kid making their parent a card on a day that isn't designed for them, and a corporation designing a card just to underline that there isn't a single moment in the year when we are allowed to focus on women.

Mothers, not women. The two words are not interchangeable.

Call me picky, but surely you should only be buying a mother's day card for your own mother!

Even if you’ve been raised by your gran or your aunt or your cousin because your mum couldn’t?

Call me picky, but surely you should only be buying a mother's day card for your own mother!

I'm NC with mine but I buy mom and nanny cards for my step mom from me and my children.

Some MNers will lose their shit at this - I call her my step mom and she's not even married to my dad

As a widower, I guess this card is aimed at families like mine.

If it helps other similar families at what can be a difficult time then it's a good thing.

Personally, I prefer to remember DC's mum on mothers day, and to celebrate the other women who are great role models in their lives.