Hey all - I originally started these threads and happy to see them used but sorry to see them used, eh? (I got scammed about a job, then got a real job with my old bosses, but they’re in North America, so now when I have insomnia, I can use it to work and communicate with them).
@IdiotCreatures So sorry to hear about things with your daughter. I hope she’ll be able to come home from the hospital soon. These things, they happen. The teen years are horrific and volatile enough without added mental health difficulties. And mother-daughter relationships are difficult enough, too; the teen years are hard on that bond that may have seemed so easy at earlier ages and will hopefully come easily again in future years. I hope, more than anything for you, that there comes a day when this is a memory in the distant past of a stable future for your daughter, and even if it’s not a perfectly stable future for her, at least the distant past of a currently stable relationship between you and her.
@Jibbajabba1 So sorry to hear about your loss. How we deal with these things can feel like a fun park rollercoaster: you have it under control for a few days, and then it slips through your grasp and you feel so sad and dreadful again. It sounds like you have a very good plan for today - there’s nothing wrong with taking a duvet day for grief. I hope being kind to yourself helps a bit and maybe by Monday, things will be looking up a bit.
@icedcoffeeplease There’s a reason that moving house is listed on Stress Inventories as a “major life change” that adds something like 20 or more points to determining how stressed you are, on a list with things like changing jobs, getting divorced, or losing a family member. It won’t surprise you that getting married is ALSO one of those life changes that adds 20 or more points (even if it’s “positive,” the stress it causes is considered equal to many other major life events). So, it’s no surprise if you’re stressed or can’t sleep. Maybe Google stress inventory and try adding one up for yourself. It does sound like at least some of this will be over by Monday, so fingers crossed for you.
@heidihigh I’m so sorry to hear that. Relationships are tough stuff; we do the best we can, we try to communicate, but we can never truly be responsible or control another person or their actions. All you can do is do the best you can, and if he’s willing to resolve this situation, admit his depression and seek help for it, you can try to resolve it together. And if he’s not… then it’s not your fault. It takes two people not just physically being present and living together but also agreeing to listen to each other and communicate and care for each other to make a relationship. You can’t care for him (and by extension, try to help with his depression) if he won’t let you. I wish you the very best of luck.
@HinchcliffeandMurgatroyd Sorry you’re facing such horrible insomnia! In this case, i really do understand exactly how you feel, and joint pain being affected by the weather. I know that pain, and I hate that you’re experiencing it! The weather is so bad where I am and it’s affecting my joint pain and disease so badly that I’m actually leaving for two weeks; the temperatures just aren’t livable. In Geneva, we’ve been having level 3 hazard heat waves for over a week and they’re not stopping yet here. (If anyone thinks Switzerland is all alpine and temperate, no - it’s been absolutely slaughtered by climate change; lost 60% of its glaciers and has experienced a 200% increase in heatwave frequency and intensity, has almost no snow days now below 800m and has had a huge increase in rainfall in the winter instead, experiences heavy rainfall in the summer from heat-induced thunderstorms, and since 1980, has had 20% in sunshine).
I do hope you find your sleeping tablets before tonight hits, or that you found then last night!