House guest sneakily adding your wifi to their phone is rude yes?

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I mean, I don't mind any guest accessing my wifi BUT at least ask right?

We've got the Wifi password on the fridge - because its stupidly complicated and we can't work out how to change it....

It's not rude, but probably is rude not to have it somewhere accessible.

I just cannot get worked up about this.

Did they ignore you when they managed to gain access to the wifi?

@violetbunny

If they are staying with me (eg overnight) then it wouldn't bother me in the slightest, any more than helping themselves to a glass of water or having a shower.

^ this.

I’d give the password to trades, my cleaner etc. The bar for getting the wifi password is a lot lower than the bar for getting a bed for the night!

No not many people have unlimited data I do but not many do.

I would be annoyed unless they brought their own charger and even then, I'd expect a quick 'do you mind...?'

Seriously? You’d expect your houseguests to run it by you before they charged their phones?

There are some very inhospitable hosts that I wouldn’t want to visit on here.

You should have offered. Yabu

@DrSbaitso

I would be annoyed unless they brought their own charger and even then, I'd expect a quick'do you mind...

You expect guests to ask your permission to charge their phones?

Yes.

Because that's how I'd behave myself.

To be fair, I wouldn't go anywhere without making sure it's appropriately charged anyway. Never had a phone run out of charge while I've been away from home. Ever.

I mean

1. you shouldn't still be using the default password on the box
2. if you have guests over regularly I'd look for a router that supports a 'guest' network that you can change the password of seaprately and controll access to if you're worried about them accessing anything on your local network (especially if you have kids with friends that come over)
3. why woudln't you make it available freely?

"To be fair, I wouldn't go anywhere without making sure it's appropriately charged anyway. Never had a phone run out of charge while I've been away from home. Ever."

Don't you ever stay overnight anywhere?

@DillDanding

I would be annoyed unless they brought their own charger and even then, I'd expect a quick 'do you mind...?'

Seriously? You’d expect your houseguests to run it by you before they charged their phones?

There are some very inhospitable hosts that I wouldn’t want to visit on here.

There are also some really rude guests as well....

Do you go to people's houses and just turn their TVs on? change channels or run yourself a bath? Start wearing their clothes?

I think general courtesy dictates you should always ask before using or touching somebody else's stuff...

I wouldn't even know where the phone chargers were in my friends or families houses - I'd have to go searching around to find them. Hence, easier and more polite just to ask.

@ClinkeyMonkey

I think *@WeAreTheHeroes* was being sarcastic, as they later said OP was being unreasonable.

I was! I mean if the OP thinks getting the WiFi password from the card/sticker on the router was inappropriate, she probably thinks connecting automatically on subsequent visits is underhand.

The thing with hosting is that you should be making your guests feel comfortable and at home, not that they are beholden to you and your benevolence for everything.

@VainAbigail

It’s your MIL isn’t it?

Beat me to it 😂

This is peak mumsnet. Asking to charge your phone when staying at someone's house?! Wow.

I think it's a bit rude for them to take the password from the router without asking, I wouldn't say no, but think it's polite to ask. same way as I'd expect them to ask before helping themselves to food out the fridge, or similar.
I wouldn't give the password to passing tradespeople, you don't know what they're accessing while using your WiFi and I can't see why need it if they're working on your property.

Anyone under the age of 21 that comes into my house as a guest or with their family heads straight for the WIFI password. It is definatley a different things these days generationally.

If they went into your fridge and made themselves a sandwich, then I would vote differently.

I've never asked haha no one asks when then come to mine either and I'm not bothered

Can't see why it would matter

I do not want my guests to come in my bedroom and ask if they can have a glass of water in the night, or a bath in the morning, no

Oh come on @FixTheBone - putting the TV on or running a bath are nowhere near comparable to wearing your host's clothes!

@spacehardware

"To be fair, I wouldn't go anywhere without making sure it's appropriately charged anyway. Never had a phone run out of charge while I've been away from home. Ever."

Don't you ever stay overnight anywhere?

Yes.

But only holiday properties.

I don't have many friends that can accommodate a family of 9 for the night.

@AnnUumellmahaye

I think it's a bit rude for them to take the password from the router without asking, I wouldn't say no, but think it's polite to ask. same way as I'd expect them to ask before helping themselves to food out the fridge, or similar. I wouldn't give the password to passing tradespeople, you don't know what they're accessing while using your WiFi and I can't see why need it if they're working on your property.

But food in a fridge is a finite, once used its gone. A few mb off your Broad Band isn't going to be too much of an issue is it?

OP, are you my MIL?

@Crystalvas

If your paying for something think its polite if a guest asks to use it.

Maybe if it's a metered item (although you wouldn't ask if you could turn on a bedside lamp or flush the toilet) but wifi is a fixed cost. It's no more expensive if your guest uses the wifi or not. It's not like making a phone call in the olden days.

Having said that, I think I would definitely mention it because of the 10% of meanies on here who think it's an issue.

Not rude, you should have offered really.

To be fair, I wouldn't go anywhere without making sure it's appropriately charged anyway. Never had a phone run out of charge while I've been away from home. Ever.

Do you have a Nokia 3210?