House guest sneakily adding your wifi to their phone is rude yes?

[HDDD]

I mean, I don't mind any guest accessing my wifi BUT at least ask right?

OP yes, how dare they have internet connection in case of an emergency. You are a right tight arse. Come over to 2022 like the rest of us and wise up. Perhaps you could ice some biscuits with the code on for your next guests upon arrival.

Routers are usually in obvious and visible places, turning one over to find the password is hardly sneaky.

Wanting to get on wifi doesn't mean they can't hold a conversation. You're not going to be talking 100% of the time. Presumably in a down moment they're allowed to look at the internet?

@girlmom21 I honestly don't think I've ever seen anyone shoehorn Ukrainian refugees into a conversation so clumsily before.

@Crystalvas

If your paying for something think its polite if a guest asks to use it.

Water? Electricity?

@FixTheBone

I think it's a bit cheeky based on the OPs update.

There isn't anything else you would just help yourself to in a host's house i.e. you wouldn't go rooting in cupboards to find a glass and stuff to make a drink etc.

Just because the WiFi is free doesn't mean you should go digging around behind the router - in our house it wouldn't help anyway as we changed the password from the default - Just ask!

So in the middle of the night you're thirsty, you wouldn't get a glass (I don't see why you are using the dramatic rooting word, it's not rooting in the cupboard thing), and help yourself to a glass of water as a guest? I must treat my guests very differently, I show them where everything is and say help yourself if there is anything you need.

You could look at it as you didn't offer the WiFi password, so they had to find it themselves.
I don't think it was rude of them, even my not very tech savvy parents have the little card with WiFi details on it for guests.

I would be annoyed unless they brought their own charger and even then, I'd expect a quick'do you mind...

You expect guests to ask your permission to charge their phones?

This is a bit unfair. These days people have huge expectations on them to be able to do things 24/7, maybe your friend had a bill to pay or needed to research something they didn’t have time to do in the day. Most people use their phones all the time, it doesn’t make them bad people. I wouldn’t dream of not asking a guest if they needed the WiFi code, it’s quite unusual that they didn’t just ask- do you think they thought you’d roll your eyes and judge them for that?

Make sure you tell them to remove the details from their phone when they're leaving then they won't automatically reconnect next time they come to visit.

@HDDD

I mean, I don't mind any guest accessing my wifi BUT at least ask right?

They will need to access MN to tell us how unwelcome they are being made to feel as an overnight guest!

Bit weird that they did it without asking, but I would be wondering why they didn't feel comfortable enough to just ask.

And before anyone jumps on me, I think YABU OP.

Doesn't bother me. But then I have a guest password written on the fridge. They can set it up whilst helping themselves to a drink or whatever.

@WeAreTheHeroes

Make sure you tell them to remove the details from their phone when they're leaving then they won't automatically reconnect next time they come to visit.

Why? What is the issue with that?

Judging by OPs attitude, do you think they will come again?

You don't really like them which is why you are cross. Or you disapprove of them in some way (I too am calling MIL or maybe SIL).

Stick the wifi code on the fridge. That way you don't look like a churlish host and guests don't have to be 'sneaky'.

@Crystalvas

If your paying for something think its polite if a guest asks to use it.

But you're paying for your whole house and they are your guest? They ALREADY have permission to be in your space using your space? Where's the line? Please can I turn the tap on? Mind if I flush the toilet?

rude not to have thought to give it to them tbh.

sounds like you either
a) dont want them on their phone the entire time
b) didnt want them touching your wifibox thingy without permission.

are they allowed to open your fridge without permission?

i would consider not inviting them to stay overnight again as you dont seem comfortable with having guests.

for anyone close enough for me to invite them to stay over i wouldnt have a problem. they can also use netflix/disney without asking and have a shower without asking.

I think its odd that you will happily provide bed, breakfast, coffee, electric but not something that doesn't cost you anything. Any visitors to my home can log onto my WiFi, I would prefer them to rather than use up their own data. I keep meaning to get a little chalk board to put up in the kitchen to display the password. Having to ask permission for the WiFi is like having to ask permission to flush the toilet.

It's horribly sneaky!

It reminds me of when my guests help themselves to a drink of water or to switching the light on. Ugh - with friends like these...

@WeAreTheHeroes

Make sure you tell them to remove the details from their phone when they're leaving then they won't automatically reconnect next time they come to visit.

Why on earth would you say this to someone you liked enough to have as a guest.

They should definitely have asked!!

I stayed in a Travelodge over the weekend. Wifi was £3 for 24 hours. Maybe you should've charged?

@WeAreTheHeroes

Make sure you tell them to remove the details from their phone when they're leaving then they won't automatically reconnect next time they come to visit.

After that, they probably won't come to visit at all.

If that's what you want, stop inviting them.

I think @WeAreTheHeroes was being sarcastic, as they later said OP was being unreasonable.

It seems very weird to object to this. Seems like you just dislike the guest in question or at least find them annoying in general.