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House guest sneakily adding your wifi to their phone is rude yes?

430 replies

HDDD · 14/03/2022 09:44

I mean, I don't mind any guest accessing my wifi BUT at least ask right?

OP posts:
zingally · 14/03/2022 16:26

Not in the slightest!

I have my best friends code, and she has mine. My sister has mine, and I have my mums. It's no big deal.

AnnUumellmahaye · 14/03/2022 16:30

@zingally

Not in the slightest!

I have my best friends code, and she has mine. My sister has mine, and I have my mums. It's no big deal.

Did you help yourself to them, or did they volunteer them to you.
AnnUumellmahaye · 14/03/2022 16:31

@cakewench

YABU. How else are they going to come on MN and tell us about their wifi micromanaging hosts?
Or freeloading guest, that is too tight to pay for their own wifi at home, so 'visits' friends to save their data.
WalkingOnTheCracks · 14/03/2022 16:31

Maybe I'm aghast that a grown adult can't live for an evening without their phone, and maybe have I don't know, a conversation.

None of those things are mutually exclusive. That sounds like a post-eventum humph intended to justify a rather unreasonable first reaction.

5foot5 · 14/03/2022 16:35

And Nerdle and Quordle

@HELLITHURT
Yup. Same here.
Until a few weeks ago I never took my phone upstairs at night, it always stayed downstairs.

However it now goes on my bedside table and as soon as I wake up I Wordle, Quordle and Nerdle before I even get out of bed.

(There's a sentence that would have raised eyebrows a few months ago)

Kite22 · 14/03/2022 16:37

Yup - this, hence 'sneakily'. Maybe I'm aghast that a grown adult can't live for an evening without their phone, and maybe have I don't know, a conversation.

Maybe the two aren't mutually exclusive?

I'm perfectly capable of holding lots of conversations over a few hours, but also checking my phone on the odd occasion for something I might need, or even want to keep up with. Sometimes I've been known to use my phone to check some information for the conversation I am having.

I think the question should be why anyone would not want to share their wi-fi code with a guest in their house Confused.

CuntAmongstThePigeons · 14/03/2022 16:37

Bloody hell. Definitely not rude. Or sneaky. Well no more sneaky than using your toilet or having a glass of water.

Very rude however to not offer a guest your WiFi and a drink.

Do you expect guests to ask if they can use your toilet too?

Goldenbunny · 14/03/2022 16:40

Guests are welcome to use our WiFi but they won't find the code at the back of our router has we changed the code.

Nonnymum · 14/03/2022 16:41

I don't see why it matters. I wouldn't expect a house guest to ask if they wanted to use the bathroom or have a shower. To me it's the same

CuntAmongstThePigeons · 14/03/2022 16:47

Gobsmacked at the poster who wouldn't expect guests to help themselves to a glass of water as that would mean the absolute horror of going into a cupboard to get the glass.

And they presumably do know this guest well, if they're staying overnight.

Teastheword · 14/03/2022 17:01

@CuntAmongstThePigeons

Bloody hell. Definitely not rude. Or sneaky. Well no more sneaky than using your toilet or having a glass of water.

Very rude however to not offer a guest your WiFi and a drink.

Do you expect guests to ask if they can use your toilet too?

Well, how can it not be sneaky to do something sneakily?
Kite22 · 14/03/2022 17:09

Well, how can it not be sneaky to do something sneakily?

When the OP has thrown an emotive word in to try to persuade people she is right and the guest is wrong ?

I suspect, the guest saw the router on the side and looked at it to get the wi-fi code as they hadn't been offered it, and it is the OP's perception this is 'sneaky'. It seems less likely the guest crept into the OP's bedroom on the pretence of going to the bathroom, in order to look for the wifi code. Grin

hiredandsqueak · 14/03/2022 17:10

It wouldn't bother me, the password is on the back of the router and also stuck on the inside of the kitchen cupboard where the cups and glasses are kept. If you are happy to have them in your house as a guest I don't see why them using your wifi is a problem.

Chickychoccyegg · 14/03/2022 17:16

What a strange attitude you have op, why on earth would this be a problem
YABVU

MrsLegend · 14/03/2022 17:18

I don't mind if people use mine but I would expect them to ask rather than just help themselves.

When I'm round a friends I ask if I can use the loo or have a glass of water etc. It's just polite. I don't expect them to say no!

FlouncerSIT · 14/03/2022 17:24

And this is why, when visiting friends (and even some family), it's SO much easier to just stay in a hotel these days...I've actually wound up a friendship over a situation where the friend said that it would be fine to use the WiFi to contact family members thousands of miles away who were very ill.

We'd intended to pull into a service station on the journey so as not to miss the tea-time phone slot, but the traffic was so bad we didn't get the option. And I had checked, and double checked, via WhatsApp and email, that it would be okay to use the WiFi. They made all the right noises on the apps...

When we arrived, they were more bothered about showing us their collection of clocks, orchids, and resin woodland animals than remembering we'd asked to use the WiFi at that time.

After half an hour of this fannying about, I eventually said my partner needed to contact their parent, and just paid for a BT day pass. I was too angry and upset to remember that as we were both BT customers at the time, we could have just used the "Away from Home" login, and it wouldn't have cost this person a dime. (They're notoriously stingy.)

The rest of the weekend was equally uncomfortable for other reasons. Give me a hotel any day over a host who doesn't really want you there!

FlouncerSIT · 14/03/2022 17:25

The parent was genuinely ill - they died very shortly afterwards. (They were in another country.)

Teastheword · 14/03/2022 17:28

@Kite22

Well, how can it not be sneaky to do something sneakily?

When the OP has thrown an emotive word in to try to persuade people she is right and the guest is wrong ?

I suspect, the guest saw the router on the side and looked at it to get the wi-fi code as they hadn't been offered it, and it is the OP's perception this is 'sneaky'. It seems less likely the guest crept into the OP's bedroom on the pretence of going to the bathroom, in order to look for the wifi code. Grin

I suppose anything could have happened if we're going to change the OP's version of events.
HELLITHURT · 14/03/2022 17:29

@Teastheword version of events? One word and two very brief posts.

No version of events were given!

carmenitapink · 14/03/2022 17:30

Don't know if it's a generational thing, but nothing weird about taking the password from the router.

No extra cost to the host & I think it's a given if you're staying somewhere overnight that you would connect to their wifi...

Do you ask to charge your phone at someone's home??

implantreplace · 14/03/2022 17:31

@FlouncerSIT

And this is why, when visiting friends (and even some family), it's SO much easier to just stay in a hotel these days...I've actually wound up a friendship over a situation where the friend said that it would be fine to use the WiFi to contact family members thousands of miles away who were very ill.

We'd intended to pull into a service station on the journey so as not to miss the tea-time phone slot, but the traffic was so bad we didn't get the option. And I had checked, and double checked, via WhatsApp and email, that it would be okay to use the WiFi. They made all the right noises on the apps...

When we arrived, they were more bothered about showing us their collection of clocks, orchids, and resin woodland animals than remembering we'd asked to use the WiFi at that time.

After half an hour of this fannying about, I eventually said my partner needed to contact their parent, and just paid for a BT day pass. I was too angry and upset to remember that as we were both BT customers at the time, we could have just used the "Away from Home" login, and it wouldn't have cost this person a dime. (They're notoriously stingy.)

The rest of the weekend was equally uncomfortable for other reasons. Give me a hotel any day over a host who doesn't really want you there!

All very odd on a number of levels

Did neither you nor or partner have any data between you at al?

HELLITHURT · 14/03/2022 17:31

@Teastheword she also she didn't mind her guest accessing her WiFi. Then she said she couldn't understand a grown adult not being able to not use their phone for one evening?

Very contradictory l, would t you say?

I mean not just an adult but a grown adult.

gettingolderandgrumpy · 14/03/2022 17:48

I think this thread is very odd !
First of all I don’t see how it’s sneaky unless the op has hidden the Wi-Fi code and they waited until the op was out of site . perhaps While the op was making a cup of tea they saw the Wi-Fi code as it’s not hidden and logged on . I perhaps would of said I’ve just logged into your Wi-Fi hope you don’t mind in the same way you say just nipping to the loo .
I also don’t get your response of that they can’t be without their phone for one evening makes me think you disapprove of someone having access .
Op it’s no cost to you so if you think it’s sneaky I actually think your mean to be bothered.

HoliHormonalTigerlilly · 14/03/2022 18:15

Don't be silly!

bungaloid · 14/03/2022 18:33

Every house I go into, first thing I do is grab the router admin password from the box and check whether the poor unsuspecting person has left it the same. Then I go in and ruin all their settings and destroy their Wifi. Then no-one can use it but we've all learnt a good lesson in internet security.