Would you pay £50 to attend a baby shower next week

[Donewithit888]

£50 includes the baby shower room hire, present (collective) and transport costs to get there, as it's around an hour from mine.

People don't pay to host it at a paid for room usually. Usually a friend or family member hosts it and the outlay to a guest would be a present for the baby at a budget of their own choosing!

I think it would be a what a shame I can't make it if I was told it was a set amount. And I would say I will provide my own gift (after baby is born if not going to a shower).

No, I think doing them in people’s homes is more normal. No need for them to be expensive especially when people will usually bring a present.

@Jennifer2r

I wouldn't go to a baby shower if you paid me £50, hope that helps.

Yup. Same.

Not a huge fan of them anyway. Wouldn’t pay to go to one. If I’ve been invited to an event it should be free. Whoever hosting it should cover the costs surely. I’d take a gift of course.

@AlisonDonut

I'd pay to not go.

This.

@Gowithme

I'm not friends with the sort of grabby people who have baby showers thankfully, I wouldn't have dreamt of having one. I loathe all that sort of American nonsense.

Yes, I'm the same

Grabby as fuck

So grabby.

I wouldn't go to a baby shower, ever. Horrible things.

I don't think you get it .

People pay to HOST the shower for the mum - the friends pay for it all

I don’t think you get it actually @stevalnamechanger Whoever hosts pays for it. So if a bunch of friends club together to throw a shower they pay for it, or the sisters/mum decided to throw a shower they pay for it. There has to be involvement and discussion between whoever wants to be involved; you don’t just book a place and send out a bill to everyone.

I love a baby shower, but for first babies only! People having one for each child takes the piss! To pay for room hire is ridiculous though, whoever is organising should be paying not those attending!

Friend or family, of course. Work colleague, maybe not. If it’s someone you love and you are close to, how is £50 all in too much? Just buy a token gift when the baby is born instead of a proper present and you’ll save money there. It’s about showing up and being present in people’s special moments.

I would absolutely! You can't expect the mum-to-be to pay for your transport and her own present surely.

Not a chance

No. I think that’s incredibly rude if the party organisers. You don’t throw a party and then expect the guests to pay for it. If they wanted to have a baby shower they should have hosted it at one of their homes or paid for the venue themselves.

You also don’t invite people to a party and then dictate the present they pay for.

Honestly I’d have no problem backing out of this, it wouldn’t come close to matching their rudeness.

Another one who'd pay £50 not to have to go.

No way

You don’t pay to attend someone else’s party.

Had you already agreed to paying the room hire with the hosts when they were booking it? If yes then you should go.

Well your transportation costs are for you to cover if you want to go. what are they actually asking towards the present and towards the room hire ?

No

Really tacky idea. Hugely grabby!

I'd happily spend £50 on a gift for a baby, but not to attend a party to then have to bring along a separate gift for the baby. Insane.

No.

FGS, what next?

I’ve only ever heard of baby showers at home, or at a friend’s or relative’s house - sole guest expense being the present you’re obliged to bring.

Depends on how close I am to the mother!

So if say, 20 people attend, that a grand that the CFs have extracted from people!