To be irritated at flirtatious women

[jemjens]

It really is starting to get under my skin how many women flirt with DH when we're out walking the dog. Women will make eye contact with him rather than with me, ignoring me, when I speak they go back to him.

The other day we encountered a couple and DH said something funny and the woman was straight away all giggly and managed to somehow manoeuvre me out of the way so that I had to walk behind her while she walked adjacent to DH. It was like I was invisible to her.

DH is gregarious, that's one of his traits. But it's like these women are being starved of male attention in their lives and so immediately latch on to him the minute he engages conversation. Sometimes I feel like saying to them hello, I am here you know.

In the past (before we got the dog) he's told me about random conversations he's had with women in queues, in waiting rooms, etc., and that he said he thinks how bizarre the things they tell him that they must think of him as a sort of agony aunt. Now I'm actually seeing for myself IRL what he means, it's kind of grating on me.

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It's your husband's job to shut it down. No one enjoys flirting with someone who is not flirting back.

It's always easier to be angry with 'the other woman' than with the man who vowed loyalty to you.

He'll say the same sort of stuff to anyone, man or woman, any age so he's not flirting, but maybe it comes across that way.
I've seen him 'flirt' on the odd occasion over the years where I know he's been sexually attracted to someone, and it's completely different behaviour.

Do you think you might be a bit paranoid. Surely not every dog walking woman is after your husband, albeit that I'm sure he's lovely!

@Hippolyte

Do you think you might be a bit paranoid. Surely not every dog walking woman is after your husband, albeit that I'm sure he's lovely!

I didn't say every woman. No, not paranoid. You can tell when someone you've just met is not engaging with you but is engaging with the person standing right next to you.

How very odd, all these women throwing themselves at your husband, even when their own husbands are there, whenever you walk the dog. Are you married to Jason mamoa? 😂

He’s initiating it and doesn’t need to.
I walk my dog twice a day and only ever smile and nod at passers by.

Where on earth do you live that when you go out dog walking you get into so many conversations with so many women who find your husband so irresistible that you feel it is a problem?!

@Dumblebum

How very odd, all these women throwing themselves at your husband, even when their own husbands are there, whenever you walk the dog. Are you married to Jason mamoa? 😂

Lol! Jokes aside maybe they're just chatting to the chattier if the two of you? What are their husbands doing ?

What sort of dog do you have? Perhaps it’s the dog they like!

I get accused of flirting a lot. It’s just my personality - I’m very smiley and tactile eg touching someone’s arm while talking to them. It’s not intended to be flirty but I’m quite an open person who enjoys human interaction.

@Dumblebum

How very odd, all these women throwing themselves at your husband, even when their own husbands are there, whenever you walk the dog. Are you married to Jason mamoa? 😂

This is the thing right. He's great for his age. He is attractive, but no, he's no Jason Mamoa. We are both attractive and both look much younger than we really are. He's older than me so maybe they're not putting us together as a proper couple?

Hubby's fault just get him to include you in the conversation.

DH is gregarious... DH said something funny...

Well, that's what it's all about. They'd probably be engaging with you if you were gregarious and saying something funny.

Tell him to shut up and let you have a go...

"I didn't say every woman. No, not paranoid. You can tell when someone you've just met is not engaging with you but is engaging with the person standing right next to you."

Maybe you're also giving off vibes that make you less friendly and approachable? But of a self fulfilling prophecy.

I love chatting to people. I also have the audacity to be single. Doesn't mean I'm after every man I speak to.

@HelloMissus

He’s initiating it and doesn’t need to. I walk my dog twice a day and only ever smile and nod at passers by.

Yeah this is right actually. I hadn't considered that but you are right. It's quite easy to pass someone and simply say morning - I did precisely that this morning when I was on my own with the dog.

'He is initiating it and doesnt need to'. I like that, TY.

If you want to own the situation when someone has been rude, wait until you and your DH walk away but are still in earshot then laugh loudly as if your DH has said something quietly. It's passive aggressive but if the other person has been rude then it might lead to some self-reflection.

"DH is gregarious... DH said something funny..."

And that's what they are engaging with, but you are seeing it as flirting and probably giving off hostile vibes. Both of them are shutting you out.

Ok is he Cillian Murphy then?

Seriously though, I do think that people gravitate towards the more extrovert of the couple, which in our case it’s me. Maybe get him to step back a bit and see what happens if you take charge of the conversion?

Of course your husband is irresistible to all of these strangers, of course he's doing nothing to encourage it. Do women regularly throw themselves in front of his feet as well?

Maybe you're not as approachable as he is?

He said something funny and a woman laughed... is that not what they're meant to do when somethings funny 🤷🏼‍♀️

We are both attractive and both look much younger than we really are. He's older than me so maybe they're not putting us together as a proper couple?

Ah do they maybe think he's your dad, and are practicing the wicked SM role of ignoring you? Look out, as remember what happened to snow white!

Nasty, nasty women. I hope your Dh is okay.

Is this really a stealth boast about your gorgeous DH?