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To be irritated at flirtatious women

172 replies

jemjens · 10/03/2022 10:05

It really is starting to get under my skin how many women flirt with DH when we're out walking the dog. Women will make eye contact with him rather than with me, ignoring me, when I speak they go back to him.

The other day we encountered a couple and DH said something funny and the woman was straight away all giggly and managed to somehow manoeuvre me out of the way so that I had to walk behind her while she walked adjacent to DH. It was like I was invisible to her.

DH is gregarious, that's one of his traits. But it's like these women are being starved of male attention in their lives and so immediately latch on to him the minute he engages conversation. Sometimes I feel like saying to them hello, I am here you know.

In the past (before we got the dog) he's told me about random conversations he's had with women in queues, in waiting rooms, etc., and that he said he thinks how bizarre the things they tell him that they must think of him as a sort of agony aunt. Now I'm actually seeing for myself IRL what he means, it's kind of grating on me.

OP posts:
NETSRIK · 10/03/2022 13:06

Get your husband one of those signs that some dogs wear when out walking - 'Keep your distance-can be gregarious ' should do it.

Bostromani · 10/03/2022 13:07

Brilliant, Brilliant thread..from the stealth brag and follow up open brag from the OP, to all the replies from the mumsnetters married to George Clooney.

Seriously, this has cheered me right up, take a bow mumsnet!

steff13 · 10/03/2022 13:08

@NETSRIK

Get your husband one of those signs that some dogs wear when out walking - 'Keep your distance-can be gregarious ' should do it.
I love it. Or, she could pee on him before they go out, mark her territory.
GrannieD · 10/03/2022 13:11

Daily fail ???

mumsiedarlingrevolta · 10/03/2022 13:18

You could get him one of those leads that say "scared of people"?

I am a chatty dog walker. I talk to everyone who wants a chatter. But not everyone does-and it is very easy to tell.

My DH is very charming but more in the taciturn, Winston Churchill type versus Jason Mamoa.
He is not such a chatter he likes to dream and think and is usually a 1,000,000 miles away.

I suspect your DH is a chatter and may be harmless but he sounds like he enjoys. It is not threatening-just the way he is?

Wheresmywoolyjumpers · 10/03/2022 13:20

My first thought was to say it was unreasonable as I have been told I am quite flirtatious as I am naturally quite outgoing and friendly. But I have been told I flirt with everyone, and certainly would not freeze one person out if I met a couple, or even several friends together.

VelvetChairGirl · 10/03/2022 13:20

@IcedPurple

There definitely ARE men who attract women wherever they go, and there definitely are men and women who seem to accidentally give people the impression they are flirting when they're just being friendly.

There are, but they're pretty rare, and I would say very much outnumbered by the women who think their 'DH' is the hottest thing ever.

I don't think I've ever seen a man so outrageously gorgeous that I just can't resist 'flirting' with him while he's out walking the dog with his wife. Maybe such men do exist, but they're few and far between.

there was a bloke in the office I worked at you could say that about, all the women in the office followed him around and we were referred to as his harem.

but we were not attracted to him, he attracted us because he was the unintentional office clown and we all followed him looking for a laugh because we didn't want to miss what stupid thing he did next, the office was very boring.

Luredbyapomegranate · 10/03/2022 13:22

This isn't normal OP, so your husband is initiating it.

If you are walking side by side, you can't see how he's looking at the moment walking towards you, he is most deffo doing some serious come on looks to get this reaction.

It it bothers you, tell him to knock it off. If he says it's not him, point out how women react to him - and - politely, that he is not an adonis, so he's actively encouraging it in some way.

TreatTrimTame · 10/03/2022 13:22

do you own a cockapoo?

roundtable · 10/03/2022 13:24

On the next episode of Sexiest Dog Walker...

Gail and Sue compete for Most Voluptuous Bottom while picking up dog shit...

Dave and Stuart go head to head at one armed pull-ups from a tree branch whilst hanging a doggy bag as high up as possible...

Tony and Kevin lose their shirts while swimming in a stagnant pond with their beloved pooches...

Deidre and Carole have a blazing row over who looks most like their dog...

Who will you vote as Britain's Sexiest Dog Walker?

HoneyItIsntGoodLuck · 10/03/2022 13:27

He does sound irresistible ….

The other day we encountered a couple and DH said something funny and the woman was straight away all giggly and managed to somehow manoeuvre me out of the way so that I had to walk behind her while she walked adjacent to DH. It was like I was invisible to her.

So you’re out dog walking …. and your DH bumps you into second place so that he can enlist the pleasure of this random stranger lady’s company….? And you’re mad at her?

napody · 10/03/2022 13:28

@MrFsAunt

Woman love him.

Who is this woman? You should have a word Grin.

Oh God this tickled me!
RealBecca · 10/03/2022 13:28

So someone strikes up a conversation and you shoot them daggers....its a real mystery why they focus talking to him and not you!

Marvellousmadness · 10/03/2022 13:29

He is loving the attention ..... a bit too much

amusedbush · 10/03/2022 13:32

Crikey, is your husband Idris Elba?? My DH is very handsome and funny but this has only happened once in my presence (a couple of hours after we got engaged on holiday - fantastic timing!). I found it really funny but he was mortified Grin

I have no advice because I'm incredibly awkward and have been told that I come off as aloof at first. So far, nobody has wanted to make small talk with me in a field.

Thatsplentyjack · 10/03/2022 13:39

Next time you go put with the dog firmly hold his hand the whole time . Lots of PDA and death stare any woman who even glances in his direction.
Good idea to train your dog to attack with a silent command aswell, just incase the desperate harlots still get too close.

In all seriousness though, some people are just rude, some people like to chat and will obviously engage with other chatty people

cushioncovers · 10/03/2022 13:40

Probably the thing that you love about him is what other people warm to as well op. Try not to get to upset over it. Some people are just more outgoing and like to work the room if they are out in a group.

dottydodah · 10/03/2022 13:41

TBH most dog walkers are a friendly bunch! I talk to anyone else with a dog and am very ordinary just chatty really. Normally I would say hello to both partners have a quick chat and walk away .Honestly unless all these women have no DP and are looking for a romance ,you are overthinking it. Does DH lap it up?

Sofiegiraffe · 10/03/2022 13:44

@roundtable

On the next episode of Sexiest Dog Walker...

Gail and Sue compete for Most Voluptuous Bottom while picking up dog shit...

Dave and Stuart go head to head at one armed pull-ups from a tree branch whilst hanging a doggy bag as high up as possible...

Tony and Kevin lose their shirts while swimming in a stagnant pond with their beloved pooches...

Deidre and Carole have a blazing row over who looks most like their dog...

Who will you vote as Britain's Sexiest Dog Walker?

😂😂😂
girlmom21 · 10/03/2022 13:46

Why is it that he's just chatty and gregarious but they're flirtatious and giggly?

I chat to loads of men in our area when I'm walking the dog...

DorothyZbornakIsAQueen · 10/03/2022 13:53

@SexiestDogWalker

Ahem. OPs DH is the sexiest dog walker ever? I think the fuck not, people.
Grin
Tdcp · 10/03/2022 14:00

Other women aren't married to you and they don't owe you anything. Your husband is the issue here, he's instigating it.

5128gap · 10/03/2022 14:01

I'm sorry OP but either you're imagining this or he's encouraging it. There is no way an average man gets this much unsolicited flirtatious attention. It would be pushing it if he were young and gorgeous, but your average Joe? No way. It's possible they are just being friendly and chatting to him because you're not giving off an approachable vibe, maybe because you think they're after him.

FKATondelayo · 10/03/2022 14:01

Like a PP says you don't really seem to know the difference between 'friendly' and 'flirting' - they are two different things.

Friendly: "Nice cockapoo!"
Flirting: "Nice cock!"

Friendly: "Am I allowed to give him a treat?"
Flirting: "Am I allowed to give you a blow job?"

Friendly: stroking dog
Flirting: stroking own nipples while maintaining continuous eye contact with owner

Sofiegiraffe · 10/03/2022 14:01

Am I the only person who is infinitely more interested in admiring the dog than the person walking it when passing a dog walker?! I honestly don't even think I look at the person's face. 😂