To think we should all sleep in separate rooms?

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Lighthearted thread.

My DH has covid - his 2nd bout in 6 weeks - therefore I am sleeping in the spare room and I am bloody loving it.

Better quality of sleep, having my own bed, not worrying if I am waking up DH when I go to bed, waking up naturally......... I could go on.

Just wondered if anyone else felt the same.

I know mega posh couples who live in castles / palaces have their own bedrooms and I totally get it.

We don’t have separate rooms, but on occasions when I have to get up earlier, DH says he’ll sleep separately to avoid waking me. Generally, we sleep together with two dogs. The dogs don’t often wake me, but he does telling one of them to lie down when it gets restless 🙄 I must say, a night of just me in our super king bed is a real treat 🙂

I’d love to escape to an ‘adjacent lady chamber’ bedroom for night time waking, reading, writing …

Married to DH happily for 27 years and lived together for five years before that and were BF/GF for another five before that!

We have a super king bed, it’s enormous and comfortable BUT, I have and frequently do, move into the small double in the room next door in the middle of the night. Where the room is dark, cool, small and cosy and I don’t get disturbed by nighttime wees, snoring or early alarms.

Bliss.

Just to add, I don’t go for it full time because we both slept separately from our ex’s for years due to serious problems in our previous marriage, so there is a bit of a symbolic issue for us. Also, we often hold hands in the night (I know 🤮 right?), we get to hot cuddling long term!

I draw a line at sharing a bathroom though! In this house and the previous one, I’ve had a bedroom converted to a bathroom.

I love the thought of having a separate bedroom - being able to decorate it how I want, bedding, not having to compromise etc sounds like bliss. Unfortunately I sleep dreadfully without DH - not that I sleep much better with him here 'cause his snoring is so damn loud currently.

We did have separate duvets for a short while which I loved but he hated them. He's a cuddler and likes being physically close, apparently separate duvets get in the way of that. 🤷🏼‍♀️

We never share a room at home; if we stay in a hotel we get a twin room.

I too have found this thread very reassuring and validating @wellstopdoingitthen.

Moved to living room when DH had covid. Made sofa up like a bed. Bliss. I kept solicitously offering to stay one more night...

I occasionally decamp to DD bed (with the dog) when she is away at Uni and DH snoring is awful.
I can relax and read which I need to do to stop being so cross with him-he is snoring happily away and I am stone cold wide awake beside him. Surely moving is better for both of us!!!

It's not often me and hubby sleep in the same room, I toss and turn all night keeping him awake and he snores which ends up keeping me awake and he's up super early too so it's just easier if we sleep separately 🤷‍♀️

Separate bedrooms, separate bathrooms. Perfect. We've been together nearly 30 years too. I think having our privacy has helped the longevity of the relationship.

I struggle to sleep without my husband. I did grow up sharing a small room with siblings though so maybe I have just been conditioned to sleep with other people's noise. When I moved out from parents I really struggled with sleeping in absolute silence. I cannot sleep well when husband is not there which sounds so silly

We have a spare room. We also have utterly incompatible daily rhythms. Neither of us has to get up for work any more. Me, I crash at about ten and wake up at five. My OH, given the option, will not nod off till about four and will then wake up at eleven. Quite often, we pass on the stairs at dawn, like the cartoon dog and coyote - "Mornin', Ralph." "Mornin', Joe."

So we each tend to sleep in whichever room is the easiest. Or the OH falls asleep on the sofa watching some documentary about a serial killer.

She binged five mass murderers last night. It's nearly dinner time. As I'm cooking, she'll be having risotto. For breakfast.

DH and I sleep in our own rooms Monday - Thursday and then we share a bed at the weekends. We are as loving, affectionate and close as we ever were, but probably even more so because we are fully rested. Humans aren’t meant to sleep with other humans! Sleeping together was something that poor people did because they had no choice. I now have the choice and I absolutely love sleeping alone, with my two dogs. DH loves his own bed too. We come together at the weekends as we can afford to lose some sleep what with no work to get up for. Quite often I’ll wake up and DH has sneaked off to ‘his’ room!

Sleeping alone feels decadent and indulgent and I bloody love it. I bloody love DH too but I don’t need to sleep next to him to prove that to myself 🤷🏻‍♀️

DC has just got over Covid. I caught it off them. DH doesn't have it.
Currently I'm in the spare room (have been for a week since DC was first unwell - prior to their first +ve test; I had an inkling something was wrong).

I hated sharing a bed with my XH, we managed to survive with separate duvets. Would have loved to sleep in another bed or another room, when we eventually moved into a big enough place we were on the point of splitting up so I moved into the spare room, but it was a sad and difficult time...

With DH, although he can be a right pain with snoring and hogging the duvet (and blaming me) I don't sleep at all well without him. He was away for a week recently and I slept terribly badly.

When I tested positive for Covid a few weeks ago I moved into the spare room, by that afternoon he had tested positive too so I just moved back to our room again!

He snores fit to wake the dead, and I have a sleep disorder, so we've no choice on week nights. We'd both be permanently sleep-deprived (which I more or less am already) if we slept together every night.

My in laws have separate rooms and have for the last 15 years according to DH, they seem to be happy with the situation
Me and DH share a bed but have separate duvets, absolute bliss

Oh I would love my own room permanently! DH snores terribly some nights and I love going to the spare room. I too am very relieved to read that lots of others feel the same way. I’m definitely going to try having separate duvets too.

My DH and I have been doing this for the last 6 months. I'm a morning person, he's a night owl. Suits us really well. We do still have sex and it's fun picking a room

Me and hubby sleep in different rooms and have only been married 2 years! He snores, goes to bed later than me and I'm a light sleeper. We have a 1 and 2 year old and full time jobs. I value sleep far too much to worry about it!

a work colleague of mine recently said she and her husband slept together, in beds pushed next to one another. Im not sure if this makes a huge amount of difference .... ?

I love sleeping with my husband. Cuddling up at night and morning snuggles and everything in between. Our children used to like snuggling with us but would often all end up sleeping in one bed when they were little rather than trekking into our room --it felt very natural, but we have no snorers! We have our private space at other times, but bedtime is always something I look forward to...

My dh has worked shifts for the past few years, he gets up about midnight, I go to bed around 11, we have a cuddle as I fall asleep and he wakes up, when he gets up, I star shape in the bed and love sleeping on my own

Really funny to find this thread pop up as DH and I were just discussing this yesterday. He snores and grinds his teeth. He is much taller than me and if he goes to bed first creates a cocoon out of the duvet, bang slap in the middle. He is doing this whilst asleep! So I get to bed in the dark and have to yank some duvet back and give him a shove... I am having my own room when we retire. It will be my pink silky satin boudoir with no man spray in sight.

Love sleeping with kids who wake me anyway don’t need woken by snoring farting DH who keeps different hours from me! Oh for a spare room!

My DH works away 3 nights a week and I love having those nights to myself.