To think we should all sleep in separate rooms?

[Pipsquiggle]

Lighthearted thread.

My DH has covid - his 2nd bout in 6 weeks - therefore I am sleeping in the spare room and I am bloody loving it.

Better quality of sleep, having my own bed, not worrying if I am waking up DH when I go to bed, waking up naturally......... I could go on.

Just wondered if anyone else felt the same.

I know mega posh couples who live in castles / palaces have their own bedrooms and I totally get it.

Ideally i would like my own house.

DH and I have separate rooms because we are mega-posh. NO we're not really. We have separate rooms because we both sleep a lot better like that.

We've had separate rooms for over 20yrs now! Total bliss. I actually feel quite stressed if we stay somewhere we need to share a bed 😂

Annoyed I didn’t fine this earlier as I’m now desperate to know- what were everyone’s sleeping arrangement when they were children? I’m wondering if a lot of being forced to sleep in our own rooms has conditioned us to want to be alone- whereas now I think bedsharing with your children is more common? It’s me and both DC in the king size and DH in the single here. Not sure how I feel about it switching back. I was never allowed in my parents bed (except Christmas morning obvs) and love to sleep alone. My children won’t have it and I won’t force them- will they grow up to be super touchy freely ‘I love sharing a bed’ types??

We're married 25 years and have slept apart for about 7 years. Love each other dearly and come together for excellent sex but sleep apart. Nothing wrong with that, we both have excellent sleep and have a lovely relationship. We are the best of partners and it has strengthend our relationship.

I used to really struggle sleeping with DH twitching, snoring and hogging the duvet . Not to mention his shift pattern either waking getting up at 4.30 am or coming to bed at 1.30. A huge advantage of DS moving out has been having a spare bed to move into to get a good nights sleep .

Funnily enough we discovered the joy of this when DH had Covid.
DH now sleeps in the spare room. We both sleep better.

Can’t beat a double bed all to yourself each

@mogsrus

Can’t beat a double bed all to yourself each

Oh but you can. King sized all the way.

Covid started this for us too! I’m not sure I could go back. I listen to podcasts to drift off to and I can do it without disturbing DH. Plus usually one of the kids comes into our bed in the night so it’s much more comfortable than trying to squeeze three in a bed.

@aveline161

Annoyed I didn’t fine this earlier as I’m now desperate to know- what were everyone’s sleeping arrangement when they were children? I’m wondering if a lot of being forced to sleep in our own rooms has conditioned us to want to be alone- whereas now I think bedsharing with your children is more common? It’s me and both DC in the king size and DH in the single here. Not sure how I feel about it switching back. I was never allowed in my parents bed (except Christmas morning obvs) and love to sleep alone. My children won’t have it and I won’t force them- will they grow up to be super touchy freely ‘I love sharing a bed’ types??

Yeah we were barely allowed in our parents room, still less in their bed!

I have at least one of my DC in my bed nightly.

Me and DH haven't shared a bed for about a year (other than nookie) we both sleep better for it I also go to bed earlier to read, he stays up later watching TV. It just works so much better for us.

Ha! I would never share a bedroom again. Except when the little ones sneak in for cuddles in the mornings.

Think it's what you get used to, though I can see the benefit as it's so annoying listening to snoring, I sometimes roll him onto his side which helps other than the time he was nearer the edge than I realised and rolled him out the bed!!

My own room is my ideal of bliss.

DH sadly has romantic notions of wanting to sleep in the same bed, even when I am not well.

In a drink related incident, I managed to vomit over him in my sleep and he honestly never complained just cleaned me up while I refused to even waken up and cooperate.

That convinced me that sleeping in the same bed really is a big thing for him.

Sigh.

The lure of the unheated so much cooler spare room and the cool sheets of the bed in the spare room. And the fun of visiting and then escaping back.

We have seperate rooms, I'd hate to have to share! King size bed each, really has done wonders for improving our lives - no stressing when one can't sleep and is keeping the other awake.

SNORING!!!!
justification for murder more like it...can hear him in the room next door and even in the downstairs bedroom so perhaps the flat next door???

I absolutely love having a whole bed and room to myself. There is no way I could share one with my DH now. I get too hot in bed on my own and have to thrash about trying to find a cold bit. If he was in it with me it would be unbearable!!

We have a 6 feet bed seperate mattresses that zip in the middle.own duvets . Can't sleep on my own..!

I admit I didn't read every post but... sex? I enjoy the deed but I'm tempted to separate things. How does it work then? Seems impersonal!

@aveline161

Annoyed I didn’t fine this earlier as I’m now desperate to know- what were everyone’s sleeping arrangement when they were children? I’m wondering if a lot of being forced to sleep in our own rooms has conditioned us to want to be alone- whereas now I think bedsharing with your children is more common? It’s me and both DC in the king size and DH in the single here. Not sure how I feel about it switching back. I was never allowed in my parents bed (except Christmas morning obvs) and love to sleep alone. My children won’t have it and I won’t force them- will they grow up to be super touchy freely ‘I love sharing a bed’ types??

Yeah my parents, particularly my DF, didn’t allow us in their bed very often. However I rarely felt the need to get in their bed.

So i was the same with my DD. I wouldn’t encourage her to get in bed with me and if she did I didn’t let her stay too long.

I just don’t really enjoy sleeping with anyone, except with my first boyfriend he’s the only one I felt ok with sleeping together

@allgreenritta I imagine its far more exciting!!!

I'm not a great sleeper. I slept like a queen when I had covid. I feel like my single days of having my own bed kicked right in and 6 weeks later I'm having trouble sharing the bed.

@aveline161

Annoyed I didn’t fine this earlier as I’m now desperate to know- what were everyone’s sleeping arrangement when they were children? I’m wondering if a lot of being forced to sleep in our own rooms has conditioned us to want to be alone- whereas now I think bedsharing with your children is more common? It’s me and both DC in the king size and DH in the single here. Not sure how I feel about it switching back. I was never allowed in my parents bed (except Christmas morning obvs) and love to sleep alone. My children won’t have it and I won’t force them- will they grow up to be super touchy freely ‘I love sharing a bed’ types??

I shared a room with my sister when really young and I slept in my parents bed a lot when I was a kid. In the middle of the night I'd go in there and my dad would go sleep in my bed while I snuggled up to my mum. I moved in to the box room when I was about 12 because I wanted my own space.

If I was sad or scared or ill or just wanted to, I was always allowed.

I co slept with my children for a solid 4 years.

I have my own bedroom. I am not touchy feely at all. Nor are my children.

I admit I didn't read every post but... sex? I enjoy the deed but I'm tempted to separate things. How does it work then? Seems impersonal!

I have my own boudoir but enjoy having visitors....

Well one anyway!