Inappropriate masseur or complete accident?

[CindyMaeLouise]

This happened to me recently & I thought I'd ask what you think. I had a massage booked and only after I'd arrived for the appointment, was I told my regular woman was unable to get in that day - but not to worry as a masseur had come over from a different branch. If I was happy to have him my appointment could go ahead on time. I paused for a minute thinking eeek do I really want a man but then I checked myself & thought, he's a professional so it should be absolutely fine.

We went into the room together & he asked me to get undressed & lay on the bed under the towel, he would stand with his back to me arranging his bottles etc. I was immediately at this as female staff usually leave the room whilst you get prepared. Again, I told myself he's a professional, I have nothing to worry about. So I just step forward towards the bed & he turns around in that instant to catch me naked apart from my knickers. This was brushed under the carpet as an accident but I couldn't help feeling was it accidentally-on-purpose? Surely you'd be listening to actually hear the client getting onto the bed & pulling the towel over them? I was still 2 steps away from the bed when he turned. The massage itself was fine, no funny business, but it left a bad taste in my mouth.
What do you think, accident or not?

I have a massage come to my home and they never leave the room . Normally they are back to me washing their hands or turn around .

This is for physio / sports massage though so perhaps more gungho

I've only had one not leave the room automatically before - and it was an older no-nonsense 'mum' type, not a man.

I generally prefer male masseurs as I go for quite deep massages and men typically have a higher muscle ratio. I've never ever had one not leave the room automatically, and that includes the gay ones who have zero interest in the female body. It's just good etiquette to leave and either knock or wait for a yell letting them back in.

@Chonfox

Never "check yourself" if you're feeling uncomfortable with a male. Your instincts exist for a reason and men have form! It was most likely on purpose.

Stick to female staff, it's safer

It's a pity though, isn't it, that one might have to stick to women? My current massage therapist is a (straight) man and he's terrific; a great therapist, and a proper laugh to boot. I'd hate to have to not see him. Last time I went, when I was lying on my back (eyes closed blissfully!), he so-politely said, 'Just going to adjust the towel a bit...' and pulled it up. I think it had slipped down and was showing, or almost showing, too much of my chest/boobs. He dealt with it so quietly and deftly and professionally; there was no embarrassment and certainly no feeling that he'd been inappropriate.

It's a pity though, isn't it, that one might have to stick to women?

Yes, it is. But they've nobody to blame but themselves have they.

@daisyjgrey

It's a pity though, isn't it, that one might have to stick to women?

Yes, it is. But they've nobody to blame but themselves have they.

Well no, these men who act like the OP's therapist are absolutely responsible for themselves. But all I mean is some of us miss out on really good therapists who are men because others of them (in the words of many a teacher of yore) 'spoil it for everyone.' I don't mean that as flippantly as it probably sounds, BTW. If I were in the OP's shoes I'd want only women therapists from now on.