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to think I am going to be starving at this wedding?

795 replies

Aztecprint6 · 06/03/2022 16:23

Wedding breakfast is at 4:30pm.

Evening food will be wedding cake and some cheese.

AIBU to think I am going to have to bring along a sandwich and some late night snacks?

OP posts:
Tilltheend99 · 06/03/2022 18:17

@sadpapercourtesan oh boo Grin you can always say no to the invite. Imagine having a life where who bought what for who was the basis of everything.

Dodie66 · 06/03/2022 18:17

We went to a wedding and the amount of food was so small we went home and had cheese on toast. We were starving by mid evening

PriamFarrl · 06/03/2022 18:19

If it’s a destination wedding then I guess you will be in a hotel the night before. Therefore the hotel breakfast should see you through to the wedding breakfast.

My worry would be being hungry before the meal, not after.

BarbaraofSeville · 06/03/2022 18:19

But you'll be eating a 3 course meal from 4.30 probably until around 7, so you'll be really full most of the evening, and wedding cake and cheese, which is quite substantial especially if there's also crackers and grapes later on.

Starving is a bit of an exaggeration don't you think?

CornedBeef451 · 06/03/2022 18:20

Just take snacks for your room just in case. At least you know in advance!

Frauhubert · 06/03/2022 18:22

Can you imagine the type of person fretting about ‘starving’ at a wedding, having finished a three course meal+ coffee + cake + massive stand alone blocks of cheese

PurpleDaisies · 06/03/2022 18:23

@Frauhubert

Can you imagine the type of person fretting about ‘starving’ at a wedding, having finished a three course meal+ coffee + cake + massive stand alone blocks of cheese
What kind of person do you think that would be? You clearly have some thoughts you want to share.
Dashel · 06/03/2022 18:23

@CornedBeef451

Just take snacks for your room just in case. At least you know in advance!
This is exactly what I do to all weddings just in case. Things that can be taken home if not eaten so nothing is wasted.
Onthegrid · 06/03/2022 18:29

I never go to a wedding or similar function without a stash of snacks and a drink, this is from when I had small kids who couldn’t stand around for 4 hours over a normal meal time without the inevitable “I’m hungry” every 5 minutes.
I am the same when I fly or travel on long distance trains, it has nothing to do with needing to constantly eat as I can happily get by on breakfast and dinner only but it is about liking the food and wanting to eat at sensible times, and take my medication

savehannah · 06/03/2022 18:30

I've literally never heard of anyone serving just cheese on its own at any occasion. If they are saying"cheese" it will definitely mean biscuits, crackers, olives, pickles etc. I would have a big brunch or an early lunch before the wedding. Enjoy the full meal you will be served at 4.30 and you will be ready for some snacks mid evening....

As others have said, as an adult, the idea of eating your main meal at a different time from normal shouldn't fill you with dread. For example on Christmas day loads of people have "lunch" around 3pm wich they wouldn't do on a normal day.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 06/03/2022 18:31

Might be nibbles/ canapés before the breakfast though

Gingerbreadman1972 · 06/03/2022 18:33

I think you'll be OK OP, I've got a massive appetite and think I'd be OK with that. As said, just take something in your handbag just in case. 4.30pm isn't a bad time for the meal, much later than that, assuming it's a 3 course one, and it'll run too far into the evening. I went to a wedding once where we didn't eat until 7pm and people were very hungry, it had been a long day, but then come 9pm everyone was too stuffed after 3 courses so the dance floor was empty. Best weddings I've been to have always been where the meal is served 4-5.30 ish, not too long hanging round before hand, and finished in time for a good party afterwards.

starfishmummy · 06/03/2022 18:39

LSt wedding we went to we were not expecting much in the way of evening food as the main reception meal was due to be about 5pm - and of course in the event it was late. But there was a big buffet which was fairly intact when we left.

Fluffycloudland77 · 06/03/2022 18:41

Take snacks. I go from full and even tempered to very hungry and unreasonable in no time at all.

I last 3hrs in between meals. My dm still talks about the time I hit her with a handbag because I was hangry. I was only a toddler.

worriedatthemoment · 06/03/2022 18:43

@PinkNails1 I know everyone assuming its 3 course and OP will like it
The last couple weddings i have been to the 3 course meal has been small
Like veg was i carrot a smear of mash and couple slices duck breast with a piece of watercress, no dessert as wedding cake later

Twofurrycats · 06/03/2022 18:45

Having attended and worked at a lot of weddings I'd take a snack stash with me. I've seen under and over catering aplenty. Nothing worse than been stuck in an out of the way venue with not enough food. If you don't need to eat it bring it home for during the week.

Ponoka7 · 06/03/2022 18:45

I've been to a few weddings were one of us has had to pop out and go the chippy. We got around four sausages or a pie each. I'd want something to soak up the alcohol. I always have something in my hotel room, if there isn't 24 hour takeaways about. Bread dipped in a pot noodle is fit after a night out.

OMG12 · 06/03/2022 18:46

Surely the 3 course (presumably) wedding breakfast will keep you going? You’ll be eating before the wedding. Then cheese and cake for a supper? You might be starving but the majority won’t be so yes pack a picnic by all means to suit your needs but I don’t think the bride and groom have done anything unreasonable as for the majority this would be absolutely fine.

LaTangerina · 06/03/2022 18:47

@Frauhubert

Can you imagine the type of person fretting about ‘starving’ at a wedding, having finished a three course meal+ coffee + cake + massive stand alone blocks of cheese

😂

Benjispruce5 · 06/03/2022 18:48

The 4.30 meal is your evening meal and will probably last a couple of hours. I presume you will eat lunch before the ceremony. Cheese and cake in the evening sounds perfect.

Gwenhwyfar · 06/03/2022 18:48

@Staggersaurus

Unless the wedding breakfast is literally a slice of toast and a bowl of cereal I think you will be fine. It’s probably a 3 or 4 course meal which won’t be finished until 6 at the earliest. Could you really manage another meal later on in the evening?
Exactly. Wedding meals are usually 3 courses so you'll be full just from that.
PurpleDaisies · 06/03/2022 18:50

Would you like to share what sort of person you think that is @LaTangerina?

I’ve got a large appetite. I worry about when I’ll eat and if there’s enough at weddings to not feel miserably hungry or get totally hammered. The food provided is totally out of my control. I’ve got a normal relationship with food. Weddings are tricky for eating.

I wouldn’t expect the bride and groom to change anything but I always take extra food just in case.

crackersforcrackers · 06/03/2022 18:51

Wedding portions tend to be on the small side so I think you will be hungry. It doesn't sound enough food to me so I would definitely take snacks in your handbag!

Blossom64265 · 06/03/2022 18:51

Instead of wondering what “cheese” involves, just look up the catering menu for the venue. It is probably available online.

LuckySantangelo35 · 06/03/2022 18:52

@Aztecprint6 you might normally eat your dinner and pudding at 7pm but would that be the case if you had a full three course dinner earlier in the day?! Most people really wouldn’t want anything else later maybe just a small snack which you can have a la the cheese and cake!
I think you’ll be fine. Probs too busy enjoying yourself chatting, drinking and dancing to feel any hunger pangs!