to think I am going to be starving at this wedding?

[Aztecprint6]

Wedding breakfast is at 4:30pm.

Evening food will be wedding cake and some cheese.

AIBU to think I am going to have to bring along a sandwich and some late night snacks?

Hilarious that @MyDcAreMarvel is talking about about food issues in someone wanting to eat after 5pm, when on the pizza-reception thread, she's said anyone over the age of 12 needs at least a large (13.5 inch) Dominos pizza to themselves. What a wind up. 😂

I think I’d rather not have guests like you tbh. Some people are constantly thinks about their next meal by the sound aid some on this thread. Cheese is generally served with crackers of some sort so a plate of that and a piece of cake is several hundred to 1000 calories so should be plenty to prevent starvation.

@Blossom64265

Instead of wondering what “cheese” involves, just look up the catering menu for the venue. It is probably available online.

I thought you were going to suggest googling cheese.

But yes if you're that worried it's just going to be a cheese slice OP look for the menu or give the hotel a ring.

@PurpleDaisies A greedy person? Greedy people/greedy behaviour does exist

YABU for describing yourself as going to be starving.
The word you should have used was hungry.

I’m sure you’ll be fine. It’s one evening.

[quote LuckySantangelo35]@PurpleDaisies A greedy person? Greedy people/greedy behaviour does exist[/quote]
I’m not greedy. I would fall into the category of “fretting” about whether there would be enough food. It’s a long time for it to be outside my control. That’s why I’d take snacks. It’s not greed.

@Aztecprint6

I'm with you here and been in the same position at a friends wedding.

Had breakfast beforehand but no time for any other food till the wedding breakfast meal which was lovely but small portions (like they always are at these events)

We then had some cheese and crackers and I mean some as in a handfuls worth per person in the evening.

I was still hungry

I would definitely take decent snacks for the room for when you go up.

The only time I have abbey really hungry at a wedding was an all day affair where we were served basically an afternoon tea between tables of 8 where there were 2 small triangles of sandwich and tiny cake each, then in the evening a choice of hotdog or beef burger. Not great as I am veggie. Luckily my DH was only invited to the night so and it was close by so when I popped home to pick him up I had a full meal.

Have an earlier lunch so by 5 (which is realistically when you'll be served) you'll be hungry. Eat a 3 course meal until 6:30ish, then around 9, supper of cake and cheese and biscuits, that should be enough?

Have some room snacks just in case.

Have a big late-ish breakfast in the morning, that should at least see you through the ceremony. Will there be any canapés between the ceremony and the meal? Where I work we host quite a lot of weddings and pretty much every couple has canapés going around for the guests when they are getting their photos done. Then you are presumably having a 3 course meal which like other posters have said will last until 6.00/6.30pm. And the "cheese and cake" will probably be more like cake (usually more left over than you think), variety of cheeses with oatcakes, maybe some grapes, chutneys etc. If you're drinking presumably that is also going to take up some space in your stomach. By all means take some snacks to eat in your room after if you think you'll still be hungry but "starving" is a bit of an exaggeration

@PurpleDaisies
But you said you’d worry about when you can eat? Why? Can you not tolerate feeling hungry from time to time like most adults? Most adults are able to recognise that they’re hungry, rationalise that they’re going to get food soon and will thus be fine and then crack on with whatever they are doing until meal time.

[quote LuckySantangelo35]@PurpleDaisies
But you said you’d worry about when you can eat? Why? Can you not tolerate feeling hungry from time to time like most adults? Most adults are able to recognise that they’re hungry, rationalise that they’re going to get food soon and will thus be fine and then crack on with whatever they are doing until meal time.[/quote]
Ive been at weddings where the main meal has been two hours after advertised and I’ve almost fainted. I also get drunk really easily so it’s pretty sensible to want to try to prevent that. You never know how big a three course meal will be. At a restaurant you can just order more food but that option isn’t open to you at a wedding. If you’re vegetarian (as I am) the food is even more of a lottery as to whether it’s filling or not.

You’ve just said people who worry about whether they’ll be hungry are just greedy. It’s definitely more than just that for some of us.

@Kate0902900908 no one is gonna be hungry at 8pm following what is likely to be three courses at 4.30pm! The breakfast will probably take at least an hour and a half-2 hours taking you to about 6pm earliest. I cannot believe anyone could genuinely be hungry 2 hours after eating a three course dinner

@PurpleDaisies I suppose I do think people who get preoccupied about the food at a wedding- whether it’ll be enough, whether it will be to their exact tastebuds, when they’ll get to eat it etc are a bit greedy, yeah

We did this, we couldn’t book our lunch (breakfast) any earlier, knew it wouldn’t be finished till at least 6.30 so thought a full buffet would be a bit much. We had a ton of cheese, all the usual cheeseboard extras and a 4 tier cake where each layer was a different type. Guests seemed to like it but maybe they were just being polite

As much as OP is being unreasonable, she must be feeling really crap right now with the weight of MN piling on her. How about laying off. Everything has now been said, over and over.

no one is gonna be hungry at 8pm following what is likely to be three courses at 4.30pm!

You know what’s on the menu? The last wedding I was at: melon followed by a tiny mushroom risotto with a big pile of watercress and an espresso cup of chocolate mouse with a few strawberries. Plus a chocolate mint thing with coffee after.
I was still hungry at the end of the meal without even thinking about a few hours later.

You are just having an early dinner with a snack later, what’s the issue?!

Eat breakfast and lunch and then attend the wedding. Would you be so horrified if the meals were the other way around I.e snack first and dinner later? There’s no difference!

@PurpleDaisies

no one is gonna be hungry at 8pm following what is likely to be three courses at 4.30pm!

You know what’s on the menu? The last wedding I was at: melon followed by a tiny mushroom risotto with a big pile of watercress and an espresso cup of chocolate mouse with a few strawberries. Plus a chocolate mint thing with coffee after.
I was still hungry at the end of the meal without even thinking about a few hours later.

@PurpleDaisies that followed by cake and cheese a couple of hours later would probably do for a lot of people especially on top of booze which can fill you up. Plus there’s so much going on at a wedding most people are distracted and not thinking about food too much

@PurpleDaisies do you have a medical condition? I only ask because it’s not normal to faint because food is 2 hours late.Melon followed by risotto and then mousse is fine by me. I’m sure the bar sells crisps and nuts and perhaps they’ll be room service.

If I had a three course meal at 4.30pm there is no way I would be starving later.

I think it sounds fine and I'm quite greedy.

I don't like cake but a cheeseboard later in the evening sounds great after what will presumably be a three course meal at tea time. If I was staying over I might take some bananas or cereal bars with me to have in the room before bed if I really needed it. But that's mostly psychological as I think it helps soak up the alcohol.

There will be canapés surely? And the wedding breakfast sometimes takes a while so you’ll be munching dessert around 6-6.30. Take some cereal bars if you’re worried

Surely food isn't the main focus?
It's a wedding..a joyous occasion which you have been chosen to join.
Try and look beyond this and enjoy it for what it is. Life is short.