to think I am going to be starving at this wedding?

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Wedding breakfast is at 4:30pm.

Evening food will be wedding cake and some cheese.

AIBU to think I am going to have to bring along a sandwich and some late night snacks?

Some people’s handbags that they take to an event must be massive to fit in all these snacks! I can’t imagine swapping a little clutch with my phone, card and lipstick in to heft around a massive bag of snacks! And don’t say the snacks will only be tiny…if people are saying bread and cheese won’t fill them, they must be looking at pretty substantial ‘snacks’!

And that's bread and cheese a couple of hours after they've had a three course meal which, even if it's of the posh and fairly small variety, will be reasonably filling.

@PurpleDaisies that’s true your right , no one knows exactly what will be on offer in terms of the sizes or exact contents or whatever. But most peol are too busy thinking about other stuff in advance rather than panicking about food or lack of e.g transport logistics, what they will wear, what gift to buy, etc etc . Few people would be obsessing about the food and feeling they would be prone to fainting knowing they would be getting wedding breakfast at 4.30 and cheese and cake later even if they do not have a breakdown of exactly what that consists of!

But most people are too busy thinking about other stuff in advance rather than panicking about food or lack of e.g transport logistics, what they will wear, what gift to buy, etc etc

Where is anyone panicking? You’re making stuff up now. How much effort does it take to add a pack of oatcakes to your weekly shop or buy a sandwich on the way if you think you might want one?

[quote LuckySantangelo35]@PurpleDaisies that’s true your right , no one knows exactly what will be on offer in terms of the sizes or exact contents or whatever. But most peol are too busy thinking about other stuff in advance rather than panicking about food or lack of e.g transport logistics, what they will wear, what gift to buy, etc etc . Few people would be obsessing about the food and feeling they would be prone to fainting knowing they would be getting wedding breakfast at 4.30 and cheese and cake later even if they do not have a breakdown of exactly what that consists of![/quote]
Well quite. I've honestly, never ever thought about the food at a wedding until it's sat in front of me. I can't imagine being anxious about it in advance.

@PurpleDaisies Not a bit effort no it just wouldn’t cross a lot of people’s mind that they would need a sandwich or oatcakes when they are getting a three course meal and cheese and cake a few hours later . Regardless of the portions, your probably easily gonna be hitting your requisite calories for the day if not going well over when you take booze into account.

Anxious is the wrong word. I’d you’ve had a bad experience with wedding food (and I guarantee anyone who has been veggie for long enough will have), you know there’s a possibility you won’t be fed that well. What’s worse: taking something to eat in case that happens or feeling miserable because you’re really hungry and having to stop drinking so you don’t get totally wasted?

Regardless of the portions, your probably easily gonna be hitting your requisite calories for the day if not going well over when you take booze into account.

Booze calories don’t fill you up. Plenty of calorie dense foods don’t make you feel full. I could easily eat a sharing bag of crisps and be hungry an hour or two later.

@PurpleDaisies why would you feel “miserable” if you were left a bit hungry after the wedding breakfast though? Because you would only be a bit hungry there’s no way you would be “really hungry” even if you considered the portions to be small. Just reassure yourself that you’ll get more food in a bit and just distract yourself. You know like you would if you were at work and was feeling a bit hungry an hour or so before meals at 11am or 3pm or whatever

If you’re hungry after a normal size meal usually, how do you go on with everyday life? Just curious. Do you have really big portions or graze a lot between meals or something?

This is a joke right?

3+ course meal that you're sitting down to at 4:30 means you'll still be eating at 6pm.

That's a perfectly normal time to finish dinner. You'll survive. Especially with cake coming later.

We had finished our dinner (pasta and salad, 1 course) last night by 6:20pm.

Since then I've had 2 cups of tea and water and I'm still alive.

I guess the difference is that many people don’t feel being a bit hungry is a memorable event. I’ve never been a bit hungry at a wedding and I’ve also been to many Inc being a bridesmaid three times. Three courses cheese board and wedding cake, likely bread basket, prob canapés is a lot of food for many folks.

Some people are saying they’d be so hungry after that they would feel faint, or would need to leave as they’d be so starving, and the op is looking to bring a whole roast chicken with her to eat on top of her five course meal.

I’m not sure we should pretend this is healthy eating or normal healthy levels of consumption to be honest. I get the op is slim and she’s clearly not vegetarian either.

I can honestly say I have never sat and worried about how much food I’m going to get, all I do is if I know the meal is at 4.30/5 is I make sure I eat lunch or brunch so I’m not drinking on an empty stomach and feeling hungry and focusing on when I will be fed.

I’m honestly not sure some of the attitudes to food on here is healthy. Not being able to eat as getting ready or not being able to eat as travelling, going up to eight hours without eating, saying five courses isn’t enough and having to eat a whole roast chicken as well in a space of five hours. It’s really normalising poor eating habits.

Some posters on this thread are reminding me of the food quirks of my PILs, who are lovely, but have rigid ideas about food and meal timings.

They used to work in jobs that started and ended early, so would eat their main meal of the day at 4 pm, as soon as they got home. Despite being retired for more than 20 years now, they still eat dinner at four and think even the earliest of early bird/pre-theatre menus are far too late. If we go out for a meal with them at 7 (the absolute earliest we can make because of work) they are famished, fall upon the bread rolls like wolves and are then too full to eat a main course and claim all they want now is ‘a bun’.

They also have strict schedules for the mysterious meals they refer to as ‘a bun’ — ‘Oh, I don’t want lunch, all I want is a bun!’ — but ‘a bun’ is not a bun, it seems to refer to some soup and roll combination offered in the 80s by the café of some long-defunct department store, and which they’ve vainly been trying to find again ever since. Their holidays abroad used to involve horror at the fact that nowhere in Spain would serve them dinner at 4 pm, or could provide a bedtime ‘bun’ at 9 pm…

why would you feel “miserable” if you were left a bit hungry after the wedding breakfast though?

Because in all likelihood, if I was drinking wine I’d end up vomiting in the toilets. I hardly drink through the week and I’ve got no tolerance for it but I do enjoy drinking at special occasions.

I do not want to be hungry at a wedding. The meals I eat at home are pretty balanced so they keep me full. Some of the things I’ve been served at wedding are just artistically arranged vegetables. If that happened in a restaurant I would order a bigger pudding or ask for bread/whatever. You can’t do that at a wedding.

Evening buffets are really hit and miss with how much food is there, again especially if you’re vegetarian. A cheese thing served at 9pm could be fine but I would end up with two crackers and a small cube of cheese. I am not exaggerating when I say that all I’ve had at an evening buffet before is the equivalent of a small packet of crisps when the meat eaters have swept through all the veggie food. That’s not going to keep me drinking and dancing happily all evening.

I am not asking the bride and groom to do anything differently. It is their day and they can do what they want (although making remembering that at buffets, everyone eats the veggie food so you need much more than you think) but if I want to enjoy their day, I do not want to be hungry. What I do at home is not relevant.

Definitely @Baconandmaplesyrup

As a society now hunger is to be avoided at all costs.

Just look at how many snacks kids get.

Accepting that it's normal and fine and healthy to be hungry has really helped me a lot with my health and weight management.

I agree it’s not normal levels of consumption. It’s irrelevant whether someone is overweight or not. I thought op was joking about bringing a whole roast chicken but when you hear what some posters are saying it makes me think maybe not!

Because in all likelihood, if I was drinking wine I’d end up vomiting in the toilets. I hardly drink through the week and I’ve got no tolerance for it but I do enjoy drinking at special occasions.

I'd just adjust my drinking, to be honest, and I love a glass or three. I wouldn't be trying to eat more to overcompensate for some booze.

@PurpleDaisies if I knew that I had no tolerance for alcohol like that id definitely moderate my drinking rather than expect/hope to be provided with really big portions or constant snacks or more meals.

Foods not the issue there, alcohol intolerance is.

Maybe you need to start having a few weekday tipples to build up your alcohol tolerance! 🥂
Lol only joking

It’s not just alcohol. It’s also that some vegetarian wedding food is not filling. If you get to the end of your meal, most people wouldn’t think it was a good thing to still be hungry, especially when you’re not sure what time or how much you’re getting for your next meal. That’s the main thing. I should have swapped those paragraphs around because I now think as well as a fat, unwell, greedy pig, I’ll also be called an alcoholic.

No, I think it's split between greedy pigs and people who understand that after eating canapes, three courses, a cheese course, cake and drinks, quite literally no one is going to be starving/shaking/fainting. It's ludicrous to argue someone would be fainting after that amount of food in the space of an afternoon-evening.

I'd happily call myself a greedy pig and even I think it's ludicrous to think that amount of food would leave anyone even slightly peckish at any point in the day.

@PurpleDaisies alcoholic drinks may be empty calories as in May not make you feel full but they ARE calories nonetheless, still energy still fuel so you’re really unlikely to feel faint or pass out or wherever due to a calories deficit. Unless you regularly eat loads more than 1700-2000 cals per day

It’s also that some vegetarian wedding food is not filling

Exactly

[quote LuckySantangelo35]@PurpleDaisies alcoholic drinks may be empty calories as in May not make you feel full but they ARE calories nonetheless, still energy still fuel so you’re really unlikely to feel faint or pass out or wherever due to a calories deficit. Unless you regularly eat loads more than 1700-2000 cals per day[/quote]
I am not talking about passing out due to calorie deficit. I am talking about being uncomfortably hungry or hammered. If my calories are coming from booze, both of those things are likely.

If you're worried about being hammered then drink less?!

Why are you obsessing over calories @LuckySantangelo35? It’s what you’re eating that makes you feel full or not, not the calorie content.

@ToniLaRoni

If you're worried about being hammered then drink less?!

I knew this would happen.

If I have eaten a sensible meal which has not left me hungry, I am fine to drink the few glasses I like at a wedding. Lots of us veggies have stories to share where the veggie option has been bad, tiny or not filling.

Weddings are weird situations where you’re at the mercy of your hosts making good choices for everyone. That’s pretty hard to get right.