to think I am going to be starving at this wedding?

[Aztecprint6]

Wedding breakfast is at 4:30pm.

Evening food will be wedding cake and some cheese.

AIBU to think I am going to have to bring along a sandwich and some late night snacks?

Well...Every day is an education. I've lived in this country nearly 12 years (US-ian) and this is the first time I've heard the term "wedding breakfast." 🤷‍♀️ I thought it was the reception.

But I digress... Whatever it's called, I would think that a multi-course catered meal in the late afternoon would be sufficient enough to count as a substantial evening meal. Cheese nibbles and cake should be enough of a snack for later in the evening. I'm a fat girl who loves her food and that would be plenty, even for me!

What time is the ceremony? Is it earlier in the day, or directly before the breakfast? If it's a morning event, your bigger issue may be not having enough food to get you through the afternoon, before the "breakfast".

You can spot all the ones who were tight with their evening offerings getting all defensive!! Guests spend a lot to go to your wedding. Feed them properly! Just because they had a 3 course meal in the afternoon doesn't mean you skimp on the evening food!

I don't get what the op wants? A 4.30pm wedding breakfast will finish at about 6 I'd imagine. Surely she doesn't expect another sit down meal at 7/8pm.

@Comedycook at about 9.30 there is usually a buffet or similar. A bit of cheese and crackers to nibble at isn't going to be enough for a lot of people to ward off hunger after an evening of drinking and dancing. My 6ft 5 rugby player husband would be very unimpressed to be presented with a bit of cheese and crackers as it wouldn't touch the sides! Wedding guests are a captive audience, I just think if you're planning a wedding you need to really put guest comfort first if you choose to invite them.

jb7445

So just a pile of cheese and nothing else. Not a cracker to be seen. Or grapes. Or bread. OK... I'll believe that when I see it! Hardly likely....

A 4.30pm wedding breakfast will finish at about 6 I'd imagine. Surely she doesn't expect another sit down meal at 7/8pm

Some posters do! One would expect a hot buffet!

[quote anotherheadache]@Comedycook at about 9.30 there is usually a buffet or similar. A bit of cheese and crackers to nibble at isn't going to be enough for a lot of people to ward off hunger after an evening of drinking and dancing. My 6ft 5 rugby player husband would be very unimpressed to be presented with a bit of cheese and crackers as it wouldn't touch the sides! Wedding guests are a captive audience, I just think if you're planning a wedding you need to really put guest comfort first if you choose to invite them. [/quote]
But there is also cake and they would have finished a three course meal three hours previously. I understand that some people have to eat a lot, and it’s not related to weight, but I think if they have very big appetite then it’s great to bring your own snacks, as purple daisies said, it doesn’t impact any one else, and like the op, she’s a healthy weight with No food issues,,,I just don’t think it’s right to expect the bride and groom to extreme cater.

I love my food, but five courses in five hours would be plenty for me personally, I do not feel this would be starving me and I’d need to bring additional food like sandwiches or a whole chicken to eat as well, but others do. The issue arises when you expect the bridge and groom to provide even more than this due to you having to eat a lot.

I went to a wedding where B&G were both huge cheese esters and had large rounds of cheese all stacked up on top of each other, instead of a wedding cake. There were lots of crackers and grapes put onto tables too though. I don't like fruit cake so I was happy. They might do something like that on evening. Cheese is very filling.

You could always put a banana in your handbag.

I don't think it's helpful to judge OP as "greedy" or the bride and groom as "miserly."
As someone who has an appetite that can be troublesome, here is what I do:
I have an insulated picnic bag from F&M and a large Yeti ice block (not sure if you have Yeti in the UK? But these last minimum 24 hours). Whenever I travel via car or go to an event where I will be staying in a hotel, I put in my favorite waters/diet sodas, some snacks, and a simple sandwich or two. Not because I am piggy, but because sometimes my anxiety kills my appetite. So even if a divine multi-course supper is on offer, if I can't eat at that time, I simply can't eat, but I know at some point I will be hungry so I make sure I have food.
What I wouldn't do is tuck food in my purse or sneak out to a takeaway mid-event!

@caringcarer

You could always put a banana in your handbag.

Don't know why but this made me lol

I've been to loads of weddings where more food is brought out in the evening that wasn't mentioned on the invitation.

I'm sure you'll be fine OP.

@WelliesWithHeels that’s a completely different scenario to this though. Presumably the Op will not be so anxious during the wedding breakfast that she’s unable to eat what is on offer

I served ‘cake and cheese’ as our evening food. In actuality there was at last 6 different huge cheeses, 4 types of cake, pâté and fruits plus a wide variety of crackers and breads, plus tea and coffee. There was loads and I can’t see how anyone could have been hungry as we'd also served canapés and a 3 course meal earlier in the day. I’m sure you’ll get more than a few crackers and a slice of cheddar. It’s not really any different to people who serve bacon sandwiches etc. You’ll be fine.

"To lay on a 3 course meal, and then have to follow it up with a buffet just 3 hours later... sounds mega excessive"

Not 3 hours, more like 4.5!

It will be around three hours or less from when the meal ends. And I suspect there will be snacks.

Have a cooked breakfast first thing. That should see you through. They are spending ££ on the wedding in the first place, so be grateful for them wanting to feed you. If you really think you won't make it, pack a Mars bar in your handbag.

@MiddleOfThePack be grateful for them wanting to feed you????!!! Really?!! How about be grateful people are giving up their time, spending lots of money on outfits/transport/gifts/usually and over priced bar to be at your party!!

Some people’s food shop bill must be enormous!

[quote anotherheadache]@MiddleOfThePack be grateful for them wanting to feed you????!!! Really?!! How about be grateful people are giving up their time, spending lots of money on outfits/transport/gifts/usually and over priced bar to be at your party!! [/quote]
Gosh you sound really angry. Most people I know love a wedding and feel honoured to be invited to share the occasion with friends and loved ones . But it does seem on here sone folks do feel it’s nothing short of an affront to be invited to someone’s wedding

[quote anotherheadache]@MiddleOfThePack be grateful for them wanting to feed you????!!! Really?!! How about be grateful people are giving up their time, spending lots of money on outfits/transport/gifts/usually and over priced bar to be at your party!! [/quote]
@anotherheadache giving up their time? Most people enjoy weddings, it’s a lovely way to fill your time! You get to get dressed up, be around lots of people you presumably like, watch people again you presumably like get married, have lovely food and drinks in a lovely location, have a dance, party etc. What’s not to love? Most people don’t see it as some massive burden and that they’d rather be doing something else!

Most people I know love a wedding and feel honoured to be invited to share the occasion with friends and loved ones

Me too
A chance to catch up with family and friends, a joyous occasion wishing the B&G well for the future, maybe a chance to have a dance, some food whenever, a chance to dress up, and a nice day.
Some people seem to hate weddings, I suggest they just swerve them and leave it to those that enjoy them.
To criticise a wedding before you've even got to go to it is crass in my book.

@anotherheadache : why are you angry at me? I haven't said anything offensive?

Nearly every wedding I’ve been to has the main meal at around 4.30-5pm and then nibbles (like cheese and crackers) at around 8-8.30. Typically ceremony starts around 1pm (usually a few canapés in a drinks reception afterwards). I don’t think what is described here is out of the ordinary at all! And usually plenty of food if the wedding breakfast is a sit down 3-course meal. Have a decent breakfast / brunch beforehand and I think all good!

Jesus Christ some people on here are absolutely vile to posters who happen to have a larger appetite than them! Fwiw op I'd be taking snacks too, I've been to way too many weddings where the 3 course meal has been miniscule portions similar to the size you'd expect for a tasting menu and then a buffet that didn't quite stretch. I get nauseous if I get too hungry and now I'm pregnant that extends to actually vomiting (fun on an empty stomach), I'm not fat or ill it's just how my body reacts to hunger.