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Original poster

to think I am going to be starving at this wedding?

795 replies

Aztecprint6 · 06/03/2022 16:23

Wedding breakfast is at 4:30pm.

Evening food will be wedding cake and some cheese.

AIBU to think I am going to have to bring along a sandwich and some late night snacks?

OP posts:
Gwenhwyfar · 06/03/2022 21:29

"lol it never fails to amaze me the women on mn who exclusively only live on half a handful of trail mix a day and still get terribly bloated"

Yes, people who are full after a 3 course meal eh? How do they do it?

Gwenhwyfar · 06/03/2022 21:30

@theyhavenothingbuttheaudacity

I remember travelling a substantial distance on a Friday evening after I'd been at uni all day and being served one singular white roll contained one sliced sausage inside No wedges or anything with them. Big posh hotel as well paid bar drinks about 60% of your pub mark up cost
I presume you were just going to the evening do? OP is going to the reception too.
LuckySantangelo35 · 06/03/2022 21:31

@theyhavenothingbuttheaudacity it genuinely always amazes me the ones who can apparently eat and eat and eat and are not overweight and just have really fast metabolisms. Who pass out if they don’t eat for a couple of hours or feel faint. They are usually the same posters that have the teenagers who are tall and skinny and sporty but who eat loaves of bread after a meal or whatever. It’s bollocks.

Roussette · 06/03/2022 21:33

If I was to eat every 2 or 3 hours like some on here... I wouldn't get through the front door!

Baconandmaplesyrup · 06/03/2022 21:33

@theyhavenothingbuttheaudacity

lol it never fails to amaze me the women on mn who exclusively only live on half a handful of trail mix a day and still get terribly bloated I'm with you OP Cake and cheese . If you can't afford to feed your guests well don't have a posh wedding
She’s getting a three course meal and then wedding cake and a cheese board. Three hours later. It’s hardly half a handful of trail mix and starving your guests.
DillDanding · 06/03/2022 21:34

This makes me think of my parents' generation - get invited to a wedding and then start fixating on when they will get fed. Very annoying.

TheKeatingFive · 06/03/2022 21:39

I'm with you OP. Cake and cheese. If you can't afford to feed your guests well don't have a posh wedding

Did the three course meal just slip your mind?

VivX · 06/03/2022 21:48

I'm not sure I'd be worried about being hungry in advance of the day itself.

On the other hand, any wedding I've been to (including my own) featured a full 3 or 4 course dinner at around 4/5pm (and sometimes, there were canapes on arrival at the reception, before the wedding breakfast)
And then a fairly substantial buffet at around 8ish - usually a hot fork buffet or something like burger and chips, followed by wedding cake.

(Apart from one wedding where the extended family self-catered a cold buffet (sandwiches, sausage rolls and so on) for the main event but very much under-estimated. Unfortunately, the last dozen or so people in the buffet queue didn't get anything at all, not even a handful of crisps. Everyone just bought crisps and nuts from the bar instead)

DetailMouse · 06/03/2022 21:50

Isn't one main meal and one lighter meal of say, bread, cheese and cake a perfectly normal eating pattern, wedding or not?

Roussette · 06/03/2022 21:53

I would've thought so!

To lay on a 3 course meal, and then have to follow it up with a buffet just 3 hours later... sounds mega excessive.

maddy68 · 06/03/2022 21:54

It won't just be cheese. There will be breads and crackers etc. It's fine !

89redballoons · 06/03/2022 21:55

Depends on the "cheese". We had the sit down meal at 3pm and then loads of cheese, bread, fruit, crackers, chutney etc in the evening, along with cupcakes. I think the cheese cake people calculated about 100g of cheese per head and we had a cupcake per wedding guest with about 20 more on top of that.

I remember asking our venue if they thought we should go for bacon rolls or something as well in the evening and they said no, we'd catered enough. They were right as we had masses of cheese and cake left over afterwards. We sent it in to our workplaces the next Monday for people to munch on during the day, as we were off on honeymoon Grin

LuckySantangelo35 · 06/03/2022 21:56

@DetailMouse Apparently not! You need three full meals a day here with copious snacks in between otherwise you’ll perish!

maddening · 06/03/2022 22:03

A 3 course meal at 4:30, no you will not be starving

KatherineJaneway · 06/03/2022 22:12

I'm going to take a roast chicken.

You'll attract every cat and dog in the vicinity with a cooked roast chicken from Tesco in your bag. Try a BLT sandwich

HalzTangz · 06/03/2022 22:14

@Aztecprint6

Logistically, we will be able to have breakfast but not lunch. But that’s ok as I don’t get very hungry get in the day.

However, having dinner three hours earlier than normal means that yes indeed, we will be starving come around 9 or 10pm! I don’t think a block of cheese is gonna cut it Confused

But you won't starve. The cake, cheese, pickles, crackers, bread and fruit will ride you over in then evening. Ask people who get no food from one day to the next what starving feels like.
CourtRand · 06/03/2022 22:19

Yeah I'd take something in my bag just in case

LuckySantangelo35 · 06/03/2022 22:24

@Aztecprint6 just seen your previous post about what you think should be offered after the wedding breakfast? You want fish and chips? Fish and chips would be the main meal of the day for most people OP, at least 700-800 cals.

BeHappy91818 · 06/03/2022 22:27

You can see why people are so fat now by the reply’s to this thread.

Constant need to eat.

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Aztecprint6 · 06/03/2022 22:28

[quote LuckySantangelo35]@Aztecprint6 just seen your previous post about what you think should be offered after the wedding breakfast? You want fish and chips? Fish and chips would be the main meal of the day for most people OP, at least 700-800 cals.[/quote]
Clearly not a proper fish and chips! Of course not. Loads of venues offer an evening mini fish and chips in a cone, or pizza slices, or a buffet, or bacon butties, sausage rolls... something more substantial than... cheese?

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Aztecprint6 · 06/03/2022 22:28

@Roussette

I would've thought so!

To lay on a 3 course meal, and then have to follow it up with a buffet just 3 hours later... sounds mega excessive.

Not 3 hours, more like 4.5!
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PurpleDaisies · 06/03/2022 22:30

@BeHappy91818

You can see why people are so fat now by the reply’s to this thread.

Constant need to eat.

You’re assuming those of us who have said we think we might be hungry are fat. I’m certainly not. The op has said she isn’t either.

Again, it’s a lazy assumption. Wedding portions are really variable.

LuckySantangelo35 · 06/03/2022 22:32

@PurpleDaisies whether someone is overweight or not there’s just no need to eat constantly

Batshitkerazy · 06/03/2022 22:37

There’s absolutely no way of knowing how substantial the wedding breakfast is going to be, and what the cheese buffet is actually going to consist of. Tiny 3 portions at 4:30pm with a limited selection of cheese later on, with lots of dancing and alcohol, yep I would be hungry about 9pm

Generous portions in the wedding breakfast, with plentiful cheese/bread/crackers/chutneys/fruit later on, less so

Roussette · 06/03/2022 22:38

OP I was just quoting a pp who was expecting this.

Do you, though, think it's just aump of cheese on a plate? Or a mini babybel? No crackers, french bread, chutneys, celery, grapes etc...just cheese?
Doubtful

Gosh! 4 hours without food! Better lay on ambulances for all those guests passing out!