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to think I am going to be starving at this wedding?

795 replies

Aztecprint6 · 06/03/2022 16:23

Wedding breakfast is at 4:30pm.

Evening food will be wedding cake and some cheese.

AIBU to think I am going to have to bring along a sandwich and some late night snacks?

OP posts:
HTH1 · 06/03/2022 22:41

Cheese and cake sounds good, as long as there’s plenty of them. The problem you have is skipping lunch, so there must be a way to bring some for the journey (or have brunch if wedding is an afternoon one).

kittensinthekitchen · 06/03/2022 22:41

@Aztecprint6

I decree you are single-handedly responsible for the obesity crisis and the downfall of the NHS.
You were probably also present at all of Boris Johnson's lockdown parties.

BigDaddio · 06/03/2022 22:41

Why aren't you having your lunch before the wedding ? Sorry if I'm getting the timings mixed up but sound like you could treat the wedding breakfast as dinner...

theyhavenothingbuttheaudacity · 06/03/2022 22:42

You could take the MN roast chicken that feeds the 5000?

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 06/03/2022 22:42

Have a later brunch and take a snack. I’m sure you’ll survive.

anotherheadache · 06/03/2022 22:43

I went to a wedding a couple of weeks ago. We had 3 course dinner (wedding breakfast) at about 4.30pm. By 8 and after a few drinks everyone is hungry again. Fortunately at this wedding there were mini fish and chips/pizza slices/ mini burger/ mini kofta kebabs circulating as evening food, it was perfect and there was plenty of it! Best wedding I've been to food wise!

I agree op. Unless there's a lot of bread and meats to go with the cheese, it's not enough.

JennyTwoPenny · 06/03/2022 22:46

It won't just be cheese. It will be cheese and crackers with fruit etc and then cake. That's a substantial amount of food plus you will have had a three course meal in the afternoon.

Rachellow · 06/03/2022 22:47

It’s an early big dinner + snacks in the evening. Just make sure you have a big brunch esque meal in the morning if you’ve not got time for. Lunch before the wedding.

FinallyFluid · 06/03/2022 22:49

@MyDcAreMarvel

Most do not pudding every day , except maybe some children. If you start eating normally now op your body will adjust to normal portions by the wedding.
Grin

Someone said up the thread, there is a reason a fair chunk of the population are obese.

oviraptor21 · 06/03/2022 22:53

Cheese and cake sounds ..... unappetising.

justasking111 · 06/03/2022 22:56

I remember a wedding church service at 11am. Then off to a hotel in the country. The family went off for photos. Guests retired to the bar, well they ran out of crisps, nuts, people were hungry and bored we finally went into dinner at 6pm. Guests hangry with the beginnings of hangovers in some cases, it wasn't great

MyDcAreMarvel · 06/03/2022 23:13

@kittensinthekitchen Secondly, the OP never once said they would be having a three course meal
oh dear are you one of the posters that doesn’t understand what a wedding breakfast is?

LuckySantangelo35 · 06/03/2022 23:18

Most wedding breakfasts are at least three courses

toomuchlaundry · 06/03/2022 23:32

Not all weddings have a full on wedding breakfast. I am going to one that is supposedly only going to provide nibbles at 2pm and single course evening meal. No cake either Sad. I may take snacks. B&G want a simple affair but I think they may have pared it down a bit much

ForgedInFire · 06/03/2022 23:37

I would probably put a couple of snacks in my bag. Between dancing and booze I would definitely get peckish (more then cheese and fruit would satisfy) but I understand why the b&g don't want to shell out for an evening buffet as well

3Daddy31982 · 06/03/2022 23:42

B and G can't afford a decent wedding. Cheapskates!

Warpedfrailty · 06/03/2022 23:47

Traditional wedding cake is gross. Terribly thick icing and dry cake.

At least you'll have cheese. That makes up for it.

surreygirl1987 · 06/03/2022 23:53

Actually I'd be tempted to take some snacks just in case. If I had my dinner at 4:30/5pm I'd be ravenous by the late evening. Especially if I was drinking as well. I have been hungry at a wedding before.

I was worried about this happening st my wedding so I decided to do an afternoon tea for the wedding breakfast, then a bbq for the dinner. Plus cake and a cheese tower and crackers later on. Everyone was stuffed.

LuckySantangelo35 · 07/03/2022 00:10

@3Daddy31982

B and G can't afford a decent wedding. Cheapskates!
@3Daddy31982 what should they be providing in order for it to be a decent wedding do you think?
Feedingthebirds1 · 07/03/2022 00:34

@JennyTwoPenny

It won't just be cheese. It will be cheese and crackers with fruit etc and then cake. That's a substantial amount of food plus you will have had a three course meal in the afternoon.
A lot of PPs have said the same. But if it's wedding cake, and it's a fruit cake, fruit cake and cheese IS a thing. (Usually Wensleydale cheese, but not always.) So the block of cheese may not be far off.

www.thecourtyarddairy.co.uk/blog/fruitcake-paired-cheese-origins-history/

MrsClatterbuck · 07/03/2022 00:43

Mustn't be an Irish wedding. Here we usually have something after the wedding in the church hall. Sandwiches sausage rolls and traybakes for starters. Then the photos and guests get tea/coffee and maybe shortbread at the hotel. Then the sit down 3 course meal. If there is an evening do then in the middle there are more eats more sausage rolls cocktail sausages chicken nuggets sandwiches and maybe more traybakes. And maybe some of the wedding cake. You get the idea.

EeeICouldRipATissue · 07/03/2022 01:15

I'm with you, that's crap
YANBU
Half 4 is early to have your evening meal, every wedding I've been to there's been some kind of buffet type food at least laid out for the evening reception.
Seeing as I can't even eat cake and cheese, hope there'd be an alternative option otherwise I'd just be getting pissed and hangry way too easily lol

Bromse · 07/03/2022 01:31

Feedingthebirds1: A lot of PPs have said the same. But if it's wedding cake, and it's a fruit cake, fruit cake and cheese IS a thing. (Usually Wensleydale cheese, but not always.) So the block of cheese may not be far off.
..............
I like fruit cake and cheese together very much, currant buns and scones with cheese too. Yum, I'm feeling hungry at the thought.

I'm sure the op will have plenty to eat at the celebration. People don't usually stint at weddings.

BarbaraofSeville · 07/03/2022 05:18

@oviraptor21

Cheese and cake sounds ..... unappetising.
You can tell you've never had Christmas cake in Yorkshire. Smile

It's against the law here to serve fruit cake without a Wensleydale accompaniment.

Baconandmaplesyrup · 07/03/2022 06:52

This thread is normalising excess. I’ve never been to a wedding where the main meal was tiny portions, it’s normal healthy size portions, simply many people don’t understand what that looks like anymore.

And a choice of cheese board or wedding cake, or both, three hours after finishing the meal is not being stingy with food and starving your guests.

It’s fine if you eat a lot and this isn’t enough for you in a five hour period and you need more on top, but the bride and groom are already providing a lot of food for their guests. So if you also need to eat a whole roast chicken or sandwiches on top of the five courses in those few hours, fair enough, but it’s not the bride and groom’s responsibility to feed to this extent.

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