To think if you work from home, you’ll have interruptions

[Positivelyperfect]

I have a DH wfh and a toddler. I pick the toddler up at around 4, home for 430. DH finishes at 6, which leaves an hour and a half or so of time where DS is constantly trying to get to DH, crying and having tantrums.

DH ‘solution’ to this is take DS out but tbh I really don’t think I should have to do this five days a week!

If I was MNHQ, the comments stating that my DS is better off without me because of my mental state would warrant an instant ban.

You'd think

I'm so sorry about the shit you've had to put up with here OP. Even by aibu standards, it's been jaw dropping.

And @LottyD32 my child isn’t ‘nearly 18 months’

I have seen some spiteful posts on here but if MN don’t take action against yours then how they can call themselves a supportive site for parents is beyond me.

Going to pick mine up at 5 rather than 5.30 today and demand nursery give me half an hour’s worth of the hourly rate back

I can't believe we've been missing this trick for years 😂

More fool us

@GoldenOmber

Going to pick mine up at 5 rather than 5.30 today and demand nursery give me half an hour’s worth of the hourly rate back.

Mine didn’t eat her tea yesterday, hoping for the cost of the meal refunded

@Escargooooooo

By the way, here's a section from one nursery document. With the hourly rates that don't exist. That the children I don't have, attend.

(Fucking idiots)

Clearly an own goal! It’s the day rate and hours that are relevant.

No way should this thread still be standing MN.

It's awful.

I have already reported it

@Mumofsend

I would suggest he works elsewhere in the house for that last 90 minutes where the door can be closed

I think this too. Assuming he has a laptop he will be better off hiding in one of the bedrooms than being in view of the toddler for the last hour or so.

Mine didn’t eat her tea yesterday, hoping for the cost of the meal refunded

If we play this smart, we might even make a profit 😵

@Positivelyperfect

If I was MNHQ, the comments stating that my DS is better off without me because of my mental state would warrant an instant ban.

Agreed. Vile people!

I think the old saying of 'never take criticism from someone who you wouldn't take advice' applies here OP.

But if op's mental state is as bad as she says off the back of the comments of an internet forum, then putting the child in nursery longer and taking the time between finishing work and picking him up, for herself, might be the best idea.

That was from @LottyD32

I’d be very interested in knowing what MNHQs response to this is. Because that reeks of pure spite, as well as strongly implying that anyone suffering depression / anxiety should have their child kept away from them as much as feasibly possible

@TheKeatingFive

No way should this thread still be standing MN.

It's awful.

I have already reported it

Indeed. People like you, accusing others with children that they must be fake because they, who actually are parents and have actual experience, don't agree with your hypothetical thoughts of what it's like to be a parent, which you're not.

Vile.

@Escargooooooo, you have been absolutely awful on this thread and I’m not the only one who has picked up on it.

However, OP, isn't that exactly what you were writing yourself at about 4 in the morning?
The OP is allowed a moment of self loathing: that doesn’t make it acceptable for other posters to pile on and say similar. I cannot believe that you think that it does.

In mental health threads if an OP said they’d be better off dead, would you be right there saying “You’re right! Do it! It’s OK for me to say that, because you did.”

No - taking it down is what they want, because then their awful comments don’t stand.

I’ll be really annoyed if it’s taken down and Lotty is free to post after that remark to me. It was bang out of order and I’m not normally one to make a massive fuss.

People like you, accusing others with children that they must be fake because they, who actually are parents and have actual experience, don't agree with your hypothetical thoughts of what it's like to be a parent, which you're not.

Sorry, I couldn't get through that incoherent word salad.

Are you going to comment on your 'hourly rate' silliness?

OP I cannot believe some if the truly nasty posts on this thread ( looking at you @ Escargooooooo ) I hope you are ok.
By any chance are you the person who posted a few months ago about not being able to have friends round because you “d” h was wfh ? If so you have the patience of a saint 💐

The hourly rate is nonsense but most of this is childish nonsense and the original point isn’t even being discussed any more. All I want from this thread now is reassurance that a poster who can say such an awful thing is not going to continue to be permitted to post on a website that is supposed to be supportive for parents.

@TheKeatingFive

Going to pick mine up at 5 rather than 5.30 today and demand nursery give me half an hour’s worth of the hourly rate back

I can't believe we've been missing this trick for years 😂

More fool us

What a stupid analogy.

Sorry to piss on your parade and show a nursery that if you wish to attend 8-4 charges for those hours. And if you wish to change your contract to 8-2, charges only for those hours. Because they have hourly rates. And separate day rates.

What an idiotic comment to suggest that you've agreed to contracted hours, but on the day, turn up half an hour early and claim a refund.

@Escargooooooo not only are you coming across as a really unpleasant individual you also sound a bit thick - an unfortunate combination.

@TheKeatingFive

Mine didn’t eat her tea yesterday, hoping for the cost of the meal refunded

If we play this smart, we might even make a profit 😵

Yes! They made biscuits on Monday: child labour, I’m charging an hourly rate for it.

(Also we can fill the last 5 pages with fun and leave the thread standing as OP prefers, without room for the trolls)

Could you possibly change your hours to go in an hour later?

I do think your DH has a responsibility to come up with solutions, one being perhaps he organised his diary so that he doesn't have meetings after 4.30 and if he does he keeps his voice down

He also needs to compromise by working in the office for two days, perhaps days where there are lot of meetings

He shouldn’t expect you to do a full days work, then look after a tired toddler without making compromises himself

I do think some people live in a parallel universe. Just the keys in door would tip me over edge done regularly when I’m carting bags and toddler in.
Coming home after work you want to take bra off and put comfy clothes on, unload bags, wash up eg your lunch Tupperware and his bottles, put bits of shopping away you’ve picked up, make a cup of tea and him a snack. Look at his nursery paintings. If there’s dirty clothes in his bag put a wash on.
I’d fully expect to be able to use all rooms in my own home and toddler potter around. Sit on sofa and read with him or watch a bit of tv.
Having to constantly shush or stop him going to daddy is difficult.
If you don’t do chores then it’s when toddler is in bed and Op will need to go to sleep reasonable time and she is in work at 8am
He’s in nursery 7-4, even if it doesn’t cost more she presumably wants to see him and let him have a little bit of time a home in week. It’s his house too.
If it was a one off meeting etc it’s different but day in day out it’s awful on op and little boy.

Afternoon, all.

We're sorry to those who have taken the trouble to offer support to the OP on this thread, but unfortunately the thread is being repeatedly derailed by posts which break our Talk Guidelines.
As it's no longer helping anyone, we will be taking it down shortly.