Sleazy creep or am I being unfair

[PrincessDani90]

Nothing says creep more than religiously 👍 or ❤️ my bikini selfies whilst you're quite obviously in a relationship with another woman... like away cos if you're that disrespectful to current GF why any better to me? Biggest turn off and creep-dar indicator in my eyes🤮 anyone else agree? Or am I wrong?

Different if he's a mate and gives the same attention to other stuff I post, but when he's in a relationship and quite obviously only reacting to photos that I've made an effort in (I am single!) and not to others with DC or DN&Ns for example. Just gives me the ick🤷‍♀️

Well I wouldn’t post bikini selfies either.

But then again, you’ve got the right to post whatever you like.

It’s a bit tricky. I sort of know what you mean because it is odd and a bit creepy to react to bikini selfies and nothing else from the same person. But I would also say social media is an odd beast, and a “like” doesn’t necessarily mean anything at all.

I think it’s also creepy that you have analysed his ‘like’ habits on yours and other profiles!

So it would be ok if he was also liking your nieces and nephews? Lols again.

I think it’s also creepy that you have analysed his ‘like’ habits on yours and other profiles!
It's going to be fairly obvious if someone's only liking pictures of you when you're glammed up, so I don't think that's a fair judgement of the OP.

@MaryShelley1818

Bikini selfies.....Good grief. Not sure who's sadder. Important lesson for you here.....post creepy half naked photos and attract creepy men. Simple.

That’s some 1950s thinking there.

But you got some attention. Isn't that what you wanted?

Im always liking photos as im scrolling...... More than once ive managed to put a laugh emoji on something serious and ended up with a snarky fb message
Either ways, putting bikini selfies on an online platform is just weird, getting offended when people look at them or react to them is even weirder.

I'd happily post pics of myself in a bikini, that's if I was 100% happy with my body, which I'm not!

@MsTSwift

Well you see the one posting bikini selfies 🙄

Agreed with previous poster.

Surely this must be the 'attention' you are looking for posting the bikini selfies op so why are you complaining?

I genuinely wonder if a man who posted 'I think it is very strange that a woman, who I know is in a relationship, likes every photo of me with my shirt off but ignores the every day, family photos I post. AIBU to think this is creepy and she is after me?' would get the same level of questioning such as

'Why are you posting with your shirt off?'
'Are you an attention seeker?'
'Are you easy?'
'Aren't you inviting this?'
'Why don't you move this content to OnlyFans?'

Exactly @SafeMove

If he was commenting 'wow - your so hot' or suggestive comments then then it would be creepy.

He's not, he's just putting likes on? I think it's bizarre that you are objecting to someone liking photo's of you...isn't that the point of putting them up on social media?

@SafeMove

I genuinely wonder if a man who posted 'I think it is very strange that a woman, who I know is in a relationship, likes every photo of me with my shirt off but ignores the every day, family photos I post. AIBU to think this is creepy and she is after me?' would get the same level of questioning such as

'Why are you posting with your shirt off?'
'Are you an attention seeker?'
'Are you easy?'
'Aren't you inviting this?'
'Why don't you move this content to OnlyFans?'

I wouldn't ask those questions but I would think it was a bit odd for a man to frequently post pictures of himself with his shirt off unless he was asking: "Do you think this mole is anything to worry about?"

Posting bikini selfies? You are presenting yourself to be admired and lusted over. He's admiring you and lusting over you. Seems hypocritical to split hairs about him being in a relationship or not.

If you think that he's a sleazy creep, why can he see your pics?

Thanks for all the replies I haven't had a chance to read all as have work.
Not in UK and warm enough for the beach!
Not posting just me a bloody bikini constant, but I put up a mix of photos from days out etc and just used the bikini as example but only 2 photos on my social media of me in swimwear. One is a bikini with kaftan over the top and no cleavage at all as high necked. The other was a tankini again high necked that's my DSIS had sent me for my birthday which is why I took took the photo! It was just an example that he'd go through a selection and only react to certain ones. I don't have a beach body. Nothing I post is revealing and not confident at all to be all here's me and my bits😂
I stated I was single but I'm not interested in meeting anyone at all. I'm happy with my kids and my friends. I don't post for attention, I share with friends and family not on the same country or local and it's not revealing only fans type stuff if I did then I wouldn't and couldn't say much! It's friends family landscapes places of interest with rarely more than one selfie type headshot once every few weeks. But every single one he's on it. Bypasses photos of mutual friends that are included that he is closer to than I am. Always in a group of 5-10 photos of a day.
I was going to block him but thought I'd ask on here first whether IABU

@PrincessDani90

Thanks for all the replies I haven't had a chance to read all as have work. Not in UK and warm enough for the beach! Not posting just me a bloody bikini constant, but I put up a mix of photos from days out etc and just used the bikini as example but only 2 photos on my social media of me in swimwear. One is a bikini with kaftan over the top and no cleavage at all as high necked. The other was a tankini again high necked that's my DSIS had sent me for my birthday which is why I took took the photo! It was just an example that he'd go through a selection and only react to certain ones. I don't have a beach body. Nothing I post is revealing and not confident at all to be all here's me and my bits😂 I stated I was single but I'm not interested in meeting anyone at all. I'm happy with my kids and my friends. I don't post for attention, I share with friends and family not on the same country or local and it's not revealing only fans type stuff if I did then I wouldn't and couldn't say much! It's friends family landscapes places of interest with rarely more than one selfie type headshot once every few weeks. But every single one he's on it. Bypasses photos of mutual friends that are included that he is closer to than I am. Always in a group of 5-10 photos of a day. I was going to block him but thought I'd ask on here first whether IABU

Yes, YABU. Hope this helps.

Op, people are piling on here so I'm going to choose my words carefully because I don't want to add to it.
What do you want as a result of the bikini selfies? Is it a relationship? Or just a hook up? Some ego boosting?
If it's a hook up then you're going about it the right way, but honestly I think if you're looking for something more serious then (rightly or wrongly) bikini selfies aren't the way to go.
Of course it's creepy that he's only liking your bikini pics, it reflects how he views you.
Could I also gently suggest, if you want to carry on posting suggestive photos, that you separate them from your family pics. Maybe have two pages? As my son has gotten older he hasn't thanked me for posting him on my (private) SM and I can imagine if I had suggestive sexy shots on there too he would be bloody mortified.

Sorry cross posted with your latest post. I was imagining your page to be a series of booby pics with a couple family pics thrown in lol

I was waiting for your response OP - on my social media there are plenty of men and women who regularly post pictures of themselves with their shirts off/in a bikini/in swimming costumes or even naked because they either live in hot countries/they are climbing mountains or rock faces/running/they are wild swimming/they are part of body confidence movements or they are just confident with showing their sexual side.

This thread immediately jumped to the position that you were doing something wrong off a limited 7 lines of information - comments immediately went to your culpability and responsibility, how you should change what you wear, what you post, who you post to, where you should post and how you post. It also made assumptions about your intentionality, your feelings and your relationship status. My question is would a man posting topless face this level of scrutiny and in some cases outright hostility?

Nothing I post could be suggested as being sexy or revealing or suggestive.
I do know him. We have met at events locally and we have mutual friends. I don't have anyone I don't know on RL on there

@PrincessDani90

Thanks for all the replies I haven't had a chance to read all as have work. Not in UK and warm enough for the beach! Not posting just me a bloody bikini constant, but I put up a mix of photos from days out etc and just used the bikini as example but only 2 photos on my social media of me in swimwear. One is a bikini with kaftan over the top and no cleavage at all as high necked. The other was a tankini again high necked that's my DSIS had sent me for my birthday which is why I took took the photo! It was just an example that he'd go through a selection and only react to certain ones. I don't have a beach body. Nothing I post is revealing and not confident at all to be all here's me and my bits😂 I stated I was single but I'm not interested in meeting anyone at all. I'm happy with my kids and my friends. I don't post for attention, I share with friends and family not on the same country or local and it's not revealing only fans type stuff if I did then I wouldn't and couldn't say much! It's friends family landscapes places of interest with rarely more than one selfie type headshot once every few weeks. But every single one he's on it. Bypasses photos of mutual friends that are included that he is closer to than I am. Always in a group of 5-10 photos of a day. I was going to block him but thought I'd ask on here first whether IABU

@PrincessDani90 - based on what you've posted here your photos are fine!

Ignore the posters who are frothing at the mouth thinking you're on Only Fans or something!

This man is being a perv/creep by being sleazy so definitely block him.

My first post wasn't clear and didn't give enough information.

@PrincessDani90

Nothing I post could be suggested as being sexy or revealing or suggestive. I do know him. We have met at events locally and we have mutual friends. I don't have anyone I don't know on RL on there

@PrincessDani90 - this man is a perv and is hoping he'll get lucky by messaging/commenting etc to you.

So block him, and I wouldn't separate your photos and when you see him at events locally just do grey rock and ignore him.

If I have sometimes posted 'suggestive' (e.g. dressed up photos) then yes sometimes a male friend might like them and you'd have to be stupid not to know why... and I've lost count the number of male 'acquaintances' who I barely know but are FB friends have sometimes messaged me and other FB friends suggesting a hook up - and these men are often married/in relationships! We just ignore, laugh and give each other the heads up here!

Well that was misleading....a kaftan and vest and pants.