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Sleazy creep or am I being unfair

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PrincessDani90 · 03/03/2022 05:58

Nothing says creep more than religiously 👍 or ❤️ my bikini selfies whilst you're quite obviously in a relationship with another woman... like away cos if you're that disrespectful to current GF why any better to me? Biggest turn off and creep-dar indicator in my eyes🤮 anyone else agree? Or am I wrong?

Different if he's a mate and gives the same attention to other stuff I post, but when he's in a relationship and quite obviously only reacting to photos that I've made an effort in (I am single!) and not to others with DC or DN&Ns for example. Just gives me the ick🤷‍♀️

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Momicrone · 03/03/2022 09:11

Is this for real, its a joke post surely

RestingMurderousFace · 03/03/2022 09:13

Oh dear 😆

LowlandLucky · 03/03/2022 09:17

I think it is as creepy as hell that you post bikini selfies begging for attention from anyone and everyone then moan when what you want happens, but there you are we are all different.

rattlehum · 03/03/2022 09:17

Are you in the U.K. cos it's definitely not bikini weather atm

Wiredforsound · 03/03/2022 09:17

Maybe you could just share the bikini selfies with people you want to like them? Or you could block the people you don’t want to see your bikini selfies? Wouldn’t that be easiest? There are tonnes of ways to control what people see.

AChocolateOrangeaday · 03/03/2022 09:19

Why DO you post them then OP?

DrSbaitso · 03/03/2022 09:21

To add...it reads like a man who is not only trying to get women to justify men liking bikini selfies, but also to get them to attack women who post bikini selfies.

Can't say the username is doing anything to defuse my suspicions.

rhowton · 03/03/2022 09:23

How dare you post a picture in a bikini... You are just asking for trouble.... It is all your fault.....

KindlyKanga · 03/03/2022 09:24

quite obviously only reacting to photos that I've made an effort in (I am single!) and not to others with DC or DN&Ns for example

If you're posting photos of children, and not even your own children, you better lock down your profile really tight. And if you think he is creepy then it's better he isn't liking those photos surely!!

Beautiful3 · 03/03/2022 09:24

Probably best.not to put bikini selfies up. You can't control who likes and comments on them, unless you block them.

lovelyluvvy · 03/03/2022 09:25

You're both being unreasonable. Him liking all of your posts is probably him trying to signal he's up for an affair. I'm not here to 'slut shame' anyone, you are free to post whatever you like without judgement from me, but stating you're posting bikini selfies because you are single rings alarm bells that you are trying to get attention in a way that is so direct it's only going to attract creeps and look a bit desperate. Alter your game plan.

Thewiseoneincognito · 03/03/2022 09:26

Sorry OP but in my view posting bikini selfies is a bit trashy and screams desperately easy, you’re seriously expecting guys to stoically scroll on by?

If you’re single why not join a dating app or Onlyfans where you’d have an audience for that type of content?

WorraLiberty · 03/03/2022 09:26

I love this thread.

It's like the OP woke up at 5am and thought 'what can I do today? I know, I'll name change and wind Mumsnet up with a thread about bikini selfies 🤣🤣

Ohyesiam · 03/03/2022 09:27

I realise this could be seen as victim blaming, but you have to take some responsibility for your side of things. Posting bikini selfies is not a neutral act, it will get responses and you might not like some of them.

It’s like most things, there are risks and benefits and you have to weigh them up.

Waxonwaxoff0 · 03/03/2022 09:27

@Thewiseoneincognito

Sorry OP but in my view posting bikini selfies is a bit trashy and screams desperately easy, you’re seriously expecting guys to stoically scroll on by?

If you’re single why not join a dating app or Onlyfans where you’d have an audience for that type of content?

2022 and we're calling women "easy." I'm embarrassed for you.

Waxonwaxoff0 · 03/03/2022 09:29

@Thewiseoneincognito

Sorry OP but in my view posting bikini selfies is a bit trashy and screams desperately easy, you’re seriously expecting guys to stoically scroll on by?

If you’re single why not join a dating app or Onlyfans where you’d have an audience for that type of content?

Only fans for a bikini? Hope you don't ever go to the beach. Pathetic.

Gonnagetgoing · 03/03/2022 09:31

Some people post bikini selfies to show they're on holiday, or losing weight and want to show the difference in their bodies.

I don't think there's anything wrong in doing this OP and he is a creep but yes men do perve over these photos so delete and block him.

didshedidntshe · 03/03/2022 09:32

@MaryShelley1818

Bikini selfies.....Good grief. Not sure who's sadder. Important lesson for you here.....post creepy half naked photos and attract creepy men. Simple.

What about if I was on the beach in a bikini and a man commented in the same sorts of way but in person? Would you attitude be the same??

Cissyandflora · 03/03/2022 09:32

You’ve just said you’re trying to reel some in with bikini selfies lols.

This reminds me of a poster at my local gp surgery. They had photos of all members of staff with names to identify everyone to the public. Most were nice headshots suitable for the professional environment. One was a glamour shot of one of the female receptionists. I can’t remember if she was in a bikini but it was something similar. Hilarious I thought.

If I had to use my body to reel them in I’d be single forever. Oh hang on - I am.

Gonnagetgoing · 03/03/2022 09:32

I would say if all selfies you post are bikini ones then that is a bit sad and probably means you're an attention seeker... unless you're a swimwear model. And even then...

Bikini selfies mixed in with other selfies is better.

girlmom21 · 03/03/2022 09:33

There's a big difference between a picture of you on the beach and a selfie in a bikini in your bedroom...

SallyWD · 03/03/2022 09:34

Jesus - why on earth are you posting bikini selfies if you don't want people to notice them? You're literally putting your body on a public forum for other people to view. I've never posted a bikini selfie so don't have this issue.

didshedidntshe · 03/03/2022 09:34

@Strugglingtodomybest

Yes, it's sleazy.

Out of interest, what do you mean by:
like away cos if you're that disrespectful to current GF why any better to me?

Is it etiquette now that if you 'like' a photo it means you want to go out with the person whose photo it is? In which case, I'm in serious trouble!

Yeah I don't really get this bit either ? OP do you know this guy in real life?

girlmom21 · 03/03/2022 09:35

One more comment from me... don't have people you don't really know on your social media if you're sharing personal information or pictures of your children.

Same360 · 03/03/2022 09:35

Someone clicking a button to ‘like’ one of the photos that you’ve chosen to put on social media is NOT the same as catcalling/shouting abuse as you walk down the street! Its scary to me how many on here seem to think that it is!

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