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Sleazy creep or am I being unfair

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PrincessDani90 · 03/03/2022 05:58

Nothing says creep more than religiously 👍 or ❤️ my bikini selfies whilst you're quite obviously in a relationship with another woman... like away cos if you're that disrespectful to current GF why any better to me? Biggest turn off and creep-dar indicator in my eyes🤮 anyone else agree? Or am I wrong?

Different if he's a mate and gives the same attention to other stuff I post, but when he's in a relationship and quite obviously only reacting to photos that I've made an effort in (I am single!) and not to others with DC or DN&Ns for example. Just gives me the ick🤷‍♀️

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Thehop · 03/03/2022 08:34

I always assume women posting bikini selfies want attention. You’re getting it. Either block or enjoy!

KindlyKanga · 03/03/2022 08:35

If you're looking for romance you're best off going speed dating or something. Instagram likes are either just because they have enjoyed your photo or they like the bikini you are modelling

girlmom21 · 03/03/2022 08:36

@Waxonwaxoff0

OP isn't a victim of course. But it's telling that so many people are ripping into her for daring to show body parts on social media. MN is so weird about this kind of thing.

She can show what she wants when she wants. She also has control over who sees what she post.

KindlyKanga · 03/03/2022 08:38

She can show what she wants when she wants.
She also has control over who sees what she post.

Yup as long as its within their terms and conditions she can flash as much skin as she wants. And she can also block/limit her profile if she doesn't want this man enjoying them

Tanfastic · 03/03/2022 08:38

If you post pictures no matter what it is on social media be it your face. Dog, picture of your dinner, you have no right to complain if people that aren't on your restricted list like or love them.

WTF475878237NC · 03/03/2022 08:39

Prize for the least self-aware and most self-absorbed post of the day! 🏆

^ and so early in the day

Waxonwaxoff0 · 03/03/2022 08:40

Course she does. But she is not unreasonable to say it is sleazy for men in relationships to be liking her bikini pics. She is right, I would not want my partner doing that.

sparepantsandtoothbrush · 03/03/2022 08:40

Posting bikini selfies online then complaining about creeps is a bit like putting a fishing net in water then complaining that it caught fish

Exactly this!

Thisbastardcomputer · 03/03/2022 08:41

Are you Amanda Holden ?

Justcallmebebes · 03/03/2022 08:41

*Prize for the least self-aware and most self-absorbed post of the day! 🏆

Seriously, you are being an absolute dick.

You post bikini selfies on open social media for attention and then moan when you get attention.
If you really had an issue, you'd just block him if you don't want him liking your posts - instead of posting about it on a forum looking for yet more attention.
Grow up and get a real life.*

^This

sparepantsandtoothbrush · 03/03/2022 08:42

Obviously you're doing it for the likes otherwise you wouldn't be monitoring who's "liking" it like a 14 year old

georgarina · 03/03/2022 08:42

Yes that's not good behaviour.

I have (gasp) pics in a bikini on social media from holidays, etc. Would be weird if married men or men in a relationship liked them.

People are so narrow minded here. Presumably if a women were wearing makeup and a sundress walking down the street, she deserves having men stare and catcall her? Because she wants attention, right?

girlmom21 · 03/03/2022 08:44

@georgarina

Yes that's not good behaviour.

I have (gasp) pics in a bikini on social media from holidays, etc. Would be weird if married men or men in a relationship liked them.

People are so narrow minded here. Presumably if a women were wearing makeup and a sundress walking down the street, she deserves having men stare and catcall her? Because she wants attention, right?

You can't call people narrow minded then make that statement.

If the pictures were to make her feel comfortable or confident she wouldn't need to post them on social media. It's in no way even similar to walking down the street wearing what she wants and feels comfortable in.

sparepantsandtoothbrush · 03/03/2022 08:51

@georgarina

Yes that's not good behaviour.

I have (gasp) pics in a bikini on social media from holidays, etc. Would be weird if married men or men in a relationship liked them.

People are so narrow minded here. Presumably if a women were wearing makeup and a sundress walking down the street, she deserves having men stare and catcall her? Because she wants attention, right?

Why would you find it weird if people liked the holiday photos you posted on social media?

Hiddenvoice · 03/03/2022 08:56

I got my friend into trouble for exactly this.
We both follow the same friend on Instagram and I joked that I noticed that he likes all her bikini pictures but never ones of her fully dressed. I said it as a joke which he took as a joke but his partner was listening and got really angry. He now doesn’t like any of her pictures!
I hadn’t really thought anything of it before since both my husband and can just like stuff randomly without really putting any thought into it.

Yellownightmare · 03/03/2022 08:57

@georgarina

Yes that's not good behaviour.

I have (gasp) pics in a bikini on social media from holidays, etc. Would be weird if married men or men in a relationship liked them.

People are so narrow minded here. Presumably if a women were wearing makeup and a sundress walking down the street, she deserves having men stare and catcall her? Because she wants attention, right?

I don't know. Isn't there a difference between showing photos of you on holiday where you happen to be wearing a bikini and actually taking a selfie, where the only reason for having the photo is to post it on SM?

AnnesBrokenSlate · 03/03/2022 09:03

I don't think you understand social media. If you don't want people to like bikini selfies then don't post them.
Men who don't know you that well won't like photos of you with children. Imagine if they only liked photos with DCs in - then you'd be posting with an entire different set of worries.

Phobiaphobic · 03/03/2022 09:04

Yeah, he's a creep, but you need to do some work on your insecurity and need for attention.

georgarina · 03/03/2022 09:04

@sparepantsandtoothbrush Why would you find it weird if people liked the holiday photos you posted on social media?

Not talking about 'people' in general. If a married man or a man in a relationship liked all the pictures I'd taken when dressed up/in a bikini, I would find that strange and inappropriate.

Same as if a married man constantly complimented me on my outfits, hair, perfume etc - even though there's nothing wrong with me making an effort with these things, and if a female friend complimented me on these things it would be fine.

Babadook76 · 03/03/2022 09:05

@Lewl89

here come the traditional criticisms of selfies. Heaven forbid you're in a BIKINI, you narcissistic harlot

Yes OP. Creepy. Some people are gross and just don't care.

No ones criticising selfies or criticising bikinis. But the only reason women post pictures on social media where they’re mostly naked is to get attention. Which is what she’s getting

Anoisagusaris · 03/03/2022 09:05

Posting bikini selfies is so sad 😆

DrSbaitso · 03/03/2022 09:08

I don't feel like this was written by a woman. It feels like it was written by a man trying to get a load of women to justify liking bikini selfies.

godmum56 · 03/03/2022 09:08

@Waxonwaxoff0

Hmm. Some of the responses here are verging on victim blamey. Would you all be blaming a woman for dressing a certain way if a man was harassing a woman in a street?

Man in relationship likes photo of woman in bikini and it's the woman's fault for wanting "attention".

no I wouldn't be all blaming if she was just going about her business....but posting selfies is saying "look at my cat/dinner/body" which is not the same....I mean what did the OP expect?

pinkyredrose · 03/03/2022 09:09

Are you a Kardashian?

Babadook76 · 03/03/2022 09:10

Seriously though op, literally no one on Fb wants to see photos of you with your tits and fanny hanging out. No one apart from pervs and creeps that is. I promise you if you stop posting all these semi naked photos (how many are you even posting for this to be an issue) then you’ll attract a lot less weirdos

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