“Your job is not as important as my job”

[MarcelDuchamp1]

I work part time, Mon-Fri.
I am part of huge arts organisation and my job is focussed on producing a large piece of national research. Part of my job entails hosting board meetings online via zoom, 5 times throughout the year.
I told DH the dates last year, so he could put them in his diary and be available to collect DS from school on those days, as I’ll be working a full day to prepare and host the board meetings.
DH works remotely from home and goes into his London office maybe once a week.
I have a board meeting next week which I need to host remotely and DH was aware of this but has decided he’s going into the London office that day. Not a necessity, but he wants a face to face with his team. He could do this any day.
He just said because he works full time and he earns more money, his job is more important than mine.
I think this is possibly the most disrespectful thing he’s ever said and I am outraged that he actually believes this is the case - AIBU?

You have an arrogant DH. I’d organise after school club for your DS rather than rely on DH.

@Parker231

You have an arrogant DH. I’d organise after school club for your DS rather than rely on DH.

Why should she organise it? It's up to her husband surely?

I think its outrageous - and not just disrespectful but very hurtful. It could be a massive blow to a person's self esteem and he must be very insensitive if he doesn't see that.

If I was married to him, I’d give him this thread to read. Let him see that it’s not only you that think he’s a prick/knob/dick. All the other Mums do too. And if they’re anything like me ….they’d file for divorce and a big chunk of child/spousal support from their oh so important fat salary!

My husband believes the same thing. I am more educated but he feels he is more important. Honestly it is all he had over me and he feels the need to remind me all the time. Ego is very ugly.

Print this thread out and store it away safely. Have a look in a year's time. See how you feel then.

I might forgive this (with suitable contrition and practical action on his part) but I would not forget.

That’s really disrespectful. Perhaps his toothbrush falls in the loo.

I get this all the damn time, but my job is better paid per day than DH but I'm part time as someone has to look after the kids, so apparently it's not as important.

All the things you do that make life run easier for him - stop doing them. Not his family’s birthdays, not his laundry, not his favourite coffee. Nothing.

You are both people and both equal in your relationship. Neither should believe that they are more important than the other.

I feel for you. My lovely husband has always said my work is "just a job" whereby his is a "career" so his is thereby more important.