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DP eating everyone else's snacks

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DonnyBurrito · 28/02/2022 12:10

DP has a habit of eating other people's snacks. To be honest he doesn't respect that things can belong to other people in general, and feels entitled to use/borrow other people's stuff until it's either broke, lost or damaged because he's held onto it for so long, or used it well past it's shelf life. That kind of stuff is a bit of a pattern, although it's more infrequent than his snack theft.

He has habit of eating a full pack of biscuits, then rooting around in the cupboard for mine or his daughters snacks/sweets and then eating them, too. I don't eat a full bar of chocolate or pack of biscuits in one sitting like him, I tend to just have a bit here and there when I really fancy it. His daughter is only here at weekend and she isn't allowed to scoff entire packs of haribo anyway, but when she comes back the next weekend all of her sweets will have been eaten. He ate all her Christmas chocolate, too. He said it's too hard not to eat everyone else's stuff when it's just sitting there in the cupboard...

So anyway, last night I went to the shop and treated myself to a bar of chocolate, and bought him some of those chocolate pretzels. He finished his pretzels almost immediately, and then asked me if he could have a strip of my chocolate. I said no (because once I give him a bit of whatever I have he decides we are sharing the whole thing and eats at least half of it, when I actually didn't want to share the whole thing or at all). I said no anyway, and then went to bed.

Came downstairs this morning, he'd opened my bar of chocolate and had a couple of strips off it. I was SO ANNOYED. I decided to find something of his that he enjoys and would look forward to, and just chuck it away. Obviously there was nothing in the cupboards or fridge of his cause he eats everything straight away!

So I threw his pack of cigs away. He's been trying to quit smoking, but occasionally has one in the garage late at night here and there. He's promised not to buy any, and hasn't for quite a while (mainly because he can't afford to), but his friend gave him half a pack a few days ago. The bin men were coming this morning so I fed them to the wheelie bin. He has noticed, but he thinks I've just thrown them away to help him quit. Decided not to come clean about the actual reason I chucked his cigs away, and kept my petty revenge secret.

Do I need to chill out about this? Or would you be annoyed at this constant snack thievery?

OP posts:
GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 01/03/2022 10:04

literally steals the veg off the side as I'm preparing it

Aside from the dangerousness of putting hands where you’re chopping with a knife, it disproportionately drives me mad when people do this! Like the veg is disappearing quicker that you can chop it, meaning you’re getting nowhere. I tend to chop some extra to be eaten cold and put on the table to avoid this, but they do have to wait til it’s done to start chomping…

Enko · 01/03/2022 10:25

DP: "I was feeling snacky" halo

Situation: Repeats forever

Op what would happen if you said. From today I want you to never eat the last 3 biscuits. You need to leave 3 biscuits in the packet and check with me before you finish them. You feeling snakcy is NOT an excuse to eat the last 3 biscuits.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 01/03/2022 12:05

Also “snacky” is a rage inducing word, right up there with “picky bits”. So for that alone, someone who declares themselves “feeling snacky” is unreasonable.

ChocolateMassacre · 01/03/2022 12:25

Also “snacky” is a rage inducing word, right up there with “picky bits”. So for that alone, someone who declares themselves “feeling snacky” is unreasonable.

The correct response to someone saying they're feeling a bit 'snacky' is that you're feeling a bit 'stabby' imo.

Lagarthatheviking · 01/03/2022 12:31

Food like this is addictive… it triggers sensors in certain peoples brains…

YABU …. hide it if you don’t want to share!

Arabellla · 01/03/2022 12:51

@ChocolateMassacre

Also “snacky” is a rage inducing word, right up there with “picky bits”. So for that alone, someone who declares themselves “feeling snacky” is unreasonable.

The correct response to someone saying they're feeling a bit 'snacky' is that you're feeling a bit 'stabby' imo.

Because ‘stabby’ is just as annoying?
Neurodiversitydoctor · 01/03/2022 12:56

To be honest it sounds like he eats a hell of a lot of junk.

This does he have no respect for his body ? I couldn't live with someone who ate a whole packet of biscuits.

ChocolateMassacre · 01/03/2022 13:15

Because ‘stabby’ is just as annoying?

Absolutely Smile.

Arabellla · 01/03/2022 13:18
Smile
Momicrone · 01/03/2022 13:46

Biscuits are massively over-rated, just don't have them in the house, it sounds like everyone is addicted

Arabellla · 01/03/2022 13:51

The award for the most pointless post goes to the above.

Momicrone · 01/03/2022 14:17

Eh arabella? Isn't that the whole thread?

MeSanniesareBrannies · 01/03/2022 14:25

@Momicrone You’ve read this thread and you think it’s about biscuits and their merits? You think just not having them in the house will solve the problem of her husband eating everything (not just biscuits), stealing his child’s treats and disrespecting other people’s possessions?

Because that’s the whole thread.

LuckySantangelo35 · 01/03/2022 14:47

@Momicrone
Eh wtf you on about?! Everyone addicted to biscuits 🤣

ChocolateMassacre · 01/03/2022 15:01

@Momicrone

Eh arabella? Isn't that the whole thread?
Surely the problem is that the OP, who wants to eat biscuits, can't. Because the resident giant rat is scoffing them all. Not buying biscuits still leaves a biscuitless OP.
WomanStanleyWoman · 01/03/2022 15:11

Dear Momicrone,

No one gives a flying fuck what you think about biscuits.

Love and kisses
WomanStanleyWoman xxx

Momicrone · 01/03/2022 15:26

Biscuits are bad for you

Momicrone · 01/03/2022 15:30

Womanstanley, do you speak for all people? Sorry if I offended with my anti biscuit stance ! If I complained that my dh was stealing all my wine or fags, people would tell me to give them up. Biscuits, it seems are an acceptable addiction.

MeSanniesareBrannies · 01/03/2022 15:33

@Momicrone

Biscuits are bad for you
I don’t like biscuits at all. However, as I have just explained in some detail, that has zero relevance to this thread.

Or are you just trolling? In which case, carry on.

LottyD32 · 01/03/2022 15:51

@Momicrone

Biscuits are bad for you
Not if you only eat one or two occasionally...
LuckySantangelo35 · 01/03/2022 16:06

@Momicrone

Womanstanley, do you speak for all people? Sorry if I offended with my anti biscuit stance ! If I complained that my dh was stealing all my wine or fags, people would tell me to give them up. Biscuits, it seems are an acceptable addiction.
@Momicrone Actually if your DH was stealing all your wine and fags I’d be just as infuriated on your behalf as I would be if he was stealing your biscuits. Lots of things in life are bad for us but part of being an adult is that we can make a choice to have them anyway. It would be up to your DH to force you into giving them up by stealing them.
LuckySantangelo35 · 01/03/2022 16:06

@Momicrone *it wouldn’t be up to your DH

BonnesVacances · 01/03/2022 16:38

How can this be an eating disorder when the OP states he shows the same entitlement towards other people's belongings that aren't food? He's just an entitled fucker with no respect for others. He sounds awful tbh!

SunshineCake1 · 01/03/2022 17:45

@EwwSprouts

My people!

Dh will ask me to buy a snack he likes such as chocolate raisins or hot cross buns, neither of which I like. I'll also buy a bar of chocolate which I do like. Guess which he will go for first? So he has snacks left and I have none. Grrr.

So do something about it.
WorraLiberty · 01/03/2022 18:26

@Momicrone

Womanstanley, do you speak for all people? Sorry if I offended with my anti biscuit stance ! If I complained that my dh was stealing all my wine or fags, people would tell me to give them up. Biscuits, it seems are an acceptable addiction.
Don't be ridiculous.

Why would anyone tell you to give up wine or biscuits when neither of those things are bad for you in moderation?

And where did you get the idea the OP is addicted to biscuits?