To be totally terrified ***edited by MNHQ to make clear this relates to the invasion of Ukraine***

Hadenoughofthisbullshit · 28/02/2022 07:34

Deep breaths in, long breaths out pause for a sec before you breathe in. Keep doing that until you feel calmer.

It’s not going to happen.

BertieQueen · 28/02/2022 07:34

Honestly I’m the same.

All I can suggest is step away from all media. That’s what I shall be doing from today, I’m not going to keep checking the news or anything.

DoctorSnortles · 28/02/2022 07:39

I am the same. I am a bloody mess.

kitcat15 · 28/02/2022 07:42

Go about your day normally....don't look at any SM ......it will still play on your mind ....butvyou hopefully won't be consumed by it all

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Petrolblues · 28/02/2022 07:43

I just keep thinking what’s the point in doing the day to days things? My DP has gone to work, I tried to stop him going but of course he didn’t. I want us to all be together if something happens. I’m considering keeping my 3 year old from nursery this week in case.
My parents live the other side of the country so I can’t be with them either

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PinchOfVom · 28/02/2022 07:44

FGS nobody will be getting nuked. Please try not to worry so much. It’s brinksmanship.

If you look at older people - you’ll see that there is not much panic there. Why? They’ve lived through worse and more prolonged fear of the bomb going off. It didn’t happen then and it won’t happen now.

Putin needs two other authorisations - this won’t happen.

NATO won’t get involved and he knows this - he just wants Ukraine back. NATO won’t do anything to risk a nuclear attack.

Sophiebrown85 · 28/02/2022 07:48

@Petrolblues

I can’t sleep, I can’t eat. I keep looking at my 3 year old and crying.

I’m terrified of a nuclear attack.

It’s always been a fear of mine, even more so now that I have a child.
I feel sick. I just read an article which basically says Putin may well press the button as he’s never backed down on threats before and now I’m shaking.

Please help calm me down. I have ASD and ADHD. I had a full scale panic attack yesterday. I hate the not knowing and I feel like I can’t protect my son
I can’t quite believe we’ve had a global pandemic and now this.
I feel like I may be locked up soon, I’m losing it.

Hi,

Sorry you are going through this and I cant lie and say it is playing on my mind too. But I highly doubt we will be nuked by Moscow, because as nuts as he is, Putin loves himself and if dares nukes London or Paris, he knows of mutually assured destruction purely for self preservation even if he doesnt care about innocent Russians. I think whatever will happen will remain in Ukraine (as sad as that is for innocent civilians) and apart from energy and fuel prices, I do not think we will see its effect directly in Britain. That being said however,it is still a tragedy on both sides and my heart aches for both Ukrainian and Russian families mourning their loved ones deaths for a mindless political war.

TerraNovaTwo · 28/02/2022 07:48

I'm not sure why ASD and ADHD should be mentioned as some sort of justification for your reaction? Plenty of neurological people are feeling just as distraught.

EezyOozy · 28/02/2022 07:49

My husband is a bit like you atm Op, he's calling the GP this morning. His anxiety is out of control and he has lost control. I hope he gets something short term to help him sleep at least. We have two small kids and I'm low level worried , but managing to go about normal life.

-we are not going to get Nuked
-even if we were, there's nothing we would do about it.

People live through stressful shit all the time, we just need to carry on.

TerraNovaTwo · 28/02/2022 07:49

neurotypical

Yellowsubhubabubbub · 28/02/2022 07:49

With love and care, truly: get off this platform - it’s making everyone so ill!
I’m sure there will be an agreement soon and it will be over.

Worry about the heating bills going up because of it. That’s a real worry !

Go and read a lovely book, watch a nice film. Drink some hot chocolate

chipshopElvis · 28/02/2022 07:49

OP I'm really worried about this too. My DH has a masters in International Relations, he isn't worried. He thinks Putin is a dangerous man, but that this won't happen. You do need to step away from the news and social media in order to be able to look after your child properly today. I know how hard it is, I'm obsessively seeking information too big there is nothing at all that you can to to change things so stop looking and go out and do something else.

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Petrolblues · 28/02/2022 07:50

Thanks for your replies. I’ve just read a breaking news story that the UK has imposed more sanctions. I know this is selfish but I wish they’d stop. It’s like poking a tiger and making him more and more angry.

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Totalwasteofpaper · 28/02/2022 07:50

Calm down.

Russians love London way too much. No way there are bombing us.

Notanotherusernamenow · 28/02/2022 07:52

There is nothing you can do about it. It is out of your control. But you could also be hit by a bus tomorrow. You can only live your life now.

Another way of looking at it is: would you want your three year okd’s hypothetical last days to be filled with an anxious and unhappy mother being strange and unsettling in her behaviour, or would you make sure she has the most fun ever? Do the things you wouldn’t normally - go on a day trip, eat ice cream in the park in February.

We can always be taken away from our lives in the blink of an eye. A friend of mine was killed in a crevasse in A glacier at 23. It’s my main motivation for seizing the day and making sure I do something I love or value every single day. Do the same. And then what you might find is that at first you’ll be distracted from the news and then you might actually start finding happiness and joy in the daily acts of fun you are giving your 3 yro

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Petrolblues · 28/02/2022 07:53

@TerraNovaTwo that’s a good point. I guess I mentioned it as I struggle to think logically at times and I also get hyper-fixated on topics due to my ADHD.

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Bagelsandbrie · 28/02/2022 07:54

If you think like this there is no point in doing anything as long term we’re all going to die at some point - whether it’s old age or illness or whatever else! I’m saying that kindly because I have terrible anxiety myself but oddly enough my Mum dying in 2019 made me realise worrying about what might happen is all quite pointless as is life itself really, so you have to try and live in the moment. None of us know what is going to happen next.

I highly doubt there’s going to be a nuclear bomb.

freckles999 · 28/02/2022 07:56

Please try not to get too stressed.

Growing up the 'end of the world' was something that kept me awake every night - I use to totally panic over it. Watching the news when it all kicked off I had a panic attack... after that I removed myself from Twitter/TikTok and any news outlet ... However my son updated me yesterday about the nuke situation and surprisingly I didn't freak out because I KNOW there is fuck all I can do about it. Why worry about shit that is not in my control? I will enjoy my day today, just like I do everyday. I will stay away from the news and be happy to be alive... in this moment ;-)

thehistorymum · 28/02/2022 07:59

@Petrolblues

Thanks for your replies. I’ve just read a breaking news story that the UK has imposed more sanctions. I know this is selfish but I wish they’d stop. It’s like poking a tiger and making him more and more angry.

With respect, I’m sure the Ukrainians who are actually in a war zone don’t agree with you.

PP are right - come off social media, please take your little one to nursery and ring your GP. It’s a scary time but we’ll get through this and come out the other side.

Roussette · 28/02/2022 08:00

If you look at older people - you’ll see that there is not much panic there. Why? They’ve lived through worse and more prolonged fear of the bomb going off. It didn’t happen then and it won’t happen now

^^ This.

I've lived through Suez crisis, Irish troubles, Falklands, Gulf war, Bosnian war, Kosovo, Iraq, Afhanistan and one thing I know is... being totally terrified will just affect YOU and your family and you have to accept what is happening.

I’ve just read a breaking news story that the UK has imposed more sanctions. I know this is selfish but I wish they’d stop. It’s like poking a tiger and making him more and more angry.

Please, life will be a LOT worse if Europe and Ukraine just rolls over and let's Russia move westwards taking major cities and countries.

It's very very short sighted to just give up, surely you realise that.

Just step away from the News, if you need to get informed just stick to Newsround which is saying what is going on in softer terms.

gettingolderandgrumpy · 28/02/2022 08:02

Let’s get some perspective we aren’t going to get bombed . Even if say putin decided he was going to bomb England today I’m not sure why but let’s just say he will . You not sleeping / eating worrying how is that going to help it isn’t . Get off social media stop reading these hysterical threads from people that were hysterical about covid a few weeks ago and in a few weeks it will be something else . Go and get on with your life and put things in perspective and be grateful you aren’t in the Ukraine .

bert3400 · 28/02/2022 08:07

Stop reading/watching the news. Concentrate on normal daily life and please do not take your son out of nursery. Your son will pick up on your anxiety and that will be damaging him more than a threat of nuclear attack which will never happen. Have you tried meditation or a calming app ?

BakerMan · 28/02/2022 08:07

I think I read that article too op. I was expecting to get a bit of reassurance from it but there was none at all.

I'm scared but will not be stopping living. My dc will go to school, I will go to work.
I would send you dc to nursery to give them normality.

bert3400 · 28/02/2022 08:08

*Do take your son to nursery

cushioncovers · 28/02/2022 08:09

It's posturing from Putin try not to worry op.