Work trip vrs slightly ill dh

[Lochnessgiraffe]

I've got a work trip today. Staying overnight and coming back late tomorrow night. Dh is now moaning that he doesn't feel well and hinting that I should cancel.
I wfh, have only been their at work a few months and this is my first time to meet people from the office. I'm quite excited tbh.
Now dh is complaining about feeling unwell not covid just unwell and would prefer me to cancel.
We have teenagers who will be fine. They'll stay asleep until lunch then probably game all day. Might notice I'm not there.
So aibu to still go or should I stay home?

Why are you even entertaining his bs?
If you are working, you are working and not available to do home stuff. So on your working day why are you trying to do stuff during the day?
Why is it all about what he thinks. What do you think??

Please please DO NOT CANCEL YOUR WORK TRIP
This is important for you. You can’t cancel for someone who is moaning he is aching but isn’t actually ill.

He is undermining you and your work. Thinks it’s ok to tell you how to do your job (less meetings) so you can do more housework fgs!

I mean has he EVER cancelled a work trio because you were slightly ill? I doubt so.
So why should you??

The whole of mumsnet is behind you, urging you on to get to your work event! I've never seen 100% unanimous YANBU with that many votes, please update us on your progress! A win for you is a win for all womenkind

Ask his mum to babysit him.

Seriously though, go.

@Lochnessgiraffe

Well he's taken himself off to bed. I'm planning on still getting the train later. I've prepared dinner he can heat up.

You’ve done more than i would have.

I hope you are taking heart in the 100% of people telling you to go.
Don’t let him weaken your strength.

GO GO GO!

tell him if he wants to be ill while you are away then he can crack on.

@Lochnessgiraffe

He thinks I prioritise work over home. Believes I have too many meetings so I can't do home things during work hours. Also I earn half of what he does. I'll see how he is at lunch time but I really don't want to cancel and let people down

What!! You shouldn’t actually be doing any home things during work time, you are being paid to work.

You can’t cancel a work trip because your DH is ill, that would be ridiculous! If he was hospitalised maybe, but not just feeling unwell. He doesn’t even have young kids to look after. Tell him to stop being daft and go on your work trip.

You need to go and he needs to man up. The teenagers will be fine.

Pathetic. I'd struggle to respect someone who even asked me to stay in that scenario.

I love that this vote is unanimous. No shit is to be taken from manflu-wielding malingerers. He is perfectly capable of struggling through a day of feeling under the weather without a nursemaid on hand. The teenagers can soothe his fevered brow/fetch him a paracetamol/call an ambulance if he loses consciousness as required.

you need to go.
network, time for yourself.

dh and I enjoy (short) work trips. whoever stays home cooks or orders food the other usually doesn't like. the other gets a night off the mental load. plus hotel steamroom & cooked breakfast.

Glad you’re going.

I wouldn’t have prepared him dinner. He doesn’t sound that ill. Go OP and enjoy yourself

He sounds pathetic, OP.

I went on an overnight work trip when my baby was only 7 months old.

Go go go, he feels unwell not he’s very ill, the teenagers can bring him a cup of tea. Also, if your work involves meetings during the day then why do you apologise for attending them instead of loading the dishwasher? You’re paid to work not to do your own housework.

I am shocked at your DH behaviour...its very controlling and his little illness appearing when you need to go away with work is just plain shitty. Also I note he expects you to do housework when your WFH. I would be telling him to FO....he seems to have more spare time tell him to get off of youtube and do it. Personally going forward I would suggest you get out the house and set your self up in a local cafe/restaurant with a headset for those meetings you can be off screen.

Seriously op while you are away think about this and have a serious conversation when you are back.
Have you previously been a sahm. His attitude is bizarre. You are at work it’s not optional.
Imagine situation reversed. Would he have made meal before work?

Make sure he can easily get to the slippers of despair and the dressing gown of doom. Though he won't have an audience to moan and groan to as teenagers probably won't take any notice

Enjoy your work trip!

Why does he need you to look after him? Unless he’s hospital ill surely he can manage himself.

I couldn’t find a man who behaves like this remotely attractive even if he looked like Keanu Reeves.

This is just pathetic and I would be telling him to fuck right off. Literally every time in my adult life I've been ill hasn't required any other adult in my household to do anything to look after me.

Has he phoned in sick for himself since he's gone off to bed or have you had to ring in sick for him too what with him being a massive child.

@Lochnessgiraffe

Well he's taken himself off to bed. I'm planning on still getting the train later. I've prepared dinner he can heat up.

I’m guessing this means you were meant to have already left..

Oh another one who claims to support your job, likes the fact that you bring money in but hates that this means that he doesnt have his personal housemaid anymore.

Forget telling him where the paracetamol are, tell him to grow the fuck up.

I think he just wants to moan. Not for me to do anything.
Work wise I think my job is important it's only £60k but I work hard for the money.
I'd love to earn what he does and have so little to do!