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Would you leave your kids poop at someone else's house?

114 replies

cheesytoast666 · 21/02/2022 00:46

AIBU to think it's ill mannered to leave your child's dirty/poo nappy in someone's house or bin?

I just had a event in my home with a few families and someone threw their child's nappy full of poo in my bedroom bin without it being in a nappy bag and I felt abit annoyed by it. The nappy was folded but still.

Personally, I wouldn't throw my child's poop nappy in someone's bedroom especially withou a nappy bag and in a bin that has no lid. If I had to get rid of it I would put it in a nappy bag and either take it with me or throw it in a kitchen bin or something with a lid.

Do you guys think I'm being unreasonable here?

OP posts:
HiJenny35 · 21/02/2022 00:50

Well personally I'd put it in a nappy bag and take it with me but it's hardly a big deal, wouldn't really think twice I'd just throw it out and I certainly wouldn't be bothered enough to write a post about it.

Blossom987 · 21/02/2022 00:59

I wouldn’t take it with me but I would ask if I could put it in their outside bin. I always use a nappy bag for poop and into the outside bin in my own home so I wouldn’t leave it in an indoor bin in someone else’s home.

If they said I couldn’t use their outdoor bin I would think they were being ridiculous.

ScruffGin · 21/02/2022 01:00

YANBU, I'd take it to the outside bin at a friend's house (and in my own house!)

GeraneousGiraffe · 21/02/2022 01:00

I'd put it in a kitchen (if full and nearly ready to go out) or outdoor bin but no, I wouldn't be traipsing home with a handbag full of poo. .

Hugasauras · 21/02/2022 01:00

Several things:

Gross to have a pooey nappy not in a bag in a household bin.
Weird to take a shitty nappy home with you.
I just stuck them bagged in outside bin.

ExhaustedMumma · 21/02/2022 01:01

I don’t think you’re being unreasonable, it is a bit grim although it’s not really something to get worked up about. Personally I carry nappy bags for this scenario and would ask my host what I should do what the bagged nappy. Usually popping it outside until bins are being emptied

Chocolattay · 21/02/2022 01:08

I wouldn’t mind so much appropriately wrapped and put in the bathroom bin. But unwrapped and in your bedroom? That’s grim. Some nappies can absolutely stink a room out.

TellOrNot1981 · 21/02/2022 01:09

Back when mine were little I’d ask where the outside bin was so I could put the nappy in there, but quite often people would say oh it’s fine, put it in the kitchen one, I need to take it out anyway or something along those lines.

Also, for those who would just automatically throw a single bagged nappy in an outside bin without checking, this could be tricky in some areas. I lived in Brighton for a short while and I don’t know if it’s the same, but rubbish HAD to be in black bags inside the bin. If there was just one thing visible not inside a black sack, the bin men would refuse to empty the bin. So probably always worth asking in case there’s some weird bin rules like that going on.

greenteafiend · 21/02/2022 01:15

This is why people need to flush poo and have proper sealed bags for nappies inside the nappy bag. I used cloth, so would have flushed the poo, then put the bag into the a sealed bag and then into the nappy bag.

If I had used disposables and had not had a sealed bag with me, I would have flushed the poo and then asked my friend what to do with the mucky disposable--most likely she would suggest the outside bin.

tympanic · 21/02/2022 01:23

I wouldn’t be upset. Nappies are gross but unavoidable, and knowing how exhausted I was with my baby I’d never judge another mum who might be struggling just to get through. You never know. I cringe looking back at some of the things I did early on, completely oblivious at the time as I was so knackered.

It’s a once off. Just chuck it in the outside bin and forget about it.

BitterTits · 21/02/2022 01:25

The question on your title is different. Of course a kid or anyone else can poo at my house. I would expect a nappy to be put in a bag and then in the outside bin though.

Wilburisagirl · 21/02/2022 01:27

If it's in a bag and in a bin with a lid or the outdoor bin, I would have no problem with it, but from what you described, they've been really gross and inconsiderate. It will have stunk up your room and now you have to presumably touch the nappy to move it. I wouldn't be impressed.

AlwaysLatte · 21/02/2022 01:27

That's grim. I never put nappies in indoor bins in my own house, never mind any one else's.

DeoForty · 21/02/2022 01:31

No, it's not nice. As poster above says, I never put pooey nappies in my own indoor bins, and everyone knows your own kid's crap smells a lot better than little Timmy's. Take it out, or take it home.

Bunnycat101 · 21/02/2022 01:33

Like another poster, we’re not allowed rubbish in our outside bin unless it is in black sacks so would never just dump a nappy in an outside bin. I’ve generally asked what the host would prefer me to do or taken home.

Labracadabradoodle · 21/02/2022 01:35

It's not great, but I'd let it go.
There's worse things to stress about.

Giraffesandbottoms · 21/02/2022 05:55

I would put it in a nappy bag and ask, assuming my friend would be fine with that. If my friend wasn’t fine with a bagged up nappy I would think they were a bit of a twat and I wouldn’t go round again until I didn’t need to carry a poo bag home with me 😆 I always let people use our bin for nappies but I also provide nappy bags

BOOTS52 · 21/02/2022 06:21

I would expect them to have a nappy bag and to put it in that and then take it down and ask which bin should they put it in or if not I would just leave the bag outside and take it with me. Would never put a nappy in someone's bin and just leave it like that. Eeeeww It would stink the room out for starters.

Xmassprout · 21/02/2022 06:24

I would ask the host where they would prefer the nappy go. I certainly wouldn't think the bedroom would be the best place to leave it

phishy · 21/02/2022 06:31

Whenever people have visited/stayed they have bagged up dirty nappy, either pee or poo, and taken it out to the black bin outside. I’ve neverhad to ask.

YANBU, what they did was disgusting.

GrendelsGrandma · 21/02/2022 06:31

I wouldn't be pleased to find it but I wouldn't be so up in arms that I'd consult mumsnet about my outrage!

I'd put poo in the loo where possible and ask the host where they'd like me to put the nappy. I never used nappy bags, what's the point in wrapping plastic that's sealed up with the tabs in more plastic? It's still a plastic wrapped turd, whichever way you look at it.

If it was an event with a few families, they might not have wanted to bother you or couldn't find you at that moment or whatever. It's not the biggest deal in the world.

Libra84 · 21/02/2022 07:07

I always had nappy sacks with me when out and would always ask which bin they prefer me to use (inside or outside)

babyjellyfish · 21/02/2022 07:10

I would put it in a nappy bag and ask the host whether I minded them putting it in their bin.

babyjellyfish · 21/02/2022 07:11

*whether they minded me, I mean

Crimesean · 21/02/2022 07:17

Ugh, they left a shitty nappy in a bedroom bin? That's disgusting, I bet it stank the room out.

I've always put DS's soiled nappies in a bag in the outdoor bin, but have asked my hosts if that would be OK if I've been at someone's house. That's what everyone I know does at my house too.